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I've lived my entire life trying to fit into the molds ...
Its time to live.
I've lived my entire life trying to fit into the molds that other
people have put forth for me. my brother, my mother, my father and
my peers. To conform and be nothing special is to avoid confrontation.
Well i am through with it. From this day forth i will NEVER hide who
i am just to avoid conflict. Anime, Science, martial arts, animals,
smoking weed, getting drunk, and drawing are the coolest things i know.
I'm not interested in the latest X7Gt0089zz-1001 series Twin turbo engine, im
sorry but im not. Am i a different then your average bear?
you bet your ass i am. Before this moment i saw it as my greatest weakness
but now i see it as my greatest strength.
I have alot of searching to do. im 20 years old and do not yet know
who i am. All i know is the world is waiting for me and that i've
let it wait long enough. There are people to be met, skills to be
learned, laughs to be had, tears to be wiped, moments to be shared, and women to be penetrated.
It will be hard, there will be times when hiding in my protective shell of
mediocraty will seem very inviting. There will be hardships to endure and
plenty of the thing i hate most, confrontation. To climb this mountain will
indeed be the most challenging task that i have ever encountered in my short life
but i am confident that i will suceed. I will never say die, i have seen the rewards
that await any who dare to go the distance.
my name is Josh, im not perfect but neither are you. Take me for who i am or get the
fuck out of my way.
Loved the post, I hope that you attain your goals my friend. Don't give up.
nice post, I have for about 1 year now focused on not apologizing for who I am, and more importantly doing what I want to do(still working o that part lol).
It takes a man to do what you are attempting to do. I would like to say I am but i'm not there yet. Do the damn thing, get it done!
Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day.It's not going to happen over night, you will hide in some situations but try your best. Stand for what you believe, people may not agree with you but they will respect you and if they don't, who cares.
I am 28 and still dont.
Originally Posted by JeeNyusJI
I am 19, and I don't have a fucking idea who I am.
So don't feel bad about that man. You are not the only one.
You are still young guys, and you will probably be ahead of most guys by "figuring out who you are" before youre done w/ school.
There are probably some people that go their entire lives without addressing the question of figuring out who they really are. I think that's something you have to figure out before you really start "living".
Ive come so far in terms of self-image in this past year. Only recently did i even consider myself to be "a man".
One thing i realized is that the idea isnt to learn all these tips and tricks to AVOID those awkward moments but to use these tips and tricks to FORCE yourself to facing them. After you do that, they will no longer effect you. this was a HUGE breakthrough for me.
Hey Josh, Glad you are asking these questions for yourself. It's wise to have some direction for your life. Consider though that when you were a child you knew nothing and some people cared for you and taught you many things along the way. We as adults like to think we will soon arive at the time when we become independent of others. But that never happens. At times you may find you need some folks to help you out.
Originally Posted by JeeNyusJI
You said you do some stuff that interests you and you have some issues with confrontation and mediocrity. If you want to be successful in interpersonal relationships you will have to learn to be a person that offers value to other peoples lives. It's about giving of yourself. That is, the valuable parts of who you are. Maybe you can take some people for who they are and bring them along instead of pushing them off to the side.
You may also find that some people in the world think who you are is irelavent to their purpose and futhermore you might find they are imovable in your path. If you truely want to experience the power to move people be of some help or service to them in hardship or anytime for that matter. The fear of confrontation will have never been so far away.
If you want to be successful in interpersonal relationships you will have to learn to be a person that offers value to other peoples lives.
Wow, thanks for that. I think this was the idea i was getting at just i wasn't able to word it. I feel like i dont have any value to bring to other peoples lives. I am finally seeing clearly... and can take action.
My plan is to join 2 or 3 clubs.. do some volunteering.. and thats all i can think of for now. Hopefully this will expand me as a character and help me develop into an interesting person. Suggestions please