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Getting started When you first start out it is important to understand that ...
Getting startedWhen you first start out it is important to understand that you're ego want's you to stay the way you are. The ego is afraid of change and want's you to stay status quo. This is why you must take control of you're ego and realize that with out it you can have far greater success with women then you thought possible.
If you want to be able to succeed with women you must be willing to loose everything including you’re ego in every possible encounter with the opposite sex, only then can you truly succeed with women. Only in accepting the possibility of failure can you learn to appreciate moreover understand how absolute success with women is possible.
A frame can not help you if you're ego is telling you that that HB by the bar will reject you. Frames will only work if you truly believe in them moreover believe in you're self. So unless you're willing to drop that precious ego you can forget about frames as you will not need one, you will be at the mercy of the HB on every approach.
I was just reading a pm of a fellow PUA and I thought that this might help him as well as everyone else trying to obtain success with women.
I hope this makes sense,
I think it's well put.
To quote Tyler Durden (the Fight Club one):
"It's not until you lose everything that you are free to do anything."
I would like to point out that if anyone needs any extra help feel free to PM me.
my first post
I understand what your saying about your ego wanting to stay in the same place and my inner game has come a long way since being an AFC. I started out with David D's stuff and then his interview series and some of the books hes recommended and then in the past 2 or 3 months I've moved to MM stuff. So far I have really only incorporated the stuff I have learned into my interactions with girls and mutual aquantances and I've noticed a lot of progress. So now after that spill, I'll get onto what I'm saying,... I'm a fairly social, popular guy around my campus and hometown and I would really like to do the newbie mission but I worry about doing it in my hometown and around all the campus hangouts, bars, clubs etc because I always see people I know at these places. In my mind, I like to think that I could go to a different city and just get alot of the approach anxiety out of the way and get some approaches under my belt... Basically, do you have any advice as far as the problem I just posed or a similar on you have heard of before?
Thanks for your time,
When you're approaching don't put any value on the outcome of the situation, it's all a learning experience!
Don't think of an HB as a possible close, think of her as a study tool, a tool that you can use however you want. Even if you're friends see you talking up these women they will just assume that you already know them.
Remember Chris, it's just talking with women no one will think any different the difference between a PUA and a Player is a Player brags and get's himself burned...understand?
Anyway if I’m off topic just pm me and I'll go into it in more depth.