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    Being Scarce?

    I am now in a relationship. And I'm thinking about the whole scarcity thing. I know I have to calibrate. But, in general, what should it be? Seeing each other every 3 days TOPS? 2 days a week or w/e? Calling every 2 days? Messaging her just a bit every morning and night so you're the first and last thing on her mind?



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    Don't stress this stuff so much. The girl likes you, you're in a relationship turn the game off and start doing what YOU feel like doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sinn View Post
    Don't stress this stuff so much. The girl likes you, you're in a relationship turn the game off and start doing what YOU feel like doing.

    S

    Calling her every day would be ok? Wouldn't that make her lose attraction?

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    I would hope she'd be doing some of the calling, but talking on the phone daily with somebody you're in a monogamous relationship with is pretty normal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vapor View Post
    I would hope she'd be doing some of the calling, but talking on the phone daily with somebody you're in a monogamous relationship with is pretty normal.
    Yeah. She does the calling. Like 2 out of 3. Regarding the number of times seeing her a week?

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    I just saw her yesterday. It was good. The reason I'm asking about calling and seeing her and what not is because David D says don't call her or whatever right after. Give her time to miss you. Give her the gift of missing you. Would this still be effective in relationships.

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    Call her when you have something interesting to say, whether it's something that happened to you that day, a new joke you heard, or whatever. I talked to my ex-bf practically every day (skip a day or two here and there), but we never ran out of things to talk about.

    What you shouldn't do is call her for the sake of calling and expect her to entertain you. Cuz then your convo goes like this:

    "Hi. How are you?"
    "Good how are you?"
    "Good, what u up to?"
    "Not much, what you doing?"
    "Working...so...what's up?"

    ^AVOID THAT AT ALL COSTS.

    Other than that, just relax and have fun like others said.

    Rogue

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheRogue View Post
    Call her when you have something interesting to say, whether it's something that happened to you that day, a new joke you heard, or whatever. I talked to my ex-bf practically every day (skip a day or two here and there), but we never ran out of things to talk about.

    What you shouldn't do is call her for the sake of calling and expect her to entertain you. Cuz then your convo goes like this:

    "Hi. How are you?"
    "Good how are you?"
    "Good, what u up to?"
    "Not much, what you doing?"
    "Working...so...what's up?"

    ^AVOID THAT AT ALL COSTS.

    Other than that, just relax and have fun like others said.

    Rogue
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