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Confused by Girls Responses - Help Needed
I could do with a little help and advice regarding a situation that has occurred a few times of late when out in the field. I have read the mystery method and magic bullets manuals and am aware of the emotional progressional model and stages that go into a pick-up. ie. open, transition, attract, qualify, comfort, seduce. On some recent nights out i've noticed that directly after opening a girl, or set of girls, THEY ASK ME the questions that all men are told to avoid at least until the comfort stage ie. how old are you, what do you do. Because this happens so early into the interaction it takes me somewhat by surprise and leaves me unsure of what to do next. There questions seem to be IOIs yet i haven't really done anything, other than open, to gain their attraction. If this happens what is the best way to handle it? Do i still use the progression model and demonstrate attraction, then qualify etc, or do i skip attraction as they seem to be giving IOIs and go straight into qualification? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Definitely cool that they are asking questions. You have caught momentum and roll with it and have fun with it. Don't give any info easy...not yet at least. How old are you? Guess...ok you only get three and if you lose then.... Or if they are firing off all these interview questions, I usually grab their beer and speak into the microphone. Then ask a serious question and then go back to being funny. While you are doing this make sure you are kino escalating. Then isolate her and really start qualifying her. Then give her some props for being cool and BAM go for the kiss! haha. I love this game.
Originally Posted by ps1605
the microphone things was badass. So their are certain questions that are normal conversational questions that you answer (after of course you make them fall in your hoop first-just like he just said with the "guess" thing).
normal conversation questions are how old are you? whats your favorite beer? what music do you listen to? -almost like our small hoop qualifiers, but theyre just making conversation, not necessarily screening us. I think by answering them, we are engaging in normal conversation, as opposed to the less personal plowing.
Of course their are questions that shouldnt be answered because theyre innapropriate earlier on, like what do you do?
its a shit test to see if you'll answer, if you do it means your low value (who would volunteer something that personal to someone with uknown value to them).
of course when she asks you later on in comfort what do you do, its a reasonable question, as your values are more or less equal.
Yes move onto qualification if theyre showing interest, BY DEFINITION. heres how it looks:
"how old are you mister"?-she must have been attracted to your opening mannerisms/behaviors-so now your ready to qualify/have a normal personal conversation
do you want me to guess high or low?-she reframes
i dont give a shit-you reframe
ok 90-she reframes
omg what would your friends think of you, gettin it on with a grampa?-qualification/reframe
Some girls might be asking you comfort questions because they're interested. Others may ask because they feel awkward and want to get the conversation into comfortable areas out of politeness and not interest.
In either scenario I would suggest the tactic of the first poster to reply here, and challenge or play with them a little. If you playfully refuse to go down their route of conversation you can easily move into attraction by starting a conversation of your own with an attraction theme.
Or if you're sure she's asking these comfort establishing questions because she's interested, you can answer them if the answers provide any form of DHV to yourself, such as what do you? - If you have a DHV job.
Recently I was asked what I studied, without running any sort of transition or attraction material, and when I gave the answer the girl escalated kino and remarked on how 'clever' I must be - She's the only person who's ever given that reaction to my degree (degrees usually aren't at all interesting) so she was clearly attracted - To the point where it was obvious to her friend who was also with us and interrupted with 'she has a boyfriend you know' while initiating kino with me herself.
Obviously both of them had some attraction so I could get away with answering their comfort building questions. Just be sure you know what phase you're in.
Thanks for all the advice guys. I look forward to trying it out.
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