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Very handsome but no confidence with women
'im probably one of the Rare handsome jewels that Doesn't get laid as much...' Hi guys, this is my first post. Im hoping someone can halp me out...maby multiple people lol.. I am 23 and very handsome, I mean i banged alot of girls in the past. But bad thing is most of it was due to my looks. I grew up ugly, teased, goth, no confidence, always got rejected, but that was the past.. somehow, lol, im really handsome at the age of like 21 and been with around 30-40 something women since I was like 20. Im 24 now. including one 6 month relationship and a 5 month relationship. Dude, whats up, I havent gottenlaid in like 4-5 months!! , I get tons of flirting, but my game is somehow knocked off.. im more shy and reserved, i dont want them to see that i might not have a fun personality. and I need to know how to get back into the game..
No routines no dhv high value etc... I got into that a long time ago and all it did was fuck me up even worse... What is some 'natural swagger kind of things i can do to have women or enhance my personality?? Go and talk to strangers.....give random compliments.... etc Thanks for any help in advance.. I heard something about direct game, but i used to go around approaching women all day with 'direct' game' and I failed massively. Despite my looks. Approaching random women with 'game' is pointless. I need natural stuff. What is a personality that I should work on to be all around more a magnetic guy? or atleast have great 'swagger' I had more luck blowing my nose around a hot woman than trying to 'act attractive'
Thanks guys you are awesome
I had the same problem.
Women who are an 8 rather than a 9/10 believe you are joking etc if you go direct - it hits really strongly with the super beautiful girls, but even just normally 'hot' girls won't have it hit as well with. To be honest, it's a waste of time (and generally actually far more difficult) going for a girl in looks under 9/10 - guys who are really good looking have their options naturally cut out for them (which is a good thing ).
You don't need attraction routines as much (like high value stuff which is heavy on the cocky/funny - girls just think you are way too arrogant). Just assume attraction and go straight into qualification and sexualisation. I've been doing that and I've found it has been a lot better for me. Be high value in your body language and presence, and don't worry about 'high value' routines (such as 'smart-hot-rich from Brad P, and even the 'horse girl' opener backfires for me).
It's kind of why many of hot babes have unappealing personalities: they never had to develop them. You've been able to rely on your looks and never developed a speaking personality.
So have you tried to educate yourself by reading up on game? You really think you're the first good looking guy that has no game?
This thread smacks of Jive Turkey Droppings.
Get a part-time job as a bartender and work on all those social skills that need work... laughter funny, wit, in the moment comfort and good talk... you get on the job training as
a bartender... digits etc....
Go for it!!!
IM me if you want to sarge. - Orgasmatron
Miami, FL USA
Be a bartender? Cool, I used to be a server and ,my social skills were amazing, i was banging a few girls, but now, I dont really have a social life, i think its because I dont trust people to open up and be real with everything and how i am. and how i feel. Alot of girls will 'think' I have a social life and alot of girlfriends but im tired of fronting like I have it, just because they assume it. Guys would like to have this problem but its a pain in the ass. Routines and 'approaching' and 'negs' and 'dhv' is worthless in the long run, I 've tried it. Trust me.. Im too scared to be a server or a bartender, but will it really make me a social God? I mean what else can I do?
What do YOU guys do to be successful, or have women wanting you?
I would love to know...GSP, Go straight into qualification? I don't even have a social life, is that my problem? (how can i bust on her with something I DON'T even have) I have my brother, and stuff but im usually just driving the streets alone and going to academy of health care professions mon-thur..
Do i practice flirting with women? What do you guys suggest? WTF is this 'game' thing
you say negging, dhv and apporaching doesnt work?
Its obvious you'r not doing it right, because it DOES work. This forum is testimont to that.. just try harder and don't be a fucking pussy. Don't quit cuz it doesn't instantly work, it takes time and dedication. PLus, what you are saying is only 20%, the remaining is your body language and eye contact.
Make guy friends, you cant be attractive to women if you have no testosterone lol Start playin sports, start working in some socially active places, like the guy above said as a bartender, waiter, in retail and whatnot.
Its not only about what you say and do to girls, but rather what you do in your life in general.
If what you are now is not working for you, its time to change.. maybe for the better or maybe for the worse, you wont know until you've tried, so take the leap babycakes
If you did what you fear eventually you overcome it and in time you run out
of fears in your life...
Then you are a fearless man...
You will be getting laid all the time....
IM me if you want to sarge. - Orgasmatron
Miami, FL USA
What is up with this trend? This is like the 4th thread I've seen in the past month that's on topic of: "I'm super handsome. Help!!"
Try dressing like a goofball to cancel it out?
I hated the movie too.
Well, think about it like this: why on Earth would a some random girl be interested in spending time with you if all you've got going for you are your looks? And personally I think it's far worse not have a decent social life than having a temporary dry season in the lady department.
Originally Posted by hotnspicy
I guess I'm pretty good looking myself (several eyewitness accounts, not just my own delusion of grandeur ) and it's not uncommon that girls approach me in bars, clubs and such. But after they open up a conversation and indicate interest, I still need to make a good impression, display social savvy and so on. Looks just give a head start, that's all.
And believe me, I've mucked up plenty of those opportunities to know it's one thing to get girl interested in you and another to take her home with you.
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