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okay I been sarging this chick for a ...
What is she trying to achieve here?
okay I been sarging this chick for a while and it seems to be all there, good connection, good kino (she's in my class but we've gone to eat a few time and hung out once, with her other two friends whom I also know)...and then NOP, I haven't been able to kiss close (I haven't tried, but i haven't even gotten a good opportunity - any suggestions?)
but the point of this post is that she is always mentioning other guys, usually in conversation with her friend, when i'm there, and I usually say nothing cause I precieve this as a shit test...THEN she also says oh well I can't do anything. or something like, oh i'm a good girl my bf lives in England (this 32 year old drummer of a POS band she's obsessed with) she will literally mention this guy like 10+ times in conversation with her friend, and sometimes me...THEN once I'm just like "aaaa okay" and she's like..."i'm just kidding" then she said some shit about them getting married again...and then she goes "i'm just kidding" again...so I'm like (thinking) okay then STFU about him, your annoying the fuck out of me...etc...
Then one time I was like...(she's 18, i'm 21) you need a little 16 year old, u can't handle older guys...then she's like no, I like guys 20 and over but under 23...blah blah...
then one more thing with is similar she has said a few time is "i'm done with guy, i'm a lesbien now" then usually I make some comment or don't say anything but I forget what it was I said, nothing to great...
but is she trying to make me jealous, or trying to drop a hint that she's not interested in me (even tho she flirts with me and shit, ie. stealing my phone, throwing shit at me, pushing me, saying i'm lame...etc...)
hmmmm....ignore her completely for a while, see if she begs to hang out with you. If she does, she's into you. And then, the next time she mentions some other guy, kiss her IMMEDIATELY. When your done say, " i thought i'd never get you to shut up!"
Dude. Seriously. She's gaming you.
Do you not see her doing all the things to you that you should be doing to her?
I don't think I should even have to list them.
lol...good point, she is gaming me...so what should I do? Ignore her and hope she comes after me...?
Yeah she is playing with you big time!! LOL She is trying to get a rise out of you!
You know what to do... use your head! (And I mean the one on your shoulders)
Ignore her... turn the tables, if she calls let a few phone calls slide and don't call her back.
Go serge other chicks... and if you can be in a situation with other chicks and you're entertaining them while she is around then GOLD! use that to your advantage!
Push-Pull.... that's what she is doing.
Originally Posted by eFlow
IT's sooo by the book, i wouldn't be surprised if she read one of these chick-self-help books. Really.
I'd say do GAU (Game As Usual) and see what happens. Try to escalate kino and see how she responds to that.
The ghost of pua's past.
I'm going to be fairly harsh with you here eFlow...you post a lot about lots of different girls that you're "gaming", but you never seem to have a report of any kiss-closes, or anything like that.
You also seem to be posting essentially the same questions again and again. This leads me to think that you aren't learning anything when we do answer the questions.
Next time you're around her and she mentions this other guy (which sounds like she most certianly will). Just throw her a "you know, i have been thinking a lot, since you're my friend and all... you guys sound great for eachother"
THEN make sure you end your conversation/meeting right then and there, leave her with that and that only, then avoid her for a while...
Like Pachino said in Scarface... "Issssss okay... she be back"
There are two types of women; women who are sluts and women who can fly.
Hate to say it, but I'm with Iceboy on this one... You need to internalize what MM teaches more and you will be able to pick out the issues you are having easier... maybe write down on paper a problem you are having, as if you are about to post it, then read through it and pick out what you think are the problems, then think about what to do to fix them or what you would do differently next time... Having said that... don't cook your noodle over it... if you over think it, then it's best just to drop it altogether.
FYBPM... great call on the "You guys sound great for each other!!"
ur right bro...I talk to a lot of chicks but I rarely get a kiss close (let alone an f-close) I guess that is my sticking point...I seem to get on the "friends" ladder a lot of the time, or I stay on the backburner of my various prospects cause they know I'll always be around...so I need to change that, but i'm not sure exactly how...
Originally Posted by IcemanPUA