Dealing with compliments without negative compliance

Discuss Dealing with compliments without negative compliance at the General Discussion within the The Attraction Forums. Dating Advice.; Dealing with compliments without negative compliance In comfort, I'm getting some of same compliments... You ...

Results 1 to 8 of 8
  1. #1
    martel martinez is offline Certified Live Training Graduate Lounge Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Gender:
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    23
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Dealing with compliments without negative compliance

    In comfort, I'm getting some of same compliments...
    You are handsome/ well dressed...
    Nice body/ arms/ look fit etc. (for working out)
    Nice car...
    You are a good dancer...
    You are a really great guy...
    I've found it is ok to be cheeky alittle bit at first and go with some C&F "thanks for noticing / glad you like it/ saying that to get me in bed"
    There are lots of girls that once they like you love giving compliments as who they are...and is negative compliance, if I C&F to much.
    I was reading juggler and he says to disqualify, but i'm having a hard time with compliments like this (permanent trates) without coming off reactive or over self depreciating.
    Thoughts??


    Martel

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Gender:
    Location
    Sweden
    Age
    24
    Posts
    81
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    She: You're a great dancer! (whatever)
    You: You're only saying that because it's true.
    She: Probably punches you on your arm (IOI)
    That I would go for.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Gender:
    Location
    Boston
    Posts
    169
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    I can't remember who said it, but I think it was Juggler...the best way to accept a compliment like that is...to just accept it...ie, "Thanks". That's it. You can use/run all the game separately that you want, but just say thanks...don't make it c/f and somehow DLV your target too much, and dont at all be self-deprecating. No reason for that.
    I get similar comments sometimes...well, I suck at dancing for sure, but unless I can DHV w/ it, ie, nice arms...well I workout a lot, and do personal training on the side (true), I'll just let it go. Instead of being c/f you can make a cold read, or use a little story about your clothing, how you bought the shirt...or role play and say..."next time I go shopping I'm gonna take you w/ me, and you'll help me pick out the funkiest shirt ever...uh, I mean, you do have good taste more than just this one time, right??" Something like that, then cut that thread and run off into something like, "You'd probably steal my wallet though, wouldn't you? Are you a thief? Oh! I know, you're just using me because you want me to buy you a new pair of shoes! That's it, forget...we're so broken up..."
    "Imitate, Assimilate, Innovate" - Clark Terry

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Gender:
    Posts
    207
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    I get "He's cute" (from one girl to another beside her) quite a bit. I just say thanks and roll onwards.
    Don't make a big deal out of it. There's plenty of much better things to bust on her for or bounce off of.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Gender:
    Age
    38
    Posts
    7
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    I get great results doing this. They compliment (in a way like their surprised I'm great looking) and I'll respond by saying 'I know' in a kinda cocky way and a blank expression loooking into thier eyes and just as they get that look like 'prick' or 'omg' on thier faces I crack a little devious smile and they either melt-or punch my arm. Both of which I'll gladly accept.

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Gender:
    Location
    PR
    Age
    34
    Posts
    124
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Quote Originally Posted by Champagne
    I can't remember who said it, but I think it was Juggler...the best way to accept a compliment like that is...to just accept it...ie, "Thanks". That's it.
    This is the best way Ive found out to handle compliments... a simple Thanks will do... but I also like to add, "You know, its crazy, alot of people say that about me." Then I bait her with a screening question and if I like her answer I compliment her back on that... at times she'll repeat my same words, "Alot of people say that about me."

  7. #7
    ware_ru is offline Certified Live Training Graduate Lounge Member
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Gender:
    Posts
    1,231
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    YOU'RE IN COMFORT. STOP WITH THE FUCKING BULLSHIT. NO MORE COCKY FUNNY. Say thank you and that's it.

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Gender:
    Age
    33
    Posts
    16
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    you are getting these compliments for a reason...especially if you get them often...be unaffected, its no big deal....its like breathing for you..its no big deal

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  • Forum Rules

Recommended


Daytime Dating



Magic Bullets



Beyond Words



Love Systems Routines Manual



The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game



Interview Series



Love Systems Relationship Management



Love Systems Program Schedule





Facebook  Twitter