Here i will answer :"why people think you are arrogant?" and "is arrogance good or bad?"
Arrogance good or bad and why confidence always mistaken with arrogance
I'm in a game for quite a long time and the more i was improving my skills, social circle and filter my friends and people i hang out with the more often i heard word arrogant, vein,selfish thrown in my direction and less old friends i had in my circle. So what made people think that i am arrogant,vein or selfish and why did they think so?
I went to analyze the situation and the easiest excuse i would find is that people are just jealous of others people success that's the simple explanation why they would call me arrogant, selfish,vein. people have that ugly trait called jealousy, all of us possess that trait and as soon as we see a close by person starting to be successful we get jealous and try to make him/her look bad.So what i really acquired through all the training and practising is solid level of confidence and solid frame which none of my old friends could sustain and they become jealous because they felt weaker than me, im suddenly went few levels up and now wasnt on the same level as them. In that situation you notice that you dont really feel right when you around them and they dont feel right when they are with you. Uncomfortability grows within a group and eventually you stop talking because they say you are too arrogant, too selfish you changed. But the real reason is not the change, the one of the most important goals in human life is self improvement and development during a course of the life so what happened is you developed and your level went up but your friends level stayed the same so your goals changed and their goals stayed the same therefore the uncomfort came up and eventually the distance between you and your old friends grows. For them you become arrogant,selfish,vein person that they dont want to talk.
What really happened? As you will notice when moving forward you will find new friends , this time most of your friends probably will be from upper class , the friends that have higher standards, higher goals and approx. on same level of development as you are or above you. For them you wont be an arrogant, vein or selfish person, for them all those traits will represent one main trait that male should possess CONFIDENCE. and the reason they think its confidence is because you are on the same level, you think alike, those are the people that hear every day that they beautiful, those people know other high quality people, they dont see a threat in you, they are not jealous of your success because they are successful as much.
As more time you spend with a people from higher class or higher standards the more your own standards grow and the more picky you become with who you want to talk and why you want to talk to them. Your goals become higher and clearer and your development carry on improving and in eyes of people with lower class you become more arrogant and vein.
Above was example with your friends, Im sure most of you who really successful with women will agree that the futher you were reaching the higher rate of success the less old friends you had around, only real alpha friends remained in contact because they didnt feel threatened by your success, instead they were facinated and saw in you a way to develop themselves too.
Very similar situation happens in eyes of girls, when they see a very confident guy most often they think he is arrogant. If you look at C.Ronaldo probably the best example of confidence at its best but check how girls say they would never date him because he is arrogant and self-oriented. By the way its lie the only reason they say that is because he is out of her reach, she cant date him. I know few models girls which date billioners and for them C.Ronaldo is hottest guy on planet and they dont see him as arrogant prick more like a confident alpha male. But then i will ask opinion from a girl which is 7 and she will say no she hates him because he is arrogant and self-oriented but the truth is she likes him as much as models girls do but models see him on the same level or above therefore they as arrogant or as self-oriented as he is, when a girl with lower value sees a threat in him therefore although she is attracted to him physically her intuition says he is out of her league and this leads for her to notice bad qualities about him or simply disqualify him as potential partner thus in her eyes he is vein.similar process happens with guys when they see a beautiful girl and they start disqualifying her in their eyes as they have no confidence to approach or simply AA
So now to conclusion is arrogance a good trait or not? There are two answers to this question:
-Yes arrongance is good but only if you communicate with a person that has same value as you are or higher thus arrogance will be treated as confidence. In this case arrogance will represent your level of achievement, arrogance will represent your status , arrogance will represent your ego,social intuition and way of communication, as well as self-protection from weaker or lower value people in your live. Arrogance draws girls atraction towards you.
-No arrogance is not good, because from business point and average level of people you will be a dick therefore you will be hated and looked at as an enemy.People still will be attracted to you but the more arrogant you are the more lower valued ppl will find reasons to disqualify themselves from their league, the more they will want to see you fall or fail. Thats a ugly truth of life.
Solution is try to accomodate everyone but sometimes it is just not possible therefore dont let yourself be mislead by the word arrogant,vein and self-oriented it's not a bad traits and people call you that just because you positioned yourself above them and they will threatened . One of the main needs of the people is safety so when lower valued people are around higher valued people they feel threatened and due to need of safety they will disqualify you and try to test your frame.
So the line between confidence and arrogance lies between value of the people you talk to. In company of higher valued people it will be treated as confidence and in lower value circle it will be treated as arrogance.
Enjoy and I hope you will make the neccessary outcome out of the above post