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    DhV for some, dlv for others...

    Ok I know I can sound arrogant which is not my intention here. It is something I really need help.

    somehow the stories I use to DhV is about the times I lived in Europe and other parts of the word and travelled as a back packer, really had some insane adventures while there.

    I can honestly say I am the most traveled person in my extended social circle. I know there is plenty people who has travelled way more than me, but from people I have met in person, I rank easily in one of the first spots since I've been in over 20 countries

    ok thing is even if girls seem impressed somehow I feel they think I am out of their league (I am average looking)

    I am talking about a mid class environment, most of them finished highschool only or went to a local university... I did a masters in England . I am also mid class my self but worked my ass off to buy a plane ticket to London an while there worked my ass to pay my school fees...

    If I try that kind of stories with the country club girls I would come off as average since there are plenty girls from that background who have already been there and they couldn't care less about travels...

    Going back to average , salt kn earth girls... even if I get the number and meet later we don't seem to
    Connect much and they keep dating and hanging out with other guys, the ones who go to run down places, etc etc

    It seems I have to tone down my stories a bit. I really don't feel I fit anywhere: with high class people, I still don't feel confident and
    Comfortable enough with them... With mid
    Class, even if I get along well with them I don't get invited to their parties and all that, I get the vibe that they think I wouldn't like hanging out with them...

    Dunno if am being clear lol

    Looking fwd for replies


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    I wouldn't say toning down your stories is the solution, but pick your spots. If you hang out with people that don't travel much, then using stories of your travels to DHV probably isn't appropriate most of the time. Sometimes people try to DHV but the timing is wrong and it comes off as trying to impress. Try to find commonalities with who you're kicking it with and take a new angle with DHV.

    If you find yourself hanging out with people that have travelled, then bust out those crazy stories. And make sure you're good at telling them. There's nothing worse than politely listening to a poorly told/lame story.

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    I wouldn't worry about DHV'ing too much. I don't think you can be too high value as long as you qualify the girl enough. Fat girls often give me a look of indignation and defensiveness because they expect me to write them off as a human being, but throw them a line and they will jump on the hook (just don't reel them in, they will capsize the boat).

    What is happening here is you are not something she finds attractive. She is a chimp looking for a banana and you are a glossy travel brochure.

    When telling shit loads of stories about your travels, which you are evidently dead proud about, you appear to be trying too hard. You talk like a windbag and bore her. You haven't found out anything about her and didn't trigger her attraction switches, you were just entertaining yourself.

    Why not go into an encounter and say nothing about your travels and see what happens. A rich man doesn't need to say he is rich.

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    [QUOTE=BRunoG;924941]I wouldn't say toning down your stories is the solution, but pick your spots. QUOTE]

    Yes that's the point ...



    Quote Originally Posted by Birthday View Post
    I wouldn't worry about DHV'ing too much. I don't think you can be too high value as long as you qualify the girl enough. Fat girls often give me a look of indignation and defensiveness because they expect me to write them off as a human being, but throw them a line and they will jump on the hook (just don't reel them in, they will capsize the boat).

    What is happening here is you are not something she finds attractive. She is a chimp looking for a banana and you are a glossy travel brochure.

    When telling shit loads of stories about your travels, which you are evidently dead proud about, you appear to be trying too hard. You talk like a windbag and bore her. You haven't found out anything about her and didn't trigger her attraction switches, you were just entertaining yourself.

    Why not go into an encounter and say nothing about your travels and see what happens. A rich man doesn't need to say he is rich.

    You both hit it right on the nose, I try to pick up those because is the circle
    I have more access normally... my closest social circle

    The problem I think is also the fact I see High value people out of my league... But at the same time i don't like being the king of losers because I can't hang out with winners...

    it is not only about travels but other aspects of my self... Even the way I dress, I have way better clothes than my social circle and that, -far from helping me, distances me from them and on the other hand, I feel under dressed with the high value people...

    Those are just silly examples, I think the right definition is that I feel stuck somewhere between averagedom and awesomeness... And don't fit in either of those places



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