TheEssentials728Banner.
Results 1 to 10 of 10
Like Tree1Likes
  • 1 Post By TomMaestro
Discuss Passive game tricks and tips? at the General Discussion within the The Attraction Forums. Dating Advice.; Passive game tricks and tips? Recently I have been finding that acting passive and contributing ...
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Gender:
    Age
    27
    Posts
    123
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Passive game tricks and tips?

    Recently I have been finding that acting passive and contributing less rather than more to my interactions out in field has been a very powerful way to get the girl to contribute more than just the minimal to the interaction.

    Previously it always felt like I was doing all the talking which was a bit frustrating, and as much as I love talking I also want the girl to contribute more than the verbal minimal.

    I have been practicing by approaching girls, making solid eye contact with the girl(s), having a bit of a cheeky smile, and then just waiting for them to start conversation with me.

    Or at least making the powerful eye contact for a good few seconds before saying my opener. Purposely entering the set with an awkward silence, and feeling the sexual tension in the silence until it reaches breaking point.

    Whenever a silence in the conversation would happen, I would let it happen giving her the chance to fill the void first.

    What other passive behaviors could be used?



  2. #2
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Gender:
    Posts
    45
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Soup Dragon,

    I know EXACTLY what you mean. Some tricks I use are -

    Jesus Christ Style

    You know the pose of Jesus Christ, where he is bent a littlie, hands away, palm facing upwards? I do that. I go into the pose with a demeanor of "Hi". I immediately however take my hands back. 75% of the time the girl feels I am offering a handshake and give their hand, precisely when I am withdrawing mine. Then I go and grasp her hand. The overall effect is, I just waved my hand, she offered handshake, I changed my movement and took her hand. On taking her hand, I hold it and carelessly toss it away, a la Mystery style


    Churchill Style

    Churchill would say a sentence, stop mid way as though searching for a particular word, and then come up with an EXACT word to describe the situation. The audience would be impressed. Later on he confessed that it was all "preplanned".

    I do the same. I stop a sentence midway, act as though groping for a word, and let the girl provide it.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Gender:
    Age
    27
    Posts
    123
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Quote Originally Posted by TomMaestro View Post
    Soup Dragon,

    I know EXACTLY what you mean. Some tricks I use are -

    Jesus Christ Style

    You know the pose of Jesus Christ, where he is bent a littlie, hands away, palm facing upwards? I do that. I go into the pose with a demeanor of "Hi". I immediately however take my hands back. 75% of the time the girl feels I am offering a handshake and give their hand, precisely when I am withdrawing mine. Then I go and grasp her hand. The overall effect is, I just waved my hand, she offered handshake, I changed my movement and took her hand. On taking her hand, I hold it and carelessly toss it away, a la Mystery style
    Nice.

    I also came across the idea of only extending a small bit when going for a handshake so she has to step towards you.

    Quote Originally Posted by TomMaestro View Post
    Churchill Style

    Churchill would say a sentence, stop mid way as though searching for a particular word, and then come up with an EXACT word to describe the situation. The audience would be impressed. Later on he confessed that it was all "preplanned".

    I do the same. I stop a sentence midway, act as though groping for a word, and let the girl provide it.
    Great idea.

    I will have fun with these ideas tonight.

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Gender:
    Age
    21
    Posts
    1,545
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 24 Times in 22 Posts
    Mentioned
    5 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Quote Originally Posted by Soup Dragon View Post
    Whenever a silence in the conversation would happen, I would let it happen giving her the chance to fill the void first.
    I disagree. We're usually doing most of the interaction during the initial meet-up (approach). This shows her that you're able to hold conversation and keep a collected mindset.

    Letting her take the lead from the start? That will literally end attraction right then and there.

    Dominance, my friend.
    "The mind only acts as an enemy for those who do not control it."

    You only lose what you cling to. -Buddha

    Here's how I see it:

    Men act, women react. Don't take the woman's role.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Gender:
    Age
    27
    Posts
    123
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Quote Originally Posted by BetterThan View Post
    I disagree. We're usually doing most of the interaction during the initial meet-up (approach). This shows her that you're able to hold conversation and keep a collected mindset.

    Letting her take the lead from the start? That will literally end attraction right then and there.

    Dominance, my friend.
    Hehe it's counter intuitive sure. I was very skeptical of it at first as well because it goes against a lot of what Lovesystems game teaches: alleviating all anxiety, tension and awkwardness.

    But using the tension has really helped out my game. It made me realise that game is NOT all about being verbal.

    Ever notice how when someone stops talking, you feel a need to jump into the silent void and fill it with conversation? You submit to the pressure, and lose dominance.

    Talking endlessly does not make you seem like you have a collected mindset. Feeling comfortable no matter what happens in the interaction, such as smiling and making eye-contact through the silences, will make you seem like you carry a rock solid, calm and confident frame. You are unaffected by the silence, she is not.

    It's not about letting her lead at all. You still lead the interaction, but you use the awkward silences to your advantage to increase the sexual tension. Rather than feeling a dip in the conversation happen, and filling it with more and more words to stop the tension, you let the silence happen making her want to start qualifying herself. She will panic a bit and be like "oh fuck why isn't he talking, am I doing something wrong? I NEED TO TALK DAMN THIS IS SO INTENSE".

    If you are always using words to reduce the tension, you are also reducing the sexual tension. You want sexual tension otherwise you are just some sort of dancing all entertaining clown.

    Try not answering a girls question, and just staring into her eyes instead until she flinches and begins answering her own question. That's pretty dominant.

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Gender:
    Age
    21
    Posts
    1,545
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 24 Times in 22 Posts
    Mentioned
    5 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Well that's true, but you should read INNER GAME - The Secret of Attractive Reactiveness.

    It basically goes into how to react appropriately instead of using the usual no reaction type deal to "games" or "tests".

    I just feel that, in order to accomplish what you said (creating sexual tension by remaining in frame) is only possible after you've pushed through comfort and attraction. I couldn't necessarily see this working on a "just met you" situation where you're still initiating conversation because the interaction is relatively fresh.
    "The mind only acts as an enemy for those who do not control it."

    You only lose what you cling to. -Buddha

    Here's how I see it:

    Men act, women react. Don't take the woman's role.

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Gender:
    Age
    27
    Posts
    123
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Quote Originally Posted by BetterThan View Post
    Well that's true, but you should read INNER GAME - The Secret of Attractive Reactiveness.

    It basically goes into how to react appropriately instead of using the usual no reaction type deal to "games" or "tests".

    I just feel that, in order to accomplish what you said (creating sexual tension by remaining in frame) is only possible after you've pushed through comfort and attraction. I couldn't necessarily see this working on a "just met you" situation where you're still initiating conversation because the interaction is relatively fresh.
    Like any approach, it's not going to have a 100% success rate and you have to use your judgement, especially when it comes to reacting or not.

    I just started to feel like I was getting nowhere beyond conversation with girls when it was me doing 90% of the talking, and now that I don't fill up every silence with my voice and am more passive girls talk back a lot more and I don't feel like such a dancing monkey.

    Give it a go though. I'm not saying don't use any opener by the way, but just to approach and let there be a few seconds silence with heavy eye-contact where she CAN say hi THEN you can use your opener if she doesn't give you a lot of conversation to bounce off. You can even use your opener if it makes you feel too nervous to do this, and then after she replies or laughs wait a few seconds and see if she begins to contribute to the conversation freely.

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Gender:
    Age
    21
    Posts
    1,545
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 24 Times in 22 Posts
    Mentioned
    5 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    I'll take your advice into consideration and try it.
    "The mind only acts as an enemy for those who do not control it."

    You only lose what you cling to. -Buddha

    Here's how I see it:

    Men act, women react. Don't take the woman's role.

  9. #9
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Gender:
    Posts
    1,881
    Thanks
    13
    Thanked 23 Times in 23 Posts
    Mentioned
    2 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Hmmm I'll give that a try too, but it seems more like a way to include the target in the conversation and give you a chance to suck them into accepting your discussion. Perhaps at the right time this could help with rapport...

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Gender:
    Posts
    45
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Let me add to this topic.

    Imagine a looooon wall. You are there near it, with miles and miles of wall ahead and behind you. Suddenly, you notice a hole in the wall, a cm wide at shoulder height. You will have an IRRESISTIBLE desire to put your finger in. If the hole is near your crotch, no one is looking, and you feel safety, you WILL put your prick in. Its a need for completeness. Positive meets negative.

    Now suppose that there were a woman instead of you - all alone. Imagine she is not scared and there are two craved out cups where here boobs are. She will have an IRRESISTIBLE desire to thrust her boobs in. Hahahahahaha. (if no one is watching)

    I do the same. While talking to a girl or someone else, I take a pose as follows - thumb on chin, forefinger on cheek, other fingers "cupped". Difficult to describe the pose. Just google "Jawaharlal Nehru" (he was President of India), to see the pose. You have the pose as follows -

    a) You may or maynot be talking to the target.
    b) The "cup" of your hands should be at her boob-height, but NOT exactly in direction of boob, but a little off.

    She ill shift her position to place a boob directly in front of cusp. It works 90% of times!!!. Positive fills negative.

    Important Note -

    i) Sexual eye contact with her - a MUST before this
    ii) Do NOT look at her boobs or the cusp of your hand. It should be natural.

    Try it!!!

Similar Threads

  1. Seduction Tricks & Tips
    By Aesthetikz in forum General Discussion
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 02-28-2010, 03:56 PM
  2. A list of Kino tips, & tricks.
    By Skullz in forum Newbie Discussion Forum
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 12-21-2009, 12:01 AM
  3. Online tips tricks and ideas
    By Guitario in forum Online Game and IMs
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 02-21-2007, 02:03 PM
  4. tips &tricks
    By ogmand in forum Off-Topic
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 07-12-2006, 03:02 PM
  5. Tips and Tricks with stippers?....
    By latinpapie in forum Introductions
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 01-04-2006, 12:04 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  • Forum Rules



Facebook  Twitter