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    She wants to be fuck buddies?

    I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks, I liked her as a friend (I like talking to her, hanging out with her, having sex with her, and it seemed like she would definitely have been potential relationship material), and judging by the way she acted I assumed she was in the same boat, if not even more into me than I was into her.

    We have a date scheduled for this past weekend, day/time are set and I'm excited because we have something pretty fun planned. I'm picking her up at 11. I text her around 10, and she says she decided to go out with her girlfriends instead and she won't make it. Of course everyone hates people who cancel at the last second, and everyone hates people who cancel at the last second and don't even feel the need to notify you even more. She's only the second girl I've met like this and I dumped the first one immediately because it was so annoying. So I don't really like her anymore and I blow off her texts/calls for the next couple days in which she talks about how sorry she is and how she was just really stressed out with her life and she knows she was being a bitch and she really wants to keep talking. Up to this point, she texts me all day every day, calls to talk quite often, talks about how much she likes hanging out and how much she likes me, etc.

    Now, most people wouldn't cancel and not feel the need to even tell your friend you're canceling, unless you really dislike them. If I met someone on the street and we decided to meet up later for whatever reason, if I didn't feel like it I'd at least respect them enough to call and say "hey I'm not gonna make it," I wouldn't just totally blow them off. So I'm assuming this girl really doesn't like me at all and she really just likes having sex, and all the perceived IOI's (her wanting to talk all day, wanting to hang out, talking about how much she likes me, getting jealous when I go out with other girls) were just faked in an attempt to keep me interested in her so I'd keep fucking her (I don't want to sound arrogant but most girls think I'm very good looking), because these are all classic games guys play with girls when they just want to fuck them.

    I like her as a friend and I like talking to her but it seems like it'd be a little weird keeping it going and hanging out with her when I know she doesn't like me and she's not having fun. I don't really have "feelings" for her so I'd like to just say "hey let's just drop the facade, not talk at all, and just be fuck buddies" - and I'd be totally fine with this, because I am still talking to other girls, it's just a little disappointing because I did have a lot of fun hanging out with her. But before I say that to her I want to make sure I'm not misinterpreting this. Am I?

    (I know this is long so I highlighted the shit I thought was important, lol)



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    Drop it like its hot. I don't think Fuck buddies route is gonna work. Its obvious you feel hurt by her actions and you are punishing her. Asking her to be fuck buddies is like a slap to her face.

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    Quote Originally Posted by herculain View Post
    Drop it like its hot. I don't think Fuck buddies route is gonna work. Its obvious you feel hurt by her actions and you are punishing her. Asking her to be fuck buddies is like a slap to her face.
    Yeah I was a little because I did like talking to her and hanging out with her, so finding out she doesn't like anything about me aside from my dick is a little insulting. But I'd rather have a fuck buddy than nothing, and it seems like that's all she wants too, isn't it?

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    The best thing to do here, is don't ASK if she wants to be fuck buddies. Just TREAT her like a fuck buddy.

    Meaning, when she texts or calls trying to hang out, let her come over, get fucked, and LEAVE.

    If she starts making comments about it, THEN you can tell her how you feel. Tell her, "I thought that's all you WANTED. Because..." and explain why. But until then, just let it be a mutually beneficial fuck-ship.

    The reason WHY is simple. Many times, a woman will fuck you on a regular basis without thinking anything of it. But the moment you say "Hey. Let's JUST be FUCK buddies" her ASD kicks in, and she realizes that she is "ONLY wanted for sex." So she might change.
    Things you should know about QualityGame:

    As good as I am, I still need to grow in certain areas.

    So...

    A) Don't assume I'm an expert just because some of my responses are "GOLD."

    but at the same time...

    B) Don't assume that because I'm NOT an expert, my responses CAN'T be gold.

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    Quote Originally Posted by QualityGame View Post
    The best thing to do here, is don't ASK if she wants to be fuck buddies. Just TREAT her like a fuck buddy.

    Meaning, when she texts or calls trying to hang out, let her come over, get fucked, and LEAVE.

    If she starts making comments about it, THEN you can tell her how you feel. Tell her, "I thought that's all you WANTED. Because..." and explain why. But until then, just let it be a mutually beneficial fuck-ship.

    The reason WHY is simple. Many times, a woman will fuck you on a regular basis without thinking anything of it. But the moment you say "Hey. Let's JUST be FUCK buddies" her ASD kicks in, and she realizes that she is "ONLY wanted for sex." So she might change.
    Ah, interesting point. I'll do this. Thanks.

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    Yep...don't say anything. Just treat her like dirt.

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    Don't treat her like dirt, man. No reason to ever treat anyone like dirt. If you don't like them, don't be around them.

    Do treat her like a fuck buddy, though. You don't discuss relationships with someone you aren't in a relationship with, and you aren't in a relationship with this girl at this point.

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    Are you maybe reading a little bit too much into this A1? No chance it was a legit cancel?

    If this is the only single thing that doesn't fit then its probably not the defining thing. Just saying, if its an isolated event then perhaps you should treat it as such. But only you really know what's up.

    But yeah, QG is right.

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    Thanks for the replies guys but this was like 8 months ago lol.

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