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    "You deserve someone better" - Shit Test

    I've been seeing a woman a few times now, she comes around and we have sex, she stays over and seems very interested. The other day we'd just finished and we're lying together, when she starts talking about how she feels. Up until this point we'd both kept our feelings under wraps.

    I played it cool. I told her that I enjoyed spending time with her and what we had was fun.

    I don't think she wanted to come right out and say that she was falling for me, (and I know that sounds mighty presumptious to say that myself, but I just have the hunch), but she mirrored what I said, then followed it with "I think you deserve someone better". She has always acted and continues to be subservient to me (even though I don't actively dominate), and it made me wonder what she was meaning.

    At the time, I simply said that it was my choice who I see, and what I do, and at the moment I was enjoying her company and time. I told her not to worry about it and just enjoy what was happening.

    Inside me though, I'm bothered by this. It appears to be a shit test, but its so reverse-psychological I can't understand the purpose. I couldn't very well say "Yeah I know...".

    Also, this is not the first time this has happened- I've had a girl who I had a relationship with for a year say it to me too.

    Any thoughts and has anyone ever encountered this?



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    You should have answered "You're probably right." with a smile in your face.

    If she gets angry, that's because you didn't deliver it well, but in order to rectify this, don't become the needy/clingy guy right away by saying "I'M SORRY I DID NOT MEAN THIS."

    Instead, tell her to "come her" and hug her in your arms.

    Actions speak louder than words my man.

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    It sounds to me like you have a bit of nice guy-syndrome. "you deserve someone better", could easily be because you're too nice for them - which in turn means that you're not alpha enough. Does this ring any bells? As long as you keep it easy and fun, and you're confident and NOT needy, this really shouldn't be a problem.

    "Yeah, I know. It's cause I'm like... Really cool, actually. Besides, I usually only date bald chicks. And you're really not fat enough for me." This'll get her smiling
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    when a girl says something like "you deserve better" it normaly means "i want to break up from you."
    Hey Jean Claude here, are you guys still having trouble with women? Just do the splits! Works every time for me. If that fail's I beat up a few bad guys with my big toe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emsley View Post
    when a girl says something like "you deserve better" it normaly means "i want to break up from you."
    Yup. Whatever her reasoning is, she's telling you she doesn't want to be with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maninmanc View Post
    I've been seeing a woman a few times now, she comes around and we have sex, she stays over and seems very interested. The other day we'd just finished and we're lying together, when she starts talking about how she feels. Up until this point we'd both kept our feelings under wraps.

    I played it cool. I told her that I enjoyed spending time with her and what we had was fun.

    I don't think she wanted to come right out and say that she was falling for me, (and I know that sounds mighty presumptious to say that myself, but I just have the hunch), but she mirrored what I said, then followed it with "I think you deserve someone better". She has always acted and continues to be subservient to me (even though I don't actively dominate), and it made me wonder what she was meaning.

    At the time, I simply said that it was my choice who I see, and what I do, and at the moment I was enjoying her company and time. I told her not to worry about it and just enjoy what was happening.

    Inside me though, I'm bothered by this. It appears to be a shit test, but its so reverse-psychological I can't understand the purpose. I couldn't very well say "Yeah I know...".

    Also, this is not the first time this has happened- I've had a girl who I had a relationship with for a year say it to me too.

    Any thoughts and has anyone ever encountered this?
    based on your comments about her subservience she may genuinely have noticed this. I've had similar comments from these kinds of women. ("I'm not a very good hook up you should be with the super hot girl you're seeing" etc etc) So really this isn't a shit test, it was an issue she noticed that you dealt with well. You did good and unless some one makes something more of it it's over.
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    Could mean several things, one of them IMO is that she was digging for a compliment or some sort of 'no i dont you are fantastic...' comment

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    Quote Originally Posted by maninmanc View Post
    I've been seeing a woman a few times now, she comes around and we have sex, she stays over and seems very interested. The other day we'd just finished and we're lying together, when she starts talking about how she feels. Up until this point we'd both kept our feelings under wraps.

    I played it cool. I told her that I enjoyed spending time with her and what we had was fun.

    I don't think she wanted to come right out and say that she was falling for me, (and I know that sounds mighty presumptious to say that myself, but I just have the hunch), but she mirrored what I said, then followed it with "I think you deserve someone better". She has always acted and continues to be subservient to me (even though I don't actively dominate), and it made me wonder what she was meaning.

    At the time, I simply said that it was my choice who I see, and what I do, and at the moment I was enjoying her company and time. I told her not to worry about it and just enjoy what was happening.

    Inside me though, I'm bothered by this. It appears to be a shit test, but its so reverse-psychological I can't understand the purpose. I couldn't very well say "Yeah I know...".

    Also, this is not the first time this has happened- I've had a girl who I had a relationship with for a year say it to me too.

    Any thoughts and has anyone ever encountered this?
    Shout out from Toronto, Ont. Canada mate.... I got boys from the UK. Solid fucking 10 game too. ..

    My friend, it is as simple as cutting her thread and moving forward. I posted an FR a little while ago. If you want to check it, by all means. I instant day game dated a girl. Went from opening to date instantly. She would say stuff like, "oh, I saw this movie with [insert guys name]." Like Mystery suggests in his new book, you cut thread and move forward. In this situation, just cut the thread and move forward. Anything else is a step back. I fail to see how this is anything but an IOI. Hold a strong frame mate. All will play out. Like Mystery says, "The universe will provide." Stack forward. Your following comments should be of something of value. "That reminds me, ...." & keep running.

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    It could be her way of thinking out loud. Maybe she's secretly not doing right by you (i.e. lying to you, fucking other people, etc.) and just says "You deserve better" because she's feeling guilty.

    I don't think it's because she "doesn't wanna be with you" because if that was the case, she wouldn't keep coming over, having sex, spending time, talking about feelings, etc. with you.
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    So...

    A) Don't assume I'm an expert just because some of my responses are "GOLD."

    but at the same time...

    B) Don't assume that because I'm NOT an expert, my responses CAN'T be gold.

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    It's a shit test to see if you are really as cool as she thinks you are. She judges your response and compares it for congruency. You know she wants more from you and you are holding back. She senses this and is fishing for you to express real feelings for her.

    When you tell a target, we would never get along, you should run away. do you expect her to say, OK, see ya? Of course not. It's good game.

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