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    Need advice on how to escalate things with a shy girl

    I've read "The Game," half of Roosh V's "BANG," and a whole lot of online material, but I still need the advice of some people here.

    A few weeks ago, I went bowling with a guy friend and he brought along the girl (I'll call her "A") who he hooked up with along with all of her 5 other housemates. We had a great time bowling and drinking, etc, and I was sorta spreading my attention around the group as a whole, trying to get to know all of them. I didn't pick a target that night.

    We went back to their house for some wine and some of the girls went to bed because it was a weeknight and it was late. It ended up being me, my buddy, and "A" in her living room just talking. I threw in a mention about how I thought this one girl was flirting hard with me and I was told she was just an attention whore and had a bf.

    One of the other girls who had gone to bed had texted her while we were still there, expressing negatively that "I wasn't into her, I seemed to be interested in everyone," so she just decided to go to bed. When I asked about it her roommate said that she was basically DTF, and that none of the girls in the house have had success in finding the "right guy."

    We both leave and I drive my buddy home because he had to get up early the next day. I got the number of the DTF girl through "A" and text her trying to make plans to go bowling again or something. At this point I was undetermined whether or not I liked her because I had kinda overlooked her and didnt pay much attention to her that night.

    So last weekend we all hung out as a group again, and turns out shes a lot cuter and cooler than I suspected. She is sick with a bad cold, but still hangs out with us. I'm doing my best to flirt and do some successful kino but nothing hardcore.

    As for some background info on me - my game depends on the girl really. With some girls, I'm a machine, and with others, I can't seem to make progress. It depends on her personality. I'm still trying to figure it out I guess.

    So anyways, we hang out as a group pretty much all night and I'm talking to her a lot and flirting, busting her balls a little bit at one point in a cocky way which she did not react favorably to. Maybe she was just sick and had no energy or patience. One of the other girls in the house was flirting with me real hard and was kino'ing ME hard as well but I kinda just went along with it without furthering it because I want the target, not her. At the end of the night the other girl told me she loved me, LOL.

    Anyways, we're going to hang out this weekend as a group since I feel that I did not really get close enough to her to ask to hang out alone.

    I'm basically making a game plan this time to power through some escalation. I feel that I definitely failed in terms of making her think that I was really into her, and that instead I was just outgoing in general.

    So my goal is to make her know that I like her, without directly saying it (because I know that usually backfires). One of my ideas was to say something like "you know, I initially overlooked you but I think I'm kinda starting to like you... too bad we'd never make it as a couple..." Then smile at her. Or something similar to that. Then I would try to really kino and hopefully that previous hint would inspire her to kino back.

    Then, I was thinking of trying to isolate her at the end of the night by saying "why don't you give me a tour of the house?" Since I didnt see the upstairs yet, she would bring me upstairs eventually to her bedroom, where we'd continue to make conversation. If I was feeling like she was REALLY into me at that point, I'd slowly approach her and slowly move in and kiss her. If I still wasnt sure 100%, then I'd get face to face and say "I'm trying really hard to kiss you right now" and make my move.

    Then Id end the kiss and offer to rejoin the group back downstairs. From there it's all downhill I think.

    Any recommendations?



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    Your game plan sounds like a daydream. Asking her upstairs, sitting on the bed in her room, getting the kiss.
    Forget that, reality will never play out that way and as soon as it deviates from your plan you are going to panic because you feel like it isn't according to plan anymore although you might actually do very well but don't realize it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HugeGrant View Post
    Your game plan sounds like a daydream. Asking her upstairs, sitting on the bed in her room, getting the kiss.
    Forget that, reality will never play out that way and as soon as it deviates from your plan you are going to panic because you feel like it isn't according to plan anymore although you might actually do very well but don't realize it.
    Damn, youre probably right. I guess I'll just go with what I'm feeling at the time...

    Still looking for a recommendation on how to make her think im interested or partially interested in her though - if you guys think that part of my plan is iffy.

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    Go up and say: I'm interested in you!
    She is already into you so no reason to beat around the bush. There really is no need to overthink this, just be honest about your intentions!

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    I dated a very shy woman many years ago and the technique I used when meeting her was to speak softer and more slowly than I would normally. Same thing with movements, I slowed everything down and the result was she was comfortable with me rather than the more aggressive guys who scared her and caused her to go into wallflower mode. Once she was comfortable with me everything proceeded normally, if anything she became the aggressor as I was the one guy she felt she could express herself to. Good luck!

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