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    Big City Life? How do I get involved in social life?

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    Im going for college to a Big City where I know noone. Should I make some internet connection with people there (IDK myspace, or chatting or smthing like that), should I jst go there and enter a sport team so I make connections?
    Or do I jst go there and pretend being nr.1 in university without even knowing anybody/

    And an offtopic, anyone on HotOrNot? I dont understand them. U got a lot of 2s 3s 4s 5s 6s 7s 8s 9s and 10s and u get a 9.6 rating? How the hell do they measure the rating?


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    You are going to college. During the first week they have a ton of freshman orientation program to get you friends. Don't use the internet just yet and stay off of hot or not. Everyone in your dorm will find it and it sounds like you're frame isn't strong enough to deal with that just yet. Talk to people in real life.

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    Pilates classes, yoga classes, study groups, sports that are not male dominated, gym classes, meetup.com, create your own social group - personal example is put posts for friday night movie group up and see who goes or just use that as an invitation to women you meet in class. When people show up you are the main person in the group/ your plan. People just want entertainment so be the person who provides it for them. Be the man with the plan.

    Start the Hitman email list where you always have a plan of what is going on and you shoot a massmail out to everyone on the list, "we are meeting at starbucks at 7pm then heading out to dinner for whoever wants to go". As you meet people tell them you want to put them on the hitman list. evite.com is awesome for this.
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    What city? If it's driving distance, check the area out, get a local entertainment paper (there are usually online versions), get an idea of where the fun places to go are. Campus paper and bulletin boards, too. If it's big enough, the campus might even have a live music venue.

    If you're doing online because it isn't driving distance, I'd go with connecting with people who live around the area, just to get more ideas on where to go on the weekends. You can go into any regional message board or regional chat room for that.

    I think I'd create a new online profile for university to keep it separate from the one you currently have, making the location where the school is.

    By doing this, you've already established a lay of the land and have ideas on what you're going to do on the weekends. Everyone else is just going to be getting adjusted to being away from home.

    You can always take a class for an elective that's guaranteed to have more women than men in the class. But it might be harder than you think and could be the one class to mess with your GPA.

    Usually in the first week, you kind of know who you're going to be hanging with, everyone is usually asking where they're from, what they've heard about the professor, how expensive the books are, and what the hell is there to do around there. Some of them are going to know the city inside and out, some of them aren't. It's always good to know but not be a know it all.

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    LBD gives some good advice, get yourself involved in a lot of "ready made" social groups.

    But also try and build a social circle that is centered around you. That means trying to set up opportunities for your vollyball friends to meet your school friends, or your kickboxing friends to meet pilates people.

    The best and simplest way to do that, IMO, is to try and find something cool you can introduce people to... it might just be a good jazz band that plays at a local bar every wednsday, but you can start inviting a diverse groups of people out to that event, introduce people to one another, and next thing you know, you're the guy people want to know.


    The good thing is, there are a lot of "hidden gems" in big cities, and the process of looking for them is interesting. So go out into your city, and try and find something that a lot of locals won't have experienced. You'll learn a lot in the process.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LittlbigD View Post
    Pilates classes, yoga classes, study groups, sports that are not male dominated, gym classes, meetup.com, create your own social group - personal example is put posts for friday night movie group up and see who goes or just use that as an invitation to women you meet in class. When people show up you are the main person in the group/ your plan. People just want entertainment so be the person who provides it for them. Be the man with the plan.

    Start the Hitman email list where you always have a plan of what is going on and you shoot a massmail out to everyone on the list, "we are meeting at starbucks at 7pm then heading out to dinner for whoever wants to go". As you meet people tell them you want to put them on the hitman list. evite.com is awesome for this.
    Ok good points...
    1st of all I dont know sh*t about the big city im heading to (Ive been there only once 2 years ago for a couple of weeks), so mainly I know only a couple of places (Shopping malls, Starbucks, DownTown, a couple of restaurants)

    2nd sorry for the point but isnt it expensive to go out to a restaurant to eat :P

    3rd I know the "we are meeting at starbucks at 7pm then heading out to dinner for whoever wants to go" But heck if I jst know people from 1 week how am I supposed to be so connected with them? Am I not going to look like a needy nerd. And u really think people are that not-busy to come

    Finally should I use profile sites and which one (I currently have an account at Hi5 but dont know much of others)

    And noone told me anythig about HotorNot how do they get the raiting? Its like in the film Big-Daddy. When the lil boy says: "I got a 2 a 4 a 6 a 8 and a J... I win" lol
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    my freshman year at college I had met someone in one of my classes who lived on campus. (I at the time didnt). So I would always chill in his dorm. One night I decided to play a little game. The dorm he was in was for freshies only and was co-ed. Every other floor was girls.

    He lived on the first floor. I convinced him to come up to the second floor with me. We went around just knocking on doors and making friends. You know how they have those dry-erase boards ? Sometimes people left all kinds of inside jokes or status messages so we played off those. We met a lot of people that way.
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    Are you a freshman?

    Either way, the first few days are important. Just get to know people and make your face known

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    You don't have to be over 21 to go to most happy hours, and you usually get half price on food. Some places have free grub as long as you're buying drinks. Even over 21s go there not drinking alcohol and there for the food, sometimes it's free. They might ID you but it doesn't hurt to check it out.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hitman47 View Post
    Ok good points...

    2nd sorry for the point but isnt it expensive to go out to a restaurant to eat :P

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