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    Girl is SCARED of me?

    Hey just yesterday I asked a shy girl to go see a movie with me next Friday. She agreed but she said "you scare me". I'm like "whaaat!?? What do you mean??", she says that she's 110% sure I'm the player type who doesn't "care". I'm like woah I care all too much don't worry. Yeah so I was planning on having sex with this girl sooner or later but how am I gonna pull that off now???



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    Quote Originally Posted by Johnny G View Post
    Hey just yesterday I asked a shy girl to go see a movie with me next Friday. She agreed but she said "you scare me". I'm like "whaaat!?? What do you mean??", she says that she's 110% sure I'm the player type who doesn't "care". I'm like woah I care all too much don't worry. Yeah so I was planning on having sex with this girl sooner or later but how am I gonna pull that off now???
    You want to be talking to many girls.

    Of course Iím a player, just looking for the right woman to reform me.

    Possible response next time girls says player shit

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    Quote Originally Posted by Johnny G View Post
    Hey just yesterday I asked a shy girl to go see a movie with me next Friday. She agreed but she said "you scare me". I'm like "whaaat!?? What do you mean??", she says that she's 110% sure I'm the player type who doesn't "care". I'm like woah I care all too much don't worry.
    Stop defending yourself. Think of a response where you don't defend yourself. To tell the truth, I've fallen into this trap myself, too. Now I just blow it up. If she says, "you're a player", I answer "Yep, you're my 5th date today".

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    whaaat!?? What do you mean??",
    See? You let her shake your reality and straight up snatch your frame from you. It was a test... you failed it, but that's okay. Don't give her a straight answer: or in other words "reframe" her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Johnny G View Post
    Hey just yesterday I asked a shy girl to go see a movie with me next Friday. She agreed but she said "you scare me". I'm like "whaaat!?? What do you mean??", she says that she's 110% sure I'm the player type who doesn't "care". I'm like woah I care all too much don't worry. Yeah so I was planning on having sex with this girl sooner or later but how am I gonna pull that off now???
    Girls are most scared of nice guys, those willing to take their time rather than rushing into kissing and sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blue12 View Post
    Girls are most scared of nice guys, those willing to take their time rather than rushing into kissing and sex.
    didnt understand that

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    Quote Originally Posted by a11111 View Post
    didnt understand that
    You didn't understand because you must be a player. The woman in this post like nearly every other woman most certaily demands that the guy is a player.

    Women like excitment and bad boy players. They are drawn to them like moths to a flame. When you are not a player, they are scared of you. I have no idea why, except they like adventure and drama.

    Women are especially scared of older inexperienced males. They don't want to be a training ground and will panic if someone says they are an older 20 something virgin. They will really really panic if you are a virgin in your 30s. You try to hide it but they see right through it and run as fast as they can.

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    She's scared I'll bang her and just never talk to her again

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    Quote Originally Posted by Johnny G View Post
    She's scared I'll bang her and just never talk to her again
    That's only part of it.

    The other part is that she wants to know how you react. If you start justifying yourself, you show one thing and say something else. In her eyes, that'll make you look suspicious.

    Think about it -- turn it around.

    Suppose you know a girl who dresses very sexy.
    • You tell her she's a tease, and she reacts in a defensive way. What do you think then?
    • You tell her she's a tease, and she reacts with a smile and asks whether you like it. What do you think now?

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    If you really did scare her, she wouldn't be going to the movies with you.

    When girls say "you scare me" like that (or "you're dangerous"), they're attracted but don't want to give in on the first date, or want to feel like they're the only girl in the room you're paying attention to. Try not to prove yourself, just enjoy the date and she'll either react positively to you when you escalate kino or she'll close herself off.

    You have the control over how serious you want to take it, but that's after you've gotten to know her real well and she's hinting at wanting a relationship. If you feel you have to take time, tell her so, even if it means she starts threatening to end it or won't let you f-close her if you don't say the "L" word first.

    Just remember it's not an oath or a promise, it's an emotion you either feel or you don't. It doesn't mean you're swearing to be exclusive with her.

    Again, treat her like she's the only one in the room, the hottest chick in the room, because she's going to notice you checking other girls out and will make comments, or keep them to herself.

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