Ok things have gone fairly well since i last posted. I eventually got her out to the nightclub (after another flake) Went for dinner, bar then club. Probably one of the best dates i have ever taken part in, the food was amazing and exactly what she wanted, the bar was fun i showed a lot of social proof and intution as i knew all the bar people there. Her father is a big sports fan and his team had just won a match, we caught the tail end of the match on tv and i told her a text she should send to her dad ( he never contacts her) he texts back right away much to her delight. then we go to the club and she says she loves dancing and hasnt been out dancing for months. the music is exactly what she is into and she has a massive smile the whole time we are there. i am able to dhv with my dancing. Also 3 or more times i would get hb 8's and above coming up to me to say hi (either old conquests or girls who are keen on me now) so massive preselection was being displayed. i treated all these girls with respect and quickly went back to my date. hb9 from work even remarks on how a girl in the club was after me. i brush it off.
We talked a lot about all sorts. touched on the subject of ex's for the first time and we have both had one serious realtionship which ended badly fairly recently and we both now have trust issues with the opposite sex. When she is talking to me or around me she is so relaxed and open, very chatty and comfortable. she tells me things i can imagine she hasnt told many people. she tells me she doesnt trust dudes after what her past bf did etc. its clear she is very comfortable in my presence but Is there such a thing as being too comfortable?
Anyway i kiss closed her again during the night after i gave a statement of approval for her qualifiing atempt and as always i pulled away first. we ended up getting taxi back, i didnt even go for f-close. i have too much respect for her and knew it would build a lot of comfort if i didnt as i was getting out first so any other guy would have asked her back to theirs. so i got out first and paid for the taxi for her to continue to her flat. peck on the lips then i jump out.
next day at work, we are back to the friendly playful dynamic we always have. teasing and building comfort and attraction with a little bit of qualification i throw in every so often. she is a lot more receptive now, coming over to my desk, or initiating 50 percent or more of our convos rather than how it was before with me initating everything.
AFC has been away this week and is away all next week too. we have a work party next saturday so things should be interesting there. Everything is going well however afc continues to be a continuing prescence and will no doubt be back to his old antics when he gets back. I now need to decide whether to try and escalate things further and go for f-close and inveitable relationship that follows or keep drifting like i am now, taking it slow. i have decided i would like a relationship with this chick so now my only task is turning this situation into one!
Can you guys help me with the following questions:
should i start doing more text game? (im good at this, but is it a bit much when i see her every day at work??).
Should i have a discussion about what we are to each other/where is this going ( i have avoided this type of convo so far as i just wanted to create a nice chilled open atmosphere without having to define everything)
Should i mention afc? i have never mentioned him and she prob thinks i know nothing about her going on dates with him in the past
and main question should i push for f-close or continue to build trust and comfort (she is already super comfortable with me so perhaps i can now push for f-close no?)
one thing she told me was that her religion doesnt allow her to live with someone untill she is married and she would be disowned if she did. this leads me to thing that f-close might not be possible for a long time ( im pretty sure she would f-close eventully but it would take a lot of work!) and in that case maybe another tactic might be required?
Thanks for reading and as always your opinions are greatly welcomed. Im in a happy place at the moment, lets hope it lasts.....