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    The Secret of the Swagger...and other body language tips

    What up dawgs?

    I've been working on my whole body language for the past few months and working on my swagger. Thought I'd share some thoughts....

    What is a swagger? Personally, I'd define it as that brush touch of confidence in the way that you move and especially in the way that you walk.

    If you actively try to swagger you will probably look like an idiot...or George W Bush. Same thing I suppose.

    I used to think that good posture and body language was all about standing bolt upright with your shoulders back - like you had a broom handle up your ass. Nothing could be further from the swagger. It's all about moving without tension in your muscles.

    The reason a swagger is associated with confidence is because it is the manifestation of person that is totally relaxed, unstressed and is not self concious. The muscles are relaxed and move freely...that's what causes the swagger.

    Try this out. Stand up, clench your fists-hard and walk at the same time...see how stiff your movements are? Now relax your arms and shoulders totally and let them hang loosely as if they were made out of rubber. Now try walking again...see the difference? It is these loose movements that create a swagger.

    Watch this clip of Marlon Brandon in The Wild One (classic pua viewing) to see what I mean...every muscle in his body looks completely relaxed and free.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCENBce_dls

    I have made a point of never putting my hands in my pockets any more because it is impossible for your shoulders and arms to look totally relaxed. Like many body language changes it was difficult to break the habit but now it's automatic.

    I also try and place my foot down firmly with every step I take and feel the ground beneath me. It makes me appear more purposeful, definite and unapologetic for my presence.

    Two other body langauage tips;

    Always keep you're head up. I read this tip from another post on this forum and it's been gold. Look at yourself in the mirror with your head straight...now keep looking yourself in the eyes but dip your head downwards. See how much weaker and apologetic you look? Again it will take practice to catch yourself in those situations where you automatically look down before you have realised it. Keep working on it and it will come

    Any time I find myself in a physically awkward situation (e.g. if you drop your things on the floor and need to pick them up) I just slow it right down and take my sweet ass time. As an example, a few days ago I was standing, talking to a girl in the street, trying to find my phone somewhere in rucksack. In the past I would have got awakward and flustered about it. Instead I made an active decision to slow it the fuck down and make her wait. I felt less self concious and it actually made me more efficient in finding the damn phone! You think Brad Pitt would worry about making someone wait a minute?


    Another one burned, another lesson learned.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Toro Negro View Post
    I used to think that good posture and body language was all about standing bolt upright with your shoulders back - like you had a broom handle up your ass. Nothing could be further from the swagger. It's all about moving without tension in your muscles.
    Same here; I only just started realizing that it's all about hanging loose while keeping upright

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    I model my posture from dancers. I'm always impressed with how strong but relaxed and confident they look. Which reminds me that I have to put in more core work. The thing is, years of poor posture means that even relaxed I did not look "good" so I had to work the muscles to eventually get them so that they could look the way I want.

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    Forgot to say that it's important to practice the way you move and carry yourself all day long. Not just when you are around girls.

    I have stopped folding my arms even when I am alone - it means that I am totally out of the habit and it feels strange to me now if ever I do it.

    I think about my body language a lot when I am at the gym - lots of mirrors are a good reminder and the gym is the place to think about impoving your body. The people who train at the same time must be thinking 'who is this guy walking around like he owns the place?'
    Another one burned, another lesson learned.

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    I like to strut around the bar pretending to talk to my stock broker screaming "SELL IT FOR 10 MILLION, I'LL TAKE THE LOSS" while giving guys dirty looks and girls "you wish" glances as I order a shot from the bartender in the most disrespectful way possible as I slap a random guy on the back and say "WHAT'S UP CHIEF".

    Joking aside - Work on having strong inner confidence and the outward swagger will take care of itself.
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    i modeled my walk after tom cruise from top gun..i have watched the scene of him walking towards his motorcycle more than im comfortable admiting. When he's basically doing a takeaway ffom that girl and she's following him calling his name. I too practiced it everuwhere i went...including the gym with mirrors.. Who are we? Lol

    Ive had girls cross the street to come over and force themselves into conversations with me just by the way i walk. Ive had a girl smirkingly reply.. "i bet you got a huge stick up your butt. I can tell by the way you walk" (imply that i am arrogant) of course i teased on how she wanted me etc.

    Your walk tells lots

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    I work for one of the biggest and most expensive Hotel/casino in the world. Had a co-worker once tell me "Hey this is no insult but the way you walk makes me think you own this place"

    Walking though one of our night clubs for work one day in a suit and had a random cutie come up and ask me " Hey... are you the owner of this club?" -- That question made me LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by Basically Yes View Post

    Joking aside - Work on having strong inner confidence and the outward swagger will take care of itself.
    Agree 100%...but getting your inner game exactly right takes time and diligence.

    Making a concious effort to improve your body language will help in the meantime and actually go some way towards improving your inner game too.
    Another one burned, another lesson learned.

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