How quiet is too quiet?

Discuss How quiet is too quiet? at the General Discussion within the The Attraction Forums. Dating Advice.; How quiet is too quiet? During social circle interactions I like to talk and chime ...

Results 1 to 7 of 7
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Gender:
    Posts
    424
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    How quiet is too quiet?

    During social circle interactions I like to talk and chime in quite a bit. However, I always like to sit back, chill, and let others take the conversation. I feel like this adds mystery to my overall appearance, but how little conversing is too little?

    My body language is fine in a sense that I take up plenty of my own space, don't slouch, keep eye contact, smile, laugh, etc.


    Read this post, for the sake of manhood.

    http://www.theattractionforums.com/culture-lifestyle/118569-stifled-man-definition-manhood-2.html#post725896

  2. #2
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Gender:
    Location
    North Jersery
    Age
    25
    Posts
    855
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Anything less than 249 words is too quiet.

    But really man, do what you want and feel comfortable with. If you enjoy sitting back and observing for the most part, do it. If you have an "aura" about you, it'll outweigh your lack of speaking and pull girls in.

    Even Braddock says that he isn't always the center of attention and sits back at times.
    "You are literally too stupid to insult" "Thank you".

    Oh, by the way, did I mention I'm awesome?

    I am writing my life to laugh at myself. And I am succeeding.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Gender:
    Location
    the craft beer aisle
    Posts
    903
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 4 Times in 3 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    I do the same thing too sometimes shwnd. I like to sometimes just have someone else be the center of attention and take the spotlight, so to speak, and just kind of chill and enjoy the show while they entertain the group.

    Realize though that even if you're not speaking, people, girls specifically, will still be paying attention to and noticing your non-verbal communication. So be extra aware of your body language and facial expressions. Even if I'm not the one speaking and all eyes aren't on me, I can still command attention and get laughs just from my facial expressions and non-verbal reactions to what the people talking just said. I can do that because the girls are aware of not just the speaker, but also everyone else in the group listening.

    And like Bearing said, be comfortable. Be the cool guy who doesn't need to be the center of attention, instead of being the guy who goes, "Oh no I'm not the center of attention! I need something to DHV quick to win all the girls over! I'm getting AMOG'ed!!!"

  4. #4
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Gender:
    Location
    North Jersery
    Age
    25
    Posts
    855
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    One of the best naturals I know is rarely the center of attention. He's always sitting back with a cool,calm,collected look (because he really is).
    "You are literally too stupid to insult" "Thank you".

    Oh, by the way, did I mention I'm awesome?

    I am writing my life to laugh at myself. And I am succeeding.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Gender:
    Posts
    161
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    One thing I like to do, especially when I'm not talking (or the center of attention) is interrupt and make a quick comment on something that's been said. But I don't jump in with something like "Oh my god, really!!!?" or "Wow that rocks", those sound...how can I describe this, unnecessary? For instance, if they said: "blah blah blah and I went skydiving for the first time and I wasn't scared at all and...", I might respond with "wait, so you're telling me your very first time skydiving you WEREN'T scared? Bullshit", of course you don't say it in a way to be provocative, but rather inquisitive (if that makes sense).

    Quote Originally Posted by Bearing View Post
    But really man, do what you want and feel comfortable with.
    "do what you feel comfortable with" is not always the best advice, some might be comfortable with not saying a word for 20min, wouldn't work great though

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Gender:
    Location
    Newcastle, Australia
    Age
    30
    Posts
    1,168
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    I like to be the most quiet person in the circle, but through WHAT I say and my body language I know that WHEN I speak I have everybody's attention immediately and my words have respect. That said, it is a personality thing. If you are a blubbermouth who never shuts up, that works just as well as being the person who keeps the energy high in the group.
    The secret to ALL success is the same - patience, practice and confidence.

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Gender:
    Age
    30
    Posts
    595
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Quote Originally Posted by shwnd View Post
    During social circle interactions I like to talk and chime in quite a bit. However, I always like to sit back, chill, and let others take the conversation. I feel like this adds mystery to my overall appearance, but how little conversing is too little?

    My body language is fine in a sense that I take up plenty of my own space, don't slouch, keep eye contact, smile, laugh, etc.
    It's interesting this and related questions have come up a few times this morning. I posted in another thread along similar lines. Too much of a challenge
    The original Goths . . . showed no mercy to their enemies; killed their parents, when they became old and infirm; had few religious ideas; worshipped a drawn sword as a divinity; were filthy in their personal habits; and recognized only the law of the strongest.

Similar Threads

  1. I'm becoming quiet again
    By Grr in forum General Discussion
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 10-05-2008, 02:12 PM
  2. Why can't I be a Quiet Pua?
    By playahelp in forum The 18-21 Forum
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 03-12-2008, 01:35 PM
  3. quiet girls
    By vice001 in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 02-28-2007, 02:31 PM
  4. Use your quiet time!
    By Sy in forum General Discussion
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 04-18-2006, 12:14 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  • Forum Rules

Recommended


Daytime Dating



Magic Bullets



Beyond Words



Love Systems Routines Manual



The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game



Interview Series



Love Systems Relationship Management



Love Systems Program Schedule





Facebook  Twitter