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    Had sex with a coworker I barely know

    Hi:

    last night, a coworker and I went out, had some drinks and ended up having sex.
    I feel kind of weird because at work we barely talk and also, I think my performance on bed was not that good. It was very late and I was tired.

    When we run into each other we just say hi. I don't know how I should behave now. I like her in some way, but i also know from her that she's bisexual, so any possibility of hanging seriously is not considered.

    She's 20, has just gotten separated from her husband and now she lives on her own in a room she's renting.

    If i want to continue having sex with her, should I just lay back and wait for her to come to me?



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    Just be the same guy as the guy she originally had sex with, don't change anything. In my experience when a girl sleeps with you, you'll always get a second chance to sleep with her(if it's not a one night stand you met at the bar). They may chalk up the bad performance to just being with someone new.

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    I'd like to keep her as a friend with benefits, and not get into the idea that we are dating. I want to go out with her to some shows or public events having her pay for her own expenses, and not me doing that.

    How do I get to do that?

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    Do whatever the fuck you want. I don't like the sound of friends with benefits. Fuck buddy is more to my liking. If you want to fuck her and fuck other chicks do it. Just don't lead her on because that's a bitch move. You could go out to a club and find another chick to take home and have a 3 way since she's bi.

    It's not uncommon for young women to be bisexual. A lot of women that are in their early 20's say they are bi sexual. As the woman get's older she figures out she is straight.

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    becareful man i fucked a girl at work and then she wanted to start the whole relationship thing i pissed her off and she became my boss and totally screwed me and i had to quit because she made my life hell

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    when we were going to the hotel that night, we passed by a night club that I usually attend. I told her that and she was interested in learning to dance since she's not good at it. She told me she'd like me to teach her some moves.

    I saw in her facebook that a female friend of hers wrote in her wall telling her to have a ladies night out this weekend.
    Should I still ask her out knowing that she has already been asked out by her friend? She hasn't answered anything yet.
    if so, should I do it by tomorrow or maybe wait one day before Saturday?

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    Quote Originally Posted by charly26 View Post
    when we were going to the hotel that night, we passed by a night club that I usually attend. I told her that and she was interested in learning to dance since she's not good at it. She told me she'd like me to teach her some moves.

    I saw in her facebook that a female friend of hers wrote in her wall telling her to have a ladies night out this weekend.
    Should I still ask her out knowing that she has already been asked out by her friend? She hasn't answered anything yet.
    if so, should I do it by tomorrow or maybe wait one day before Saturday?
    Ask her.

    You don't know that she's been asked out because your far too busy doing cool shit to be spending time on facebook stalking her

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    You're right orbb.

    We were chatting this afternoon and then I decided to ask her out to dance, so I was like "I plan to go dancing to xxx, come with me"
    I don't like to be passive using things along the lines of "can you go out?" or "are you free this weekend?".

    Well, she said that she couldn't because she already had plans. I wanted to sound cocky and funny and told her to cancel her plans because she'd have more fun with me. Also I used it as a way to show some kind of confidence that spending time with me is worth it.

    She laughed and said she couldn't go canceling plans. At the end, I said no probs.

    Thanks to my acceptable inner game that I have developed, I didn't take it personally, only as how it is: she had already plans.
    Now I can check out my others options or plan Bs, and I was thinking of not asking her out again until she shows some interest in me

    What do you think?

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    I still don't know if I should ask her out again. It's been almost 2 weeks. We usually run into each other at work, say hi and exchange some few words, and that's it.

    online, we barely talk, and when we do, things go fine, but the other day I imply that she should buy me a drink as a way to pay me for a favor I did to her at work, I said this in a playful way, and she was like, "We'll see".

    I don't know what to think: she's lost attraction, or wants me to ask her again and pursue her more?
    I remember her saying online when we chat that she doesn't play hard to get, and I confirmed it because we had sex the first time we met.
    But when I see her, she looks so independent, and unattached on the outside.

    As for now, I just play things cool, and don't show that I like her. Inside, sometime my emotions run wild, because I'd like to fuck her again.

    What do you suggest?

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    It sounds like all she was looking for was a one night stand. When a girl's into you, you'll know trust me. She won't play hard to get like this. Best thing you can do is move on and keep being cool/funny around her. If she comes around, great, but don't push it or else you'll only drive her further away from you.

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