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    Dealing with passive (and egocentric) introverts

    I've been talking to this girl who has a unique personality. She seems to be passive and introverted, but not shy...
    She doesn't interact much with others, especially those she doesn't know, but also doesn't show any signs of shyness. It just seems as if she doesn't particularly like to communicate with people outside of her comfort zone...

    One other personality trait is that she is a little self-centered, our conversations always tend to shift back to her and her life and she asks very few questions.
    DHV's don't "work" on her, it's as if she's seen it all or she's really good at faking.
    These could obviously be signs of disinterest, but I've noticed many IOI's, strong eye contact, etc. As I said she is sexually passive, at one point she even told me she is somewhat shy when dealing with relationships.

    I met her though a friend and we started chatting mostly online or text but went out together in a group a few times.
    The reason I haven't escalated is that I'm starting to get serious with another woman, but this one caught my attention because of her looks and her personality, I'm intrigued at the very least.. hahaha
    Just want know if you guys have ever dealt with women like this, and how...



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    The last girl I have been dating is this way. She is into music and pretty shy, and I usually have to keep the conversation going about 80-20. It does get hard as their is only so many statements you can make, but if there is a lull in the conversation I don't mind asking her questions. Also with these girls, you should be comfortable with short periods of silence, as this happens with shy girls. Talking to girls like these will only further your speaking skills as you will have to talk the majority of the time the first couple dates.

    Keep a mental or actual list of things that go on her life and refer to those layer if the conversation is dying. Also doing activities such as playing pool or slasa classes will keep her entertained and you won't have to talk as much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Matute97 View Post
    The last girl I have been dating is this way. She is into music and pretty shy, and I usually have to keep the conversation going about 80-20. It does get hard as their is only so many statements you can make, but if there is a lull in the conversation I don't mind asking her questions. Also with these girls, you should be comfortable with short periods of silence, as this happens with shy girls. Talking to girls like these will only further your speaking skills as you will have to talk the majority of the time the first couple dates.

    Keep a mental or actual list of things that go on her life and refer to those layer if the conversation is dying. Also doing activities such as playing pool or slasa classes will keep her entertained and you won't have to talk as much.

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    Yeah this one is also into music, sort of a rocker chick, and she dances ballet... haha
    But like I said she doesn't really demonstrate many signs of shyness, but just isn't much of a talker. Sometimes she can be quite talkative, actually, given the right situation, but other times she is just very quiet...she's a good listener though, most times, and looks like she actually pays attention to what I have to say.
    When talking through text or IM, she rarely starts a conversation, I always have to start it.
    She has a sort of "F it" attitude about life, which might be because she is still young (17) and sometimes looks as if she doesn't care about the outcome of certain things...

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    Very easy way to deal with this girl, one word infact: NEXT

    She's a challenge, and that's what you're finding attractive. But is she worth it?
    What really is the attraction? that she doesnt talk much, or doesnt offer much? could you see the next 20 years of your life with her?

    Why waste a lot of time and effort on her?

    (if i'm being harsh, then it's because I fear what you're actually doing is letting a protective instinct cut in and figuring you can help her in some way - make her more confident or happier in herself. Commendable, but damaging ... to you. You're not her counsellor and you're not there to save her. She has to make her own way. )

    If i've got this wrong, I apologise and let me know. I can offer some advice, but i want to make sure you're in the right mental space first.

    Good luck either way mate
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    Introverts have poor social skills, which explains why she come off as egocentric. People are are very sociable understand that to get people to like them they should talk less about themselves and more about the other person since people love to talk about themselves.

    The best way to deal with these types, or any type really, is humor. If you can make a girl laugh then she's yours. I don't mean just fake laugh or a little laugh, but laugh where she can't stop laughing. Combine humor with seduction and you're golden.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Apok View Post
    She has a sort of "F it" attitude about life, which might be because she is still young (17) and sometimes looks as if she doesn't care about the outcome of certain things...
    Sorry, no discussion of minors allowed on forum.

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