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Several weeks back, I did... but now, I am just ...
Do I officially have oneitis???
Several weeks back, I did... but now, I am just unsure.
First of all, I want to make it clear that I am NOT gaming this girl anymore. I've tried it before, and the farthest thing I reached was a frigging boob grab.
What I want, and REALLY want on the other hand is a friendship. As much as I am not gaming her anymore, I value her friendship so much that it really just PISSES me off that I just can't see her anymore.
Here's the story:
-I'm a senior in high school. I met her. She's a sophomore. (she's 16 back then, 17 now, and stupidly enough, she's "engaged." I'm 18.)
-I gamed her the "nice guy way." Big mistake. I got rejected.
-She got creeped out, told one of her friends to tell me to fuck off, which I did.
-I stopped talking to her. She started talking to me again.
-Since I'm too scared of screwing up, I bought the Mystery method, and some other books to improve my game. And then I restarted gaming her.
-She started giving the 4 most important IOIs ever. (they're written in the Mystery method.)
-She asked me out to work out with her.
-I asked her out to the movies. It got canceled cause she said in a text message that she went out of town.
-After that disappointing week of her not going with me at the movies, I heard that she got wasted, and had a boyfriend for 1 hour, and then dumped him, and then got wasted.
-She stopped giving IOIs.
-I asked her to be my pivot. She agreed (I made up this long story about a "friend" who introduced me to the club scene and taught me how to pick up chicks.)
-I got sick and tired of everything, gave her a phone call and told her EVERY FUCKING THING THAT I'VE BEEN TRYING TO DO! Yes, I told her I was a virgin, bought Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, The Game, and Rules of The Game.
-We became very close friends after that.
-I usually isolate her every now and then to talk about stuff.
-I always get a hug from her nearly every time she is about to leave, or when we meet up after a long weekend.
-We kept talking and talking.
-Blah Blah Blah, hugs hugs hugs, conversations conversations conversations, whatever...
-I was really sad. She was gonna drop out of school, (and do online high school instead while living in with her fiance) which means she won't be there next semester. MAJOR BUMMER!!! Last time I've seen her was January 20th, 2010.
-It was funny. We where in guitar lessons class and I made her read The Game. When I showed it to her, she quickly grabbed it and said "Oh oh oh, is that the one that you were reading??? Lemme see!" I said "here, I'll show you my favorite part.", "No no no! I'm reading (kept reading)" The teacher came over and asked why she's reading "The Bible," and as I was about to say "because I'm showing her a very important passage" she says out loud for everyone to hear, "No, I'm reading a book about picking up chicks! I'm trying to learn how to pick up chicks!" I said "shut the hell up!" She definitely was an asshole...
-That was the last time I was with her. I love this girl. I really do. I'm satisfied with being a friend...
-She was supposed to be at school the next day, but she wasn't. I was worried. This girl is crazy. Sometimes she doesn't go to school, and I often worry about what happens to her. One time, she told me she was gonna fight some girl, and then the next day, she wasn't at school. I got worried. What if she got jumped and a bunch of guys who are friends with the girl she fought jumped her, gangbanged her before brutally killing her??? I was SEVERELY paranoid. I couldn't help but wonder what the hell happened. I sent her a text message in the middle of class and she said that she was okay, and was sent to the hospital because of drug overdose from her anti-depressants. Atleast she was okay.
I really have had alot of great memories with this girl. She wasn't my girlfriend. She was simply a friend. A friend that I loved and will always love...
I'm still trying to keep in contact with her, but it's been rough recently. My phone was taken away from me by my mom. (I really need to get a job.)
I love her more than anyone else, but I'm not gaming her. Is this oneitis???
She's living with a guy and going through high school, that alone tells me she had a pretty rough upbringing, or she thinks with her heart and makes bad decisions.
Not sure how much of an influence the bf is on her, but I can tell you that he's probably expecting her to make money, and wouldn't surprise me if she's working as an exotic dancer when she's 18.
I don't think you have one-itis, you're concerned as a friend, but there are some people you have no choice but to let them find out for themselves, because they refuse to listen to anyone except their impulses. She might get the impulse to have a kid one week, and run off to join a cult the next, or follow rock bands around.
I know you want to help, but the best thing to do is let her be, and try to avoid coming being the one to come to her rescue when she gets in trouble. It could affect other friendships and relationships in your life. And if anything happens to her because you didn't return her call, don't blame yourself if anything does happen.
As far as friendships go - let this one keep developing and be a stable presence and a shoulder to lean on (and try not to lend her money, if that ever happens. ) That's all you can do.
I love her with all my heart. I absolutely DESPISE myself for being unable to bring a positive contribution in her life.
Originally Posted by sdnightfly
All I could really do is pray...
I had my phone taken away by my mom so I can't even contact her...
Boy. This just fucking sucks. What if Jaime, her fiance decides to be an asshole and beat her up? Seriously. Victoria deserves better.
Thanks for the positive post. It made my day.
I'll be in the military by then, and during that time, I'll game her, and then take care of her. lol.
Originally Posted by sdnightfly
She's my everything. I will never forget this girl. I could literally bang one hundred 10s at this time and not feel as satisfied as I would whenever she gives me those hugs.
This feeling that I have for her is beyond what pick up can ever comprehend. It's true love.
To those of you who are not atheists, please, help me pray. It's beyond my power.
Think about that when you're ready to reenlist. First 4 years, taking her under your wing is going to be tempting, but with you being away a lot, it could result in disaster - anyone who's been in the military's already seen it.
There's nothing that says she can't hang out with you when you're on leave for the next 4 years. But a relationship when you are going to have a lot of temptation coming your way- as good as you want to be and being miserable because you're attached, vs having a good guilt free time, not worrying about it?
By the time you reup, if you do, you'll be a lot wiser and see things a lot more clearly than you do now.
You're right, you shouldn't forget her. In time you're going to realize she's not your everything, but she's always going to be special to you.
Moving on from her - it's not going to happen right away. But it will happen if you work on it.
But you and her are far from ready for anything serious. And you can't be the one to get her to leave the fiance's.
Hey bomber I understand what your going through man. I had a freind like that my circumstances are slightly different. But sdnightfly is very right. Bomber 1 thing i will say is dont despise yourself man, im sure you have had a good impact on her, you might not see it but deep down im sure you did man. Just keep faith that one day you will be able to look after her. But for now man i would say keep prayin, do your tour (good luck with that man & much respect) and see where you are when you come back like sdnightfly said. Life has a way of working out. If you really need proof just check my post on the discussion forum mate. Have faith & I will pray that she is safe for you man.
You have oneitis. You know you do. She is 17 years old and living with her fiance and you are talking about gaming her...why would you even want to?
This girl is poison...get as far away from her as possible. Your inner game isn't strong enough to survive the destructive influence she is on your growth. If it was strong enough, you wouldn't have shown her your pick up books seeking her approval in the 1st place...
Save yourself an enormous amount of grief and headaches by walking away from this one right now.
thanks a ton.
Originally Posted by Dr Darwin
Originally Posted by Rodzilla
- yes, you do. no oneitis topic on TAF. Sorry the FAQ rules say so.
- no discussion of gaming minors. Sorry the FAQ rules say so.
-thread is therefore closed.
(If you've never failed, you've never lived.)
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