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02-23-2010, 06:27 PM #1
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It seems like I can’t help but be lazy lately, and only got a fire lit under my ass to write this after a long discussion with TrueStory. Also, if you have yet to check out his posts, do yourself a favor, and read some. You’ll learn something, guaranteed. Now onto the show.
You Need More Options
As it usually begins, I think of a topic to write about based upon certain behaviors I notice on the forums. In this case, one behavior I’ve noticed a lot lately is that most guys do not seem to have enough options with the women, and end up chasing one woman too much. The guys that have been around a long time know that at some point, it becomes more about reeling girls in then it is about constantly chasing women. Why? Because you’ve learned how to make yourself into an attractive man, and it makes your job a lot easier when things just fit into place and the women come to you.
Now as a new guy, you are probably thinking to yourself, “Well shit, Pittser, I can’t help that, I’m still new in the game, and learning!” True, but you can still maximize your results by gaming as many women as you can. This is good for several reasons:
1. Trial by Fire: Nothing does more to influence your learning curve than immersing yourself with many women. Not only do you get to experience all the different types of women’s behaviors quickly, you notice patterns, and are able to identify those patterns a lot earlier. For example: You can custom make your conversations around topics that would most easily connect with women. You wouldn’t talk about baseball to a Goth chick, but you would talk about piercings. A girl who mentions sports often and early in a conversation will allow you to steer your verbal banter towards more appropriate topics, such as the Winter Olympics. If you immerse yourself in women, you’ll be able to start identifying patterns a lot earlier than your average player.
2. No More Neediness: You won’t have time to obsess over a single chick when you have Krista texting you every 5 minutes, and Stephanie calling you every time she feels horny (Stephanie is a nympho). You are going to be exhausted from keeping up with every girl, that anytime a girl STOPS texting you, you’ll be happy to get a break! You won’t have time to analyze every single decision, which leads us to my next point.
3. Quick Thinking: How many times do we see new threads that say “Quick!! Need fast reply!!” here? Perhaps like 3 a day? Well you can say goodbye to that. You’ll learn to be quick on your feet because your ass doesn’t have time to wait. This will also make you less dependant on pickup literature, and a more well-rounded player. Plus, when you become a witty conversationalist, you will be soaking more panties than you can shake a stick at.
4. More Chances to Get Laid: I have always said that pickup, at its core, is a numbers game. Think about it. If you only have a 10% success rate, and you only talk to 10 girls in a month, then you may get laid with just 1 girl. But if you talk to 100 girls in a month, well that’s 10 girls that you have a decent shot of playing hide the pickle with. No matter how shitty you are, there is some girl out there that thinks you are cool, and will sleep with you. Once you figure out how to properly game her, then you can start increasing your success rate, and laying more girls.
5. More Things To Do: Once you have a few women on the roster, say goodbye to your free time. Sitting home on a Friday night? Don’t think so, because Sandra wants you to come out and do shots for her birthday, and Saturday morning, Bryanna wants you to go get breakfast with her, but not before she’s allowed to suck you off beforehand (chicks really are this kinky). More things to do, also translates to more people you can meet. At Sandra’s birthday party, you get to mingle with the crowd, and perhaps meet Anya, the tall Russian blonde who is giving you fuck-me eyes. As it turns out, Anya has a whole bunch of cool friends, and the cycle begins again. You’ll wonder why the hell you spent the majority of your early years shut inside watching reruns of Seinfeld.
What to do if you find yourself chasing one chick too hard? STOP. Hit the breaks dude. If she’s starting to ignore text messages, or lose that twinkle in her eyes, then take a step back. She’s probably losing interest, and you are soon to be friended. What you need to do is go under the radar for a while. Go out and meet some new girls. Get some new numbers and crush some ass. Let this one girl have time to miss you. Give it a few days, and you just may find a new text message from her asking you about your plans for Saturday night. Of course, you’ll have to end your date with Anna early, but that comes with the territory.
Now you may be thinking to yourself, “Well Pitts, that’s all well and good, but I’m not that type of guy, I just want to search for a girlfriend. I don’t want to have meaningless sex with random girls.” Well that’s your prerogative too, duder, and I’m still going to help you out. A lot of guys think about getting into the ‘girlfriend mindset’ whereas they select a bunch of qualities they want in a girl, and act picky and judgmental until they find someone they may like. Once that happens however, they start screwing up because their thought process goes like this:
“Oh shit, I really really like this girl and think she’s girlfriend material. I can’t screw this up!!! What do I do? Oh shit, I’m having a brain fart. Oh no, it’s an actual fart too!”
As a result, you freeze up, and are likely to lose this chick as she does not appreciate being farted on nor doesn’t like how you clam up around her. But this is the whole problem with this mindset. Its rigid structure fucks you over to the point of analysis paralysis. You may just find a girl you like, but once that hamster in your head starts turning and getting ahead of yourself, you are likely to shoot yourself in the foot. Why does this happen?
In everyone’s head they have a list of what they’d like with a long term girlfriend. She must be cute, sweet, traditional, giving, affectionate, knows how to cook, yada yada yada.
What a seasoned player does is he takes away all judgements. You haven’t talked to her, yet don’t think she’s girlfriend material? Stop being a dumbass. Maybe you just missed out a chick who enjoys MarioKart and making fun of tree huggers just as much as you do.
The guy looking for a girlfriend is rigid. He sticks to his gameplan. He doesn’t allow himself to let loose and have as much fun as the guy who is out to meet new people. The guy looking for a girlfriend is instantly on a mission and can not afford distractions.
On the other side: The guy out looking for fun is where all the excitement is. He allows himself to explore the venue, do new things, withhold judgments, and see where the night takes him. He gets to experience opportunities that the first guy doesn’t, simply because he doesn’t give a shit what happens that night. He’s only out to meet some people, maybe get his drink on, whatever.
And this is the intrinsic difference between the two guys. Guy number two gets more ass, meets more people, and gets more opportunities than guy one. He gets way more lifetime experience. Let’s look at an example.
Greg is looking for a girlfriend because he is ready to settle down for a while. He knows exactly what he wants, and exactly what he doesn’t want. So he goes to the bar/club/venue. He takes a look around and sees several girls. A few of them don’t look like the kind of girls he’d take home to mom, so he only approaches those that do. He ignores the mixed sets, because he doesn’t want guys interfering with his search. He starts off towards cute blonde girl, but at the last second, pulls out because a guy just went over to her and started talking to her. “Must be her boyfriend” he thinks, and goes to approach another girl. He approaches a dark-haired sex pistol in the corner, but Greg always thought of his girlfriends being smart people, and this girl is just plain dumb, so he ejects. Greg ends up going home by himself that night, because all the girls “just weren’t what he was looking for” and so Greg breaks out the lotion and gets off to Asian porn.
Nick, on the other hand, is out to have some fun. He hits up the venue later and sees a whole shit load of people who he can talk to. He sees a few mixed sets and gets in easily with telling a few jokes. It turns out the guys are having a barbeque on Sunday, and he is invited because he is an awesome guy. It also turns out that one of those guys promised Nick that there would definitely be some babes there, so he looks forward to the event. Nick then ejects and approaches a cute blonde girl sitting there with another guy. Nick find out that the guy is NOT her boyfriend, but just her COWORKER. Wow, what a break, and after a 30 minute conversation, Nick manages to pull her number, and walk away. Next, Nick spies that dark-haired sex pistol in the corner, and rolls up and makes a joke about how she’s dancing. She taps him on the arm playfully, and its so on. 45 minutes and she is bringing him to her place. They have wild sex, and find out that her dumb girl exterior is only a front. Nick and the sex pistol start seeing each other regularly.
See the difference? Just by being a fun guy, Nick gets wayyyy more opportunities to have fun and meet new people than Greg will ever get. Just because Greg is goal-directed doesn’t mean he’s living the life he wants. It doesn’t mean you can’t have your list for what you want in your head, but don’t ever let it block you from action. Remember, the whole point is to have fun first. Put good times and memories as your first priorities, and everything else second when it comes time to game.
At one time, we’ve all been Greg. Greg’s life is not the path to happiness. So sit back, and have some more fun dude. You’ll be amazed at what opportunities pop up for you when you are genuinely liked.
So what have we learned?
1. It’s better to immerse yourself in many women, than to doggedly chase just one.
2. Getting more women will do wonders to your learning curve and take as many as years off the time it takes to become seasoned.
3. The whole game is about creating more opportunities for yourself, so stay away from rigidity.
4. The “I’m looking for a girlfriend” mindset ends up fucking you over more than it helps.
5. As always, your prerogative as a gamer is to have fun first.
6. Take every opportunity that the game presents you. You’ll never know where it will lead.
That’s all for now. Hope you enjoyed, my friends.
Last edited by CMPitts; 02-23-2010 at 06:56 PM.
02-23-2010, 06:58 PM #2
I am glad you wrote it. This is exactly what needed to be said (glad to give you fire up your ass)
And the vital point to take home is that many times guys close off opportunities to meet great people, simply because they assume "I am not looking for just sex, i want **MEANINGFUL** relationship. Well in order for something to be meaningful, judgments and pre-judgement need to be put aside and let things unfold naturally.
Another point Pitts made is that
by chasing ONE particular girl and ignoring other girls puts guys into street-horse-blinds. the blinds that only allow horse to see the path and not traffic around her, so she doesn't get distracted or scared.
A lot of you need to re-read this time to time before posting here and asking advice, because, 70% of posts I see in Newbie Section were answered above.
02-23-2010, 09:09 PM #3
I think we must put a new rule in the forum. Before u press start new thread this appears, and u must read it. And after you read it a wrong/right quiz will appear, and unless u have at least 9 out of 10 right u cant post the new thread.
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02-23-2010, 09:44 PM #4
Thanks so much this answered my question perfectly!
02-23-2010, 09:52 PM #5
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02-23-2010, 10:06 PM #6
Great post Pitts.
I used to walk around parties and bars with the "I'm looking for a girlfriend" mindset. And I had a lot of missed opportunities because I would take one look at a girl and think, "I can't see myself with her".
The moment you stop judging and stop giving a fuck is the moment you have more fun, and not surprisingly, more girls in your life.
02-24-2010, 12:26 AM #7.
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I like what you had to say for the most part. Making the effort to meet more women puts the curve at your advantage.
I don't necessarily think that asking for advice one how to game a specific girl in a particular situation. It's only when it's clearly obsessive or like one-itis. But I mean, you can take feedback from what went wrong with a specific girl and then apply it to improving your game with women in general. Maybe a lot of guys lose sight of that.
02-24-2010, 12:41 PM #8
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Thanks for the props, gang.
02-24-2010, 05:44 PM #9
This totally works. I used to this "Aw, this girl can't cook...............next..."
But screw that, it's all enjoying the moment!
02-24-2010, 06:13 PM #10
wooo 5 star post once again.
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