Hey dudes, so I think this is something that should be said because it does happen a lot on the forum and we really should get something straight. The ultimate goal of the seduction community is to move forward with your life. That includes meeting new women and having more options in your dating, but is also encompassing how to have better social interactions, how to meet new fascinating people, and befriend them, how to keep your social calendar booming, and most importantly, developing all the qualities of a high-status man that people would want to be around. Moving forward in your life also includes leaving behind negative influences and people that have affected your life in the past. That includes ex-girlfriends and bad friends.
Move Forward in Your Life, not Backward
Going back to your ex-girlfriends is almost always a bad idea, even if it is just for quickie sex. Let me explain why. There is a reason why you two broke up in the first place. Whether someone was cheating, you two were always fighting, or you two just werenít emotionally compatible in any way, there is always a good reason for the breakup. When you go back to such a person, you are damaging yourself in a many ways.
First, do you think the problems that you had during your relationship are just going to magically go away? No, they are still going to be there and you will be shaking your head soon again with her same old bitching, and you will start wondering why you went back. Secondly, you will lose respect in her eyes, and in the eyes of most people, because a real man makes a decision and sticks with it. You broke up with her for a reason, and now by going back to her, it shows you are not a man of your word. This is the last thing you would want tarred onto your record. Remember: reputation is everything.
Lastly, you may think that going back Ďjust for sexí is an alpha move and would allow you to enjoy your ex-girlfriend just one more time without the drama. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Let me tell you why: that move tells your ex that you canít get pussy anywhere else, and that you are hard-up for a piece: Loss of more respect. Your time would better be spent finding some girl who you can actually connect with and getting her to divulge in a hot game of hide the pickle. In all three cases, you end up looking like a man without a backbone, without options, and without heart. Resist the temptation and move forward. Let me give you an example of this so you guys can see this better.
Chuck has been in the seduction community for 10 months, and is really seeing the benefits to following Magic Bullets and going out to sarge every weekend with his wingmen. He has updated his style and no longer looks like a computer nerd fresh from a 20-hour WOW marathon. Chuckís life never used to be so hot. He had a girlfriend around 4 months ago, a relationship that lasted all of 2 months. They had sex a lot early on, but it quickly got boring for both parties, and they did a lot of fighting. Plus it was his first real relationship since entering the seduction community and he had a lot to learn still. He made a ton of mistakes, and she lost respect for him. However he turned down her last invitation to come back to her for sex, even though he had nothing better to do that night. For Chuck, itís all about self-esteem: he couldnít bear the thought of going back to someone whom he knew he wasnít good for him in the long run. Chuck used that night to phone/text some new leads of his instead, and now has two dates for the weekend with a smoking hot blonde he met at the gym, and a cute bookworm brunette with the most innocent eyes youíve ever seen.
On the other hand, Dan has also been in the seduction community for almost a year, and also has an ex-girlfriend who calls him asking him to come over. Dan doesnít remember that all they did was fight, nor does he remember the times she laughed at him because he couldnít get it up for sex. Dan only remembers his current loneliness and decides to go over; forsaking the numbers of the two girls he met this weekend.
Dan and his ex have sex and decide to give it one more go. Within a week, Dan is miserable again. He forgot how much his ex-girlfriend bitched and moaned about the small things. He forgot she went number 2 with the door wide open (how gross). He forgot that her personality didnít match up with his and there was a reason behind why they broke up in the first place.
Who seems to be moving forward with their life: Chuck or Dan?
When it all comes down to it, itís easy to recognize guys. Going BACK to an ex is moving BACKwards in your life. You lose all the time you spent moving forwards in a moment of weakness. Instead, resist the temptation, keep your eye on the ball (improving your life in terms of women, friends, and respect), and reject that offer. Trust me, youíll be happier in the long run.