Turning an ex-girlfriend into a Fuck-buddy

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    Turning an ex-girlfriend into a Fuck-buddy

    Huge Disclaimer to this: Think about it really hard if you can just use her as a fuck buddy and not have an emotional connection because if you can't do that then you will end up getting hurt much worse.


    First of all you need to get over her and that is truly the hardest thing to do. Before you plan to do this or try to do this I would recommend at least a month of no talking between you after the break up. During this month go out with other girls, improve your life, basically try to became the best PUA you can become this is essential. After this time period I would call her up and see if she is available to do anything get coffee, grab lunch, nothing that would insinuate that you are trying to get back together with her because you aren't...and if you are then you have learned nothing from this entire community. Now if she says she can't do anything fuck it she's not worth it move on to the next girl like you should have been doing already. Now during this meet up, first of all it much be very short and you must walk into it with such undeniable confidence that you haven't missed her for a day and the break up actually benefited you by making you into a better person. (Of course you never say this directly)
    NEVER EVER talk about the relationship EVER or how it was or how you missed her during the time you didn't talk or how you thought about her NOOOO. Honestly the only way you can actually do this is if you sincerely believe that by breaking up it changed your life and made it so much better and you learned so many things and now have so much more confidence. During this "date" ALWAYS smile ALWAYS look at the eyes and ALWAYS have complete control of the conversation. If she ever brings up the relationship do not give your opinion about it do not argue with her just change the subject as quickly as possible. Water under the bridge. Basically during the date run your usual game that is assuming you have some. Tell stories that have huge DHV spikes, etc. Never talk about other girls unless asked because if you voluntarily give that information she will know you are trying to make her jealous and NEVER ask her about other girls you DO NOT care what she has been doing it DOES NOT affect you at all. (If it does affect you do not try to do this). End the conversation early at most an hour because you have other plans that you need to get to. Make sure you leave her wanting more at the end of the conversation.

    The key goal in my mind is to become friends with her again and then make her realize that it would not be awkward at all if you were involved physically as long as there was no emotional attachment.


    Remember this is NOT for the faint of heart and NOT everyone can emotionally take doing this.

    Anyone want to add to this?



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    I guess it depends on how long you were dating for in respect to how long you should leave contact before re-igniting. The ex and I were in a relationship for around a year and we split 5 months ago now. It's still weird when i see her out (we lived together so we were ALWAYS in each others pockets... both enjoyed it though) and the last time i saw her out she mentioned about going to shoot some pool. Whether i could handle fucking her again is a different question. I could do it yeah, and i'm sure it would be great again because we both know what each other likes but i think for us it would be stepping onto a bad foot. With any girls i sarge and that turn into sexual relationships it always reaches a level where they want something more. I've almost started to expect that and so i just let it happen. But if my Ex was to become a fuck buddy and she wanted moire she'd only get hurt again because it's not what i'm after and the least thing i want to do is hurt her again. I still really care about her a lot. She probably doesn't know that but i'll always have a spot for her.
    It also depends how well you break up... Another Ex of mine is a hb9 and she hates me lol. But when i see her out you could cut the sexual tension between us both with a knife. I wouldn't mind tapping that again because that was 2 years ago and i have no feelings for her whatsoever now.
    I can agree that your INNER GAME must be on point to be able to handle it etc.

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    Too add to what LoveCharm said if the breakup went bad it's going to be significantly harder in my opinion to get her again considering your last interactions with her were negative. Thus, that hour you have you must be on top of your game with full confidence. Walk in there with the thought in your mind that she wants you I find this helps with all situations. If you truly have a strong inner game and truly believe that she wants you she will eventually start to enter your frame. All women love sex and this is a girl who has already done it with you so she has been comfortable with you and it's that much easier to regain that comfort. Just remember that you have a short amount of time to really spike the attraction so use it wisely.

    Please feel free to add suggestions on how you would go about having the conversation...

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    In my opinion, this is like playing with fire. Women have a really hard time being a fuck buddy for an extended period of time without getting attached or developing emotional feelings. That's not "game", that's life when dealing with women. It's just the way they are.

    That being said, you as a man can be as comfortable with it as possible, but I'd like to see how long this would last without her questioning wtf is going on for the future.

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    Yet, would you feel that this emotional attachment would still arise if this was a long distance relationship? If you were only her fuck buddy when you were with her which would be for a week every 3-4 months. I mean could this be the definition of a LDFB(Long distance fuck buddy) haha. I mean the true question is how to create one? How to have enough attraction to start that kind of interaction and the gap between seeing each other would erase anything emotionally. Do you think it's plausible to create enough attraction every time you see her to get this kind of relationship and if so how would you go about doing that?

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    I think if it's an intermittent interaction and you don't see each other on a constant basis, it's possible for a certain period of time. I also think their emotions would get the best of them if it was steady enough, even if they agreed to keep their feelings out of it.

    I see what you're saying and it's a pretty interesting point. There are probably girls out there who would go with it, but I think a lot of them might wonder why you're not willing to put more effort or commitment into it (after awhile), and maybe they'd feel used because of it.

    I'll be curious to read other responses too.

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    I think if you had a breakup that didn't go badly but got along. If you can see her with other guys and not think about "what once was" it's fine. If it was a better friendship than relationship. I think a lot of time would have to go by or you'd have to have a pretty solid friendship.

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    Why use en ex as a fuck buddy when u can get like 10 new each day...? If u were in a relationship emotions will rise even faster especially when the sex will be good. I d recomment to just move on because the guy also might end up getting attached. But thats just my opinion

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    I don't know if she was a 10 and good in bed I would say it's worth it, but that's just my opinion.

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    Why would you want to go back to your ex-girlfriend, who obviously you two broke up for a reason, as an FB instead of moving on to other women? Seems too much like being pressed over something when you KNOW you need to be moving on...be a man...move on.
    Women are like shadows: the more you chase them, the faster you run the faster they run away and you will never be able to catch them...but what happens the minute you turn your back on them and walk away?


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