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1 Year in the game...I'm still a weirdo!!!
Seriously, sometimes I feel like jumping off a bridge!
Short story: very cute girl, works at a bookstore in my neighbourhood. We always flirt like crazy but I never even attempted to get her number
Today I finally grabbed my balls and said to myself: "Enough. She's just a girl. I'm gonna ask her out!"
Once I got there, luckily, the bookstore was pretty much empty. But as soon as we began talking a group of girls showed up and like the socially akward bastard that I am I was almost pissing myself.
So I gave her a little paper with my number and said " let's have some tea tomorrow"
She smiled and I quickly left the bookstore only to realize something even a 14-year-old brat knows: unless you are Brad Pitt, why would any attractive woman even bother CALLING YOU when she has literaly the whole world (probably even other women) trying to bang her?!
With this I basically said " I'm a complete freak and I have no idea how to pick up a girl so please take this piece of paper and hit me up sometime around the year 3000."
Even worse, she might think I see her as a slut. Even if for some reason she wanted to call she obviously will think I can't wait to brag to all my friends on how she called me first because she clearly wants a piece.
Sorry for the pathetic rant, I just want to know something: should I even bother trying to talk to this girl again or I'm oficially done?
Honestly, the answer is painfully obvious but hey, it's always better to hear from the pros...
P.S Almost 12 hours later and she didn't call me.Only If was completely retarded I would expect otherwise!
Yes, keep talking to her. Talk to everyone (maybe not the 14 year old girls who eventered, but everyone else). Get socially comfortable. If you are uncomfortable talkin to women, the best way to fix it, is to talk to women. Talking to ugly girls to start off with if it makes your more comfortable.
Keep talking to the girl in the book store. She most likely thinks it cute you have a crush on her or whatever. If she isnt interested, and doesnt call you, fine. Doesnt mean you cant speak to her anymore. Just keep having a chat and be fun and friendly... Maybe if you build up enough comfort she might give her your number... You know, you could always ask for it.
'Hey, I just realised I never got your phone number'. It mine be a bit weird, but fuck it... Who gives a shit? You dont HAVE to see her again if it is... You can always visit another book store. Bottom line, if you dont own your fear, it will own you.
Try increasing your social circle, and make friends with more women. Do a cooking class or something and chat to chicks there (always girls there). You will always have something to talk about. I.E. the class, and if you hit it off with any of them, you can always invite them around for a dinner to 'practice' whatever the fuck you learned.
If its has only been 12 hours as well... Thats not very long. She is probably not sitting there, at home, going OMG OMG OMG this guy gave me his number, YAY... OMG< I am going to call him straight away because he is soo cute! I think I am in love.
She is most likely just as insecure as you are. She will be nervous or whatever. I wouldnt expect a call, but you might get an SMS or something if you have peaked her curiousity.
Anyway, I am rambled on too much again, - Good luck mate.
Dont chastise yourself for this. You took a step that most men wouldnt take... Ok, it wasnt your best play, but at least it was something. I bet you feel better having given her your number, than if you just squeeked out a little 'hey' and then left.
I spent a lot of my money on booze, birds, and fast cars. The rest I just squandered.
~ George Best
The war between the sexes is over. Men won the second women started doing pole dancing for exercise.
~ Jacob Palmer
because the emotions you bring up and attach to yourself, of course. guys will try to bang her, but only a few actually know how to spark any actual emotion.
Originally Posted by Don Kanonji
Look at it this way: you finally did something, which is progress. Sure, it may not have been the best course of action to take, but you did make the initiative.
good for you man! takes balls to even do that, when you come from a shy place. it was an absolutely massively good thing you did, so dont worry, forget her now, unless you randomly get the chance to make things better. dont obsess over any girl! and listen to some hypnosis cds for confidence maybe... sounds like your self esteem could be better!
you can have whatever you want! but it depends what you ask for. Your asking to be a weirdo right now, by defning youself as such, your mind will naturally start looking for ways to prove that. Define yourself as the centre of creation. Isnt that what really you actually are?
You create the perceptions and thoughts that mock you and cause yourself pain, and then you project that externally into this world! Killing yourself wouldnt end anything. So just die in a different way. Let that false self inside you die. Kill it. It has no right to occupy you in the way it does, so start a war against it. Its not you!
Thanks guys, I love you
I'm cutting contact for now or she'll think I'm a creepy stalker.
God bless you, my brothers!
lol, 1 year in the game in the big scheme of things is just the beginning.
Social intelligence and getting calibrated to how people work takes some time
Just keep associating with cool guys and you'll get the hang of it
It's all a learning curve.. they'll be plenty of other girls. but for sure it's not over.. yeh you probably look a bit weak though, but it's a step in the right direction. Just say to her next time you go in.. ' So when are you planning on calling me..? you know what, maybe it's better i take your number, I think your cute.. we need to make something happen.' I know it takes balls.. but seriously just get it in their, in convo with her or even straight off will do. Lifes too short.. we miss a 100% of shots we didn't take. keep us posted =]
She gave me her number yesterday...MUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
It's embarassing to think it took me 27 years to finally get a girl's number but...DAMN IT FEELS GOOD!!!
Embrace yourselves, my inner pimp is almost hatching!!!
its just one girl man relax....make sure to NOT get oneitus its one of the achilles heel of early gamers and still a problem for me sometimes......if you get your hopes up and she crushes them it will make your dissapointment even worse..
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