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    Is it ever acceptable to show anger towards a repeat flaker!?

    This girl is driving me round the bend. She is a very interested hb9 but she constantly flakes. most of the time it seems pretty legit but tonight she has flaked on a dinner date without even a text, and has ignored my calls. She is always the one who instigates the meet up. We met in a club a few times, no f close just k close. ive been on a date with her with plenty of kino and k-close.

    So she is flaking without even a text, surely this is the exception to 'acting nonchalant about flaking' which is what i normally do. normally i say i have somthing else to do and tease, but i feel today crossed the line. i want to send

    'if you didnt fancy dinner why didnt you just tell me rather than wasting my time?!'

    Who agrees i should send that? help asap please



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    No it is not. She either won't respond or will say something that will piss you off even more.

    Just ignore her and don't text her anymore. Move on to the next girl.

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    Thanks for the quick reply dude. the thing is she is massively keen and only last week she was calling me her future boyfriend, the date was perfect and she is always the one pushing for meet up. Shes cool apart from the flaking so is it worth throwing this away now? I feel like i have to show some authority now though because only a door mat would accept a flake without even a text and ignoring the phone

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    No, never show anger, never punish.
    In doing so it not only makes you out to be a little crazy but also it shows you have no women in your life if you get upset if one flakes.

    In PU expect flakes and learn from each one as there is always plenty you can do to so she won't flake in the first place.
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    Wow i was ready to send that, but already 2 people have said dont...... im gonna listen i think. Its so weird though, i thought this was so certain it was unbelievable. the date went perfect, she is ridiculously attraced. hell she was the one who picked me up. she fancys me, finds me attractive to the point where she will just text 'beautiful' randomly she knows i have a good career good social life. her only fear is that i will be a player, i have had to constantly reasssure her.

    On my facebook a few girls from work have posted some stuff recently, they give me nicknames. my confused mind is wondering if she thinks these are other girls im am playing her against rather than workmates....

    anyway so i should just not send any more texts? its so against what i think!

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    Quote Originally Posted by godfather545 View Post
    Thanks for the quick reply dude. the thing is she is massively keen and only last week she was calling me her future boyfriend, the date was perfect and she is always the one pushing for meet up. Shes cool apart from the flaking so is it worth throwing this away now? I feel like i have to show some authority now though because only a door mat would accept a flake without even a text and ignoring the phone
    NEVER EVER DO THAT!!!

    This is the thing a girl can say a bunch of shit to you that she doesn't mean when she is in the right emotional state. It is the equivalent of guys saying anything and everything when they are getting sex.

    Honestly your best bet right now is to go out with your friends and meet other girls. Wait for her to initiate contact. When she says lets meet up wednesday say sorry I can't what about thursday. Start making her have to conform to your schedule.

    This will be harder said that done because I can tell your oneitis is strong with her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by godfather545 View Post
    Wow i was ready to send that, but already 2 people have said dont...... im gonna listen i think. Its so weird though, i thought this was so certain it was unbelievable. the date went perfect, she is ridiculously attraced. hell she was the one who picked me up. she fancys me, finds me attractive to the point where she will just text 'beautiful' randomly she knows i have a good career good social life. her only fear is that i will be a player, i have had to constantly reasssure her.

    On my facebook a few girls from work have posted some stuff recently, they give me nicknames. my confused mind is wondering if she thinks these are other girls im am playing her against rather than workmates....

    anyway so i should just not send any more texts? its so against what i think!
    Holy shit dude. You fucked up royally already. When she says oh you are probably just a player, you say "well I only have 3 wives and 10 gfs but I am always looking for number 11, I like odd numbers, you interested?". Obviously said tongue and cheek.

    What you probably did was "oh no baby, I am not like that. I am loyal and would never cheat on a girl". Girls are fucking retards and even though logically it makes sense to say this, they want to hear the first line I gave you. You are more of a challenge that way. The way you went about it was the equivalent of saying "you got me I am yours. I am going to follow you like a puppy dog from now on." Which is why she is flaking. She knows she has you.

    Step back a little.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pcl81 View Post
    NEVER EVER DO THAT!!!

    This is the thing a girl can say a bunch of shit to you that she doesn't mean when she is in the right emotional state. It is the equivalent of guys saying anything and everything when they are getting sex.

    Honestly your best bet right now is to go out with your friends and meet other girls. Wait for her to initiate contact. When she says lets meet up wednesday say sorry I can't what about thursday. Start making her have to conform to your schedule.

    This will be harder said that done because I can tell your oneitis is strong with her.
    thanks dude. No trust me i wouldnt call it oneitis. i have many girls on the go at the moment. actually this evening im text gaming a hb8.5 who wanted to meet tonight but i blew out for this flakey hb9. its just hb9 is my favourite in terms of personality looks career drive etc. but im not afraid to next her. i just dont want any regrets. I want to use the method which gives the best chance to not completly cut ties with hb9. my only fear with ignoring is that she will think im a doormat by not confronting the rudest flake ive ever experienced

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    Quote Originally Posted by pcl81 View Post
    Holy shit dude. You fucked up royally already. When she says oh you are probably just a player, you say "well I only have 3 wives and 10 gfs but I am always looking for number 11, I like odd numbers, you interested?". Obviously said tongue and cheek.

    What you probably did was "oh no baby, I am not like that. I am loyal and would never cheat on a girl". Girls are fucking retards and even though logically it makes sense to say this, they want to hear the first line I gave you. You are more of a challenge that way. The way you went about it was the equivalent of saying "you got me I am yours. I am going to follow you like a puppy dog from now on." Which is why she is flaking. She knows she has you.

    Step back a little.
    Nah trust me dude she still thinks im a player. one of the last texts she sent was "try not to replace me anytime soon " because she knew i wouldnt see her for a few days. this flake has somewhat out of the blue

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    Quote Originally Posted by godfather545 View Post
    Nah trust me dude she still thinks im a player. one of the last texts she sent was "try not to replace me anytime soon " because she knew i wouldnt see her for a few days. this flake has somewhat out of the blue
    Can you give more specifics about your situation because like your details are contradicting. Or I am simply just not getting it.

    Regardless the main point is do not ever do anything in anger to flakes or be passive aggressive. I have done the research and it never ends up well :P

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