I won Eyes-to-Eyes Contact, but I was speechless...

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  1. I won Eyes-to-Eyes Contact, but I was speechless...

    I walked in a Rite Aids store, and there was a tall HB9 walking out of one of the aisle. We were about 10 yards apart and her eyes suddenly locked deeply to my eyes. I walked toward to her left as she walked by. We stared at our eyes for more than 5 seconds, then she looked away.

    I don't know what to do, because she looked at my eyes in a long distance. The three seconds trick doesn't work that way, because it took more than 5 seconds to get close to talk. It would be awkward to talk at the distance.

    IT happened so fast, I wasn't thinking but staring at her eyes. What should you do if you were in my shoes?



  2. #2

    The 3 second rule doesn't literally mean after 3 seconds DON'T approach, it means you should approach as quickly as possible. Sometimes it won't be possible to approach in 3 seconds, as was your case.

    Plus, if you were really in the moment staring into her eyes, how did you possibly discriminate between 3 and 5 seconds?

    Anyway, she's gone now forever, so forget about her.

  3. Quote Originally Posted by Soup Dragon View Post
    The 3 second rule doesn't literally mean after 3 seconds DON'T approach, it means you should approach as quickly as possible. Sometimes it won't be possible to approach in 3 seconds, as was your case.

    Plus, if you were really in the moment staring into her eyes, how did you possibly discriminate between 3 and 5 seconds?

    Anyway, she's gone now forever, so forget about her.
    1) It feels much longer than 3 seconds.
    2) Of course, I know she's gone forever. I just wanted to learn my mistake and not repeat it. This discussion isn't about taking her back, but figuring out what was my mistake and what should I improve for the future.

  4. #4

    Quote Originally Posted by Vrooom View Post
    1) It feels much longer than 3 seconds.
    2) Of course, I know she's gone forever. I just wanted to learn my mistake and not repeat it. This discussion isn't about taking her back, but figuring out what was my mistake and what should I improve for the future.
    There was no mistake. You held the eye contact, you were excited about that, that was an improvement in itself because of the reference point you can draw from the novel experience.

    Ways you could improve?

    Start conversation with her.
    Keep the eye-contact without feeling any anxiety at all, just pure enjoyment from the feminine energy.

  5. I don't know how to initiate the conversation. I think I was feeling anxiety.

    NOW, I remember something: cold approach.

  6. #6

    Quote Originally Posted by Vrooom View Post
    I don't know how to initiate the conversation. I think I was feeling anxiety.

    NOW, I remember something: cold approach.
    Anxiety and fear is part of the process. Deal with it, don't identify with it.

  7. Say hello? Then maybe something more witty like, you can't stare at me like that and not say hello.

    Not all approaches should be sure to stare downs...

  8. Quote Originally Posted by Soup Dragon View Post
    Anxiety and fear is part of the process. Deal with it, don't identify with it.
    It gives me a couple of minutes trying to understand this. I guess, I have to ignore that "Oh, I must be so anxiety" in my mind during the approach...Is that what you mean?

  9. Quote Originally Posted by Love Monkey View Post
    Say hello? Then maybe something more witty like, you can't stare at me like that and not say hello.

    Not all approaches should be sure to stare downs...
    The funny thing is, I already knew that. I was too busy looking deep in her eyes to remember the line. I don't understand on your last sentence.

  10. Quote Originally Posted by Vrooom View Post
    It gives me a couple of minutes trying to understand this. I guess, I have to ignore that "Oh, I must be so anxiety" in my mind during the approach...Is that what you mean?
    Most cold approaches you do you will feel scared and anxious, and it is totally OK to feel like that. So what I am saying is let yourself feel those emotions freely like "oh ok I'm feeling anxious, but that's fine, that's just part of the process", but do not let it stop you cold approaching.

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