What up everyone. Just to give a little background on myself, I’m 29 years old from Denver, Colorado. While I’ve never taken a bootcamp, I’ve been studying “game” for the last two years and really trying to push myself in the past 12 months. I couldn’t be more excited about this opportunity to push my limits over the next six weeks.
Day Zero: Wednesday, June 22nd
When I finally arrived at the Rockstar apartment I met my first roommate Matt from Australia. This was when I first realized how real this was. Interesting guys from around the world really are all coming together to challenge the very core of who we are and what we’re capable of.
Day One: Thursday, June 23rd
Our first meeting was a bit surreal. Me and the two guys staying in our apartment (Matt and Nick) we heading to meet a group of guys we’ve never met, many of which we’ve never even seen. However, any question of whether these guys would be weird was quickly overridden with a sense of how fun, interesting, and welcoming they were.
The most interesting part of the day was when everyone, instructors and students alike, gave their detailed backgrounds. While everyone is very different, the two constants were that 1) This is a group of guys that have had impressive successes in other aspects of their life, and 2) everyone is unsatisfied with their current level of success with women and willing to push their limits.
Field: We met at a local bar for dinner and it turned into a madhouse. Several instructors were in attendance (Mr. M, Venture, Sterling, and various others) and you could just feel a vibe about this group unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. Since I have never taken a boot camp, this was actually the first time I had ever seen people at the instructor level in action. Let’s just say I was incredibly impressed. I can’t wait to start learning more about how they get such awesome results with women.
Day Two: Friday, June 24th
We were very lucky that the timing of a boot camp in NYC coincided with our journey. Mr. M was the lead instructor, but for this special circumstance he was also able to bring Future, Venture (the Project Rockstar lead), Sterling (very bright up-and-coming instructor), and a couple approach coaches (including Laurent, a Rockstar from last year). The first day of class we covered openers and transitions to prepare us to confidently approach, and start a conversation with really any woman in the club.
Field: Wow. This night blew me away. I have had other nights in the past when I thought I was talking to a lot of girls. Tonight redefined what that means. I was at the club for about four hours and must have talked to at least 50 girls (probably 20 sets or so). While I got two phone numbers (one I really liked), I can tell my ability to smoothly escalate both emotionally and physically needs some work. After getting a much better look of what the instructors can do (guys that were in no better position that me when they first started!), I see tons of room for improvement in my game.
All-in-all, I was sort of in awe tonight. Everyone brought such great energy and all the instructors are really top notch. It’s exciting to see so many people coming together for a common purpose. And you can feel the extra energy when all the students, Rockstars, and Instructors are at the actual venue helping each other and bringing great energy. Each student, and Rockstar for that matter, is here because there is a deficiency in their ability to attract the woman of their choice. It’s inspiring to see so many people that refuse to simply accept that reality and instead choose to attack it head on. The balance of theory and practical application is interesting to see. I can already see it working a little, but there is certainly a long ways to go. I’m looking forward to what we cover tomorrow and if we can maintain the same level of excitement tomorrow night as we did tonight.
Day Three: Saturday, June 25th
Heading into today I was excited based on the whirlwind of last night. Today was day two of the bootcamp with an emphasis on attraction. It’s absolutely amazing what Love Systems instructors have done with the theory and practical application of attraction. While Magic Bullets is fantastic, you have no idea how much amazing insight is presented in these bootcamps. I have to give a special shout out to Sterling who blew my mind with what he’s done to consolidate all the best attraction material from instructors across the company – fantastic.
The most interesting section of today’s lecture, in my opinion, was on the newest concept of attraction. The instructors, particularly Sterling in this case, has done a great job of not only breaking out all the components, but also prioritizing them in a sense of priority and frequency. For example, two of the elements of building attraction that didn’t used to get discussed much they are actually now considered the two most important. Leaders in the industry have long talked about the importance of teasing, role plays, demonstrations of value, push pull, and various other routines. However, if you run your entire interaction with just these you are not maximizing your chance of success. The two elements they emphasize the most now are sub-communications and normal, organic conversation. First, without normal, organic conversation you can come off like a dancing monkey that’s trying too hard to impress her without bring any sense of normalcy. Secondly, and probably most importantly, every aspect of your interaction needs, or should, have the proper sub-communication. They say the majority of how we communicate is through non verbals. Not enhancing your sub-communications leaves significant opportunity on the table.
At night we headed to the same club as the previous night. While I was certainly ready for an awesome night. Tonight was a little tougher than last night. After learning so much new attraction material, I was attempting to put what I learned to work but it was coming out clunky. Just like any new challenge in life, there are growing pains. I experienced some of those pains tonight as I didn’t get any numbers. I look forward to chatting with the guys tomorrow about what I could have done better.
Day Four: Sunday, June 26th
Last day of the bootcamp. It was great to recap the events of last night with not only the other Rockstars, but also with the weekend bootcamp students. Just over the last two nights, I have heard so many stories about people (instructors, bootcamp students, and Rockstars) accomplishing feats they’ve never experienced before; it’s very inspirational. Some guys pulled numbers for the first time. Others made out with girls in the club for the first time. While others had same night lays with girls they met that night. I was most impressed with the students that had never before done any cold approaches. While they were lacking a lot of the learned skill, they brought great energy and a desire to learn. Probably just as importantly, they were willing to fail in order to learn. One of the biggest things I’m learning is that you have to be willing to try things and put yourself out there. In this hobby, you will get rejected more times than you can count. Even the best instructors get blown out frequently. This is a “game” that isn’t about how many times you lose or even what percentage of the time you win. This is a “game” that the only thing that matters is the number of times you win. Try more sets, build your skills, and you’ll succeed. However, the level to which you’ll succeed will depend on a number of factors. While I’d like to drop knowledge here and tell you everything you need to be successful, I’m realizing I still have so much to learn and my current game has many many holes. I look forward to continually pushing myself to see how much I can build my skills over the next six weeks.
I’m still in shock over the amount and quality of material that was presented to us over the last three days. Each instructor truly cares about giving the best possible experience to each student.
Tonight I’m taking my first opportunity to relax a bit and catch up on some sleep. I can sense that this is going to be an intense journey and I will need all the energy I can get.
Day Five: Monday, June 27th
Day Game!! This is the day I was most excited about when I saw our schedule for the week. I feel like I have been mentally conditioning myself for this day from soooooo long. I bought Soul’s Day Game book last August but hadn’t yet garnered the courage to use the recommended direct approach. I have literally wanted to use direct day game for 10 months… thank god I have instructors to push me. And big thanks to Nick Hoss and Bullet for teaching the topic in such a way that made it seem so simple and natural. It funny how approaching women in the day feels so different. Before I came here I can remember going out, walking the streets and shopping malls, telling myself, “today is the day I will do my first direct approach.” However, every day I tried, I would always hit this imaginary wall. When I first started doing it, I used to feel a ton of anxiety as I felt I was about to approach. Then over time, my anxiety lessened as I focused on controlling my emotions as I “thought” about approaching an attractive girl I saw. However, I was never able to actually approach… at least not directly.
Unbelievable. One of the best days of my life. I actually texted a couple of my friends today, “I think day game just changed my life.” For any of you that don’t do direct day game, you MUST change. Not only does it get results, but it just makes you feel like a fucking man with courage, confidence, and a desire for beautiful women. Despite today being my first attempt at day game, I approached six or seven very attractive girls and got one number. And the best part is, I was amazed at how relaxed I was throughout the conversations and after getting blown out a few times. Proof that something is only a big deal if you let it become a big deal. However, despite being relaxed, I’m realizing that I need a lot of practice at conducting better conversation in these situations. Women are pretty surprised when you randomly stop them on the street; a confident man should be able to lead an interesting conversation under these circumstances. I love day game.
Unbelievable. One of the best days of my life. I actually texted a couple of my friends today, “I think day game just changed my life.” For any of you that don’t do direct day game, you MUST change. Not only does it get results, but it just makes you feel like a fucking man with courage, confidence, and a desire for beautiful women. Despite today being my first attempt at day game, I approached six or seven very attractive girls and got one number. And the best part is, I was amazed at how relaxed I was throughout the conversations and after getting blown out a few times. Proof that something is only a big deal if you let it become a big deal. I love day game.
Day Six: Tuesday, June 28th
More day game. Similar story to yesterday… I love this stuff. While I didn’t get any phone numbers today, I stopped a few of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen in my life and delivered my opener with confidence. It just feels so damn amazing now that my words and actions are finally in alignment with my thoughts and desires. While I still have a ton to learn about making my daytime conversations as flowing and interesting as possible, I’m very pleased with my progress.
I’m also starting to notice the major differences between day game and night game. In fact, in some ways it seems completely different. In the day, you almost use no kino. At night, the most effective approach is to use quite a bit of varied kino. In the day, you have to come in at a controlled, relaxed energy level. At night, coming in at that energy level will make girls bored. Naturally, I think I am a little more relaxed so day game is jiving a little better than night game. In the day, there is a large focus on interesting, intriguing conversation. At night, you need much more attraction spikes. However, the more I learn, I notice that when night game is done right, you end up talking about many of the same topics as you would during the day. The biggest difference is that you have to periodically spike attraction harder during the night to keep the girl’s interest… especially if she’s with a group. However, during the day, lighter teasing can be sufficient if you’re connecting well with the girls. While I certainly have a lot to learn in each area, I’m excited about getting better at both. However, as I slowly start to progress I can see that the skills I build for night and day will almost be night and day different. I guess one big constant will be that any girl I get out from a daytime approach will need to be seduced at night. So nighttime skills are critical to building a well-rounded skill set. I’m excited to try to be as good at both as I can be.
Day Seven: Wednesday, June 29th
During the day today, I probably opened another eight girls and got one number. I’m definitely getting better at delivering strong, genuine openers during the day as well as leading smooth conversation. However, I need to continue to do a better of job of not just leading good conversation, but leading to topics I’m passionate about and I can show expertise over. While it’s easy to think about what you’d like to talk about when you’re preparing to go out, naturally leading the conversation to the topics you’re passionate about is tougher. When I’m talking to the girl, the first thing I’m thinking about it how do I keep the conversation fun and interesting – I want to make sure there are no boring lulls that makes her want to say, “well… I guess I’m going this way.” As I get better, I want to be maintaining this natural flow of conversation but mixing in topics that I know a lot about and show who I am. I’ve learned that most of this is about putting your best foot forward during the time you have. It’s not about made up stories and making yourself “look cool”. It’s really much more about actually living an interesting life and being skilled and showing other people the life you live.
Tonight was awesome. This was the first night all of us have gone out since Saturday. You could just feel the positive energy and the confidence after three days of day game. At any point in the night, you could look around the venue and catch Rockstars in sets all over the place; it was awesome to see. As for myself, I had great fun meeting a variety of people and taking my swing at a number of beautiful women. I got a number from a beautiful Interior Designer from Milan and a great conversation (but got the boyfriend stiff arm) with a sexy Private Equity Fund Manager whose family owns a major resort in Dubai. While I’m getting quite a bit better and getting conversation going, I’m noticing that I’m not doing a good enough job of making the girl chase me. Both Venture and Sterling both pointed out that I’m completely forgetting to use takeaways to bait these beautiful women into investing more into the conversation. I have no idea how I could have possibly noticed these things without their insight. Fuck I’m lucky to be here for these six weeks.
Day Eight: Thursday, June 30th
Today started out great when I met a cute girl on the street from Long Island during my run to the gym. Despite being completely sweaty, I decided, ‘fuck it, I’m talking to her’. Sure enough, the conversation went great and got her phone number. ANY TIME, ANY WHERE! Did I mention I love day game?!? I’m not sure if I’ll get around to following up with her (because we’re so busy) but I’m still very glad I approached. This is a skill set, like any other, that needs consistent practice. I’ve noticed this will be one of my main challenges – continuing to approach girls even when I’m not sure if I’ll be able to make anything from it. However, after reading my last sentence, I feel like I notice an inherent flaw. I need to truly believe that any interaction, anywhere, anytime, can noticeably change my life for the better. This is the perspective I would like to have. I realize it will take some work to get here but I’m willing to put in the effort.
In addition to getting her number, we also went shopping tonight and I had a fun conversation with a really cute girl at one of the shops and got her number as well. Man, that girl was cute. I hope I’m able to get her out.
More about my shopping experience – style makeovers are very hard. I was lucky enough to have Venture and Sterling roll with me to buy some new clothes. What I wasn’t ready for was them completely ripping into my current look. It’s weird, I’ve been turned down more times by women in the last week then almost the entire last year combined but somehow this dig into my style was at least ten times harder to deal with. It sounds ridiculous, but it took me literally 20 minutes to agree to buy a pair of boots they wanted me to get. In the end I just told them to tell me what I should buy and I’ll buy it. Reinventing yourself is not easy. I even acted like a bit of a dick during the process which I regret. I wish I could redo that moment so they knew just how much it meant to me that they were taking the time to help. Sorry for being a pain in the ass fellas; I promise my actions over the next few days will make up for it!
Day Nine: Friday, July 1st
Admittedly, I went to bed last night mentally exhausted. The whole makeover process makes you question a lot of your past. Have I been doing this all wrong my entire life? How would my interaction have been different had my style been different sooner? If my wardrobe was so bad, how was I able to have the decent successes I’ve had in the past? It’s funny how being ripped into that hard makes you wonder how I ever had any girl show interest. That being said, I woke up today with a refreshed feeling of excitement.
Sure enough, on my jog to the gym this morning I saw, and opened, two girls on the street. One had a boyfriend but the other, a beautiful blonde attorney, had just enough time before work to stop for a five minute conversation and give me her number. Yes!! I was pretty amazed after the fact how well it worked. However, I wonder sometimes how well these numbers will stick. In this instance, I texted her later today and I haven’t heard anything back. I’ll probably try her again soon, since she was really attractive, but I need to continue pushing getting better at really hitting deep conversation so that after I leave, she really wants to see me again. When you only have 5 minutes to talk to a girl, as with this busy attorney, you have to make it memorable outside of the sheer fact that you approached her during the day. For the most desired women, I can’t imagine just having balls is enough. You must also have great conversation skills in addition to being able to demonstrate a ton a value.
Tonight we headed back to the same rooftop bar from last week. I was really excited about tonight because it’s the first weekend night since our bootcamp and my first chance to unleash my new threads! I entered the club with great energy, ready to have some fun. It worked. I had more success with multiple beautiful women tonight than any other night in my life. I got three numbers from women I was really attracted to which is something I’ve never done before. And not only have I seen improvement within myself, but it seems as though the entire group of Rockstars are really kicking ass as well. You could feel the impact our group was having on the bar. So much fun.
Day Ten: Saturday, July 2nd
More shopping today. Nothing significant to report from day game. Tonight we through a pre party at one of the Rockstar’s lofts. It was actually a bit low key as I didn’t want to hit on any of the girls that the other guys brought and the girl I invited that said she was coming didn’t make it. Oh well. I’ll re-energize for tomorrow and hopefully meet some more in day game.
I realize after the party that I should have taken a more proactive approach to making conversation. Even if I wasn’t trying to attract the girls, I could have at least been more active in winging for them and simply having interesting conversation. I have a bad habit of when I don’t start strong, it’s very difficult for me to get going. I imagine most people feel this but I shouldn’t let myself use it as an excuse to have a poor night. Wouldn’t it be awesome to be the type of person who doesn’t let any specific interaction, or lack of interaction, affect their mood. However, like I said before, I’ve definitely been guilty of letting this get to me. Looking forward, I wonder what I can do differently to help prevent this spiral. Maybe I should be more open with some of the other guys and have a shared understand that our jobs are to help boost each other on down days. Or maybe I just need to build a strong enough foundation that no matter what happens I have enough confidence in myself, and I’m enough self entertained that I can find fun in any circumstance. While using others may not be a bad idea, I get the feeling that being self sufficient would certainly be more productive. You won’t always have people to count on to push you, especially when I go back home. If I’m not fully prepared to fend for myself and be my own biggest motivation, I sincerely risk falling back into old bad habits. I’ve worked so hard, and risked so much to fight out of those bad habits and get into this program. The last thing I want to do is take a step backward.