Insecurity and Neediness - Same Mistakes?
We all know how relationships work. Trust, communication, sexual chemistry, attraction, etc. is what really makes a relationship solid and concrete. I know this, and I know the basics.
I know not to be needy, not to be jealous, to be dominant, to be the "rock" of emotion in the relationship, to not let insecurities get the best of me, to come from a position of understanding when faced with problems, to be well-kept, clean, in control and all of that good stuff.
I've been in a relationship before the current one I'm in, and I've taken a ton of internal lessons from that one before entering this one, but I'll be the first to admit, that yes, I'm still having problems.
Insecurity. For some reason lately I've been finding myself thinking more and more about her and other guys, who she's talking to via Twitter, Facebook, texting, etc. and it gets to me. Yes, she talks to other guys as her friends, and I do the same for other women, but for some reason I tend to overthink and overanalyze situations that she gets into. It's even gotten to the point where it's hard for me to sleep because my subconscious mind literally throws the worst of the worst case scenarios in my head and I wake up in somewhat of a rut in the mornings. I've never faced this problem in my old relationship mainly because I've never been in a legitimate relationship before that one so I didn't really think too much about the pain that I've ever felt before (heartache after a break-up).
Neediness. Just today I find myself at a loss of words of how pathetic I'm looking. Not in front of her, but in front of myself. We walked to our class together at 2 and typically after class at around 3:15 I go to her room and see her but she wasn't there today. I checked back up about an hour later and she still wasn't there. I guess I overanalyzed but we're going out to dinner together about 45 minutes away from campus because she had work yesterday night on Valentine's Day. We're a close couple, really. But I don't want these pathetic girly emotions getting in the way of something great.
So, I guess my main question is:
How do I avoid insecurity and neediness down the line?
For those of you who know me, you know that I'm an avid poster on TAF and I give genuine advice that comes from personal experience. Yet, I'm reaching out to the best of the community right now for some relationship advice. I need some perspective here.