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    Reason why a girl won't show affection?

    What would be some reasons why a girl won't show affection around someone she likes?

    This girl tells me that in her last relationship she only kissed her boyfriend a few times and never had sex with him and tells me that she doesn't like affection.



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    Quote Originally Posted by CMPitts View Post
    Reading too far into this. Some girls don't like showing affection. Are you sure you want this girl now?
    Most likely not. Pretty big turn off for me. But I am curious if there are any universal reasons that would make a girl like this.. rather then some girls don't like it.

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    i wonder that too, i had sex with this girl few months ago and she was freaky and horny so i thought she's a sex freak and i thought i found a good one...but i realized that was only a once in a while thing for her. She told me with her all her ex bf she had sex like twice a month....

    since then we did it 3 times and its been good, she came and everything but i cant get her to be more affectionate and freaky....she just doesnt have a high sex drive

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    Some girls don't show affection as a sort of shit test because some switch in their head is flipped and they decide not to. Many extremely hot girls (10s) tend to do this a lot to test you by acting too good for you.

    Another case is when she is just internally 'lame'. In this case the girl is sexually inexperienced or sexually repressed but probably is just becoming normal (otherwise she wouldn't be dating a guy using pua techniques). She usually gets friends that are normal sexual girls and tries to see guys like her friends do (but it's not always trying to live up to other girls) so she starts to date normal people instead of AFCs and you come into the picture.

    The final case if the girl just doesn't like affection very much but isn't opposed to it.

    I've had all of these above cases happen personally



    The girl on the left was sexually repressed (and very thin when i dated her), so it's not for ugly women even.

    I would recommend avoiding extremely unaffectionate women, I've tried to convince them to be normal and it always turned out badly but really only life will teach them, and the misfortunate guys who have to put up with them.

    With more mildly unaffectionate women who are normal sexually honestly I've had a half dozen of them and I'm super persistent with making them act a certain way, and usually I become the only guy they constantly show affection to. So if she doesn't like it it's hard but you can change this part of her.

    With a girl that is shit testing you by withdrawing affection if you just act unaffected by it I promise she will come around. She wants to see you act desperate.

    In your situation "she only kissed her boyfriend a few times and never had sex with him and tells me that she doesn't like affection".

    I recommend: run

    Unless you're desperate it will almost always result in a lot of shit on your part.

    Anyways I hope that points you in the right direction and answers your question on if there are any universal reasons for not showing affection. Good luck.
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    Guys,

    Another thing that may have happened to the girl is she was raped/molested. Having dated a girl that happened to I can tell you it messes them up and it's hard for them to have a "normal" relationship. Certainly it's nothing they ever wanted to happen to them but it did. A lot of us on here know service men/women who have PTSD. Essentially thats what happens to a girl when she is assaulted. It's very typical for a women to either shut down and not want any affection from a guy or to go out and screw everything that moves.

    Johnson,
    I would avoid this girl and just move on. Whatever is going on with her it's not worth dealing with.

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    As RogueOne was saying... it can be from being raped or molested. I just broke it off with a girl that had been raped when she was young. The only time she would be affectionate is when she was drunk. Not only that but she had like no sex drive. And when we did have sex she just laid there. I've never been with a girl so emotionally distant and cold.

    It's like a snowball effect for her. Every guy she's with figures out she's like this, then kicks her to the curb (surprise, surprise). So on top of a bad past, she has been hurt tons of times...which makes her even more cold and distant and afraid to get close. She wasn't willing to get help or change..so I saw no point in continuing with someone that obviously wasn't right for me or able to make me happy.

    Two weeks later I meet a girl who is completely opposite - extremely affectionate and very sexual. Makes me very happy

    My advice... don't waste any more time with this girl when she obviously isn't right for you. Instead spend the time sarging other girls and you should find one who will make you happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lv3 View Post
    Some girls don't show affection as a sort of shit test because some switch in their head is flipped and they decide not to. Many extremely hot girls (10s) tend to do this a lot to test you by acting too good for you.

    Another case is when she is just internally 'lame'. In this case the girl is sexually inexperienced or sexually repressed but probably is just becoming normal (otherwise she wouldn't be dating a guy using pua techniques). She usually gets friends that are normal sexual girls and tries to see guys like her friends do (but it's not always trying to live up to other girls) so she starts to date normal people instead of AFCs and you come into the picture.

    The final case if the girl just doesn't like affection very much but isn't opposed to it.

    I've had all of these above cases happen personally



    The girl on the left was sexually repressed (and very thin when i dated her), so it's not for ugly women even.

    I would recommend avoiding extremely unaffectionate women, I've tried to convince them to be normal and it always turned out badly but really only life will teach them, and the misfortunate guys who have to put up with them.

    With more mildly unaffectionate women who are normal sexually honestly I've had a half dozen of them and I'm super persistent with making them act a certain way, and usually I become the only guy they constantly show affection to. So if she doesn't like it it's hard but you can change this part of her.

    With a girl that is shit testing you by withdrawing affection if you just act unaffected by it I promise she will come around. She wants to see you act desperate.

    In your situation "she only kissed her boyfriend a few times and never had sex with him and tells me that she doesn't like affection".

    I recommend: run

    Unless you're desperate it will almost always result in a lot of shit on your part.

    Anyways I hope that points you in the right direction and answers your question on if there are any universal reasons for not showing affection. Good luck.



    wow holy crap guys great information. I think Lv3 you might of hit it on the head with being sexually repressed. But could be rape... dunno dun think so though because she never talked about it yet and has pretty much told me her deepest secrets so she says while she was drunk. I am going to work on this girl and still sarge and find better. I can't stand a girl that doesn't show affection. I will see if I can get her to change but its not looking hopeful. Will give it one more month.


    Quote Originally Posted by tetris View Post
    As RogueOne was saying... it can be from being raped or molested. I just broke it off with a girl that had been raped when she was young. The only time she would be affectionate is when she was drunk. Not only that but she had like no sex drive. And when we did have sex she just laid there. I've never been with a girl so emotionally distant and cold.

    It's like a snowball effect for her. Every guy she's with figures out she's like this, then kicks her to the curb (surprise, surprise). So on top of a bad past, she has been hurt tons of times...which makes her even more cold and distant and afraid to get close. She wasn't willing to get help or change..so I saw no point in continuing with someone that obviously wasn't right for me or able to make me happy.

    Two weeks later I meet a girl who is completely opposite - extremely affectionate and very sexual. Makes me very happy

    My advice... don't waste any more time with this girl when she obviously isn't right for you. Instead spend the time sarging other girls and you should find one who will make you happy.

    Her last boyfriend dumped her after two months. Same with her previous one of two years. So I think the snowball effect is taking its toll.

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    Quote Originally Posted by johnsonbhonson View Post
    But could be rape... dunno dun think so though because she never talked about it yet and has pretty much told me her deepest secrets so she says while she was drunk.
    For many victims of rape it's the deepest secret ever, often they tell it to NOBODY, not even family or best friends.
    It's hard to deal with, once you know it.

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