Thread: How quiet is too quiet?
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03-29-2011, 06:57 PM #1
During social circle interactions I like to talk and chime in quite a bit. However, I always like to sit back, chill, and let others take the conversation. I feel like this adds mystery to my overall appearance, but how little conversing is too little?
How quiet is too quiet?
My body language is fine in a sense that I take up plenty of my own space, don't slouch, keep eye contact, smile, laugh, etc.
03-29-2011, 07:39 PM #2
Anything less than 249 words is too quiet.
But really man, do what you want and feel comfortable with. If you enjoy sitting back and observing for the most part, do it. If you have an "aura" about you, it'll outweigh your lack of speaking and pull girls in.
Even Braddock says that he isn't always the center of attention and sits back at times.
03-29-2011, 08:27 PM #3
I do the same thing too sometimes shwnd. I like to sometimes just have someone else be the center of attention and take the spotlight, so to speak, and just kind of chill and enjoy the show while they entertain the group.
Realize though that even if you're not speaking, people, girls specifically, will still be paying attention to and noticing your non-verbal communication. So be extra aware of your body language and facial expressions. Even if I'm not the one speaking and all eyes aren't on me, I can still command attention and get laughs just from my facial expressions and non-verbal reactions to what the people talking just said. I can do that because the girls are aware of not just the speaker, but also everyone else in the group listening.
And like Bearing said, be comfortable. Be the cool guy who doesn't need to be the center of attention, instead of being the guy who goes, "Oh no I'm not the center of attention! I need something to DHV quick to win all the girls over! I'm getting AMOG'ed!!!"
03-29-2011, 08:34 PM #4
One of the best naturals I know is rarely the center of attention. He's always sitting back with a cool,calm,collected look (because he really is).
03-29-2011, 11:59 PM #5
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One thing I like to do, especially when I'm not talking (or the center of attention) is interrupt and make a quick comment on something that's been said. But I don't jump in with something like "Oh my god, really!!!?" or "Wow that rocks", those sound...how can I describe this, unnecessary? For instance, if they said: "blah blah blah and I went skydiving for the first time and I wasn't scared at all and...", I might respond with "wait, so you're telling me your very first time skydiving you WEREN'T scared? Bullshit", of course you don't say it in a way to be provocative, but rather inquisitive (if that makes sense).
03-30-2011, 03:13 AM #6
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I like to be the most quiet person in the circle, but through WHAT I say and my body language I know that WHEN I speak I have everybody's attention immediately and my words have respect. That said, it is a personality thing. If you are a blubbermouth who never shuts up, that works just as well as being the person who keeps the energy high in the group.
03-30-2011, 06:40 AM #7
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