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    F-closed a girl and now she's hinting a relationship

    i number closed her from a nightclub after heavy make out and fingering...and then full closed her the next day i.e last nite.


    now..she's hinting a relationship....we really connected well but thing is i like some other girl who was out of city and now is back.


    i feel kinda bad telling her i dont want a relationship..how do i properly communicate this?


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    Hinting a relationship so quickly? Damn.
    If you don't want, just tell her you are not looking for a relationship right now. No point feeling bad about it.

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    She can "hint" all she wants.

    Its not your job to specify the context of (whatever) based on hints. If you see her again fine, if you go on a Date fine, if you Sleep together fine- if you don't, no harm done.

    Dont mention the "R" word unless she brings it up herself. Hinting is something a woman who lacks Confidence or is trying to coax you into making it look like you suggested a Relationship- so if it goes bad she'll just blame you when she speaks to her friends.


    It only becomes a problem if you lead her up the garden path by promising sex in exhange for a Relationship at face value BEFORE you sleep with her.

    I know some insecure girls have this weird belief that F-closing is means something else like cementing a Relationship or commitment but it doesnt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DarthWayne View Post
    i number closed her from a nightclub after heavy make out and fingering...and then full closed her the next day i.e last nite.


    now..she's hinting a relationship....we really connected well but thing is i like some other girl who was out of city and now is back.


    i feel kinda bad telling her i dont want a relationship..how do i properly communicate this?
    What did she actually say?
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    this was her text few hours after she went back home:

    "i'm watching serendipity :-) movie about a girl meeting a guy on the first day and leavin the rest to fate.lol"

    1 hour later:

    me: just read your message..sounds familiar (hinting it happened to us)

    she: we gotta watch it together sometime. so did your friends say anything about us

    me: that ll be sweet..they found u very friendly.

    she: haha..i miss u man..this is weird.

    me: why weird...i like that u miss me.

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    Darthwayne why are you posting this thread?

    Looking at your exhange of texts it was YOU who was suggesting the Relationship.

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    I 2nd Fame2Advancement.

    If I'd be that girl, I'd be freaking out right now, because a ons just started hinting about a relationship...

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    DW, I don't see anything to get all worked up about.

    I'm sure you realize that when you do the most intimate thing in the world you can with a chick, she naturally feels differently about you afterward. One way or the other.

    So the "big problem" is that she wants to spend time with you?

    That's the goal most people are here trying to reach ... don't read so much into what she's texting you and enjoy yourself a little.

    This is hinting a relationship: "My parents can't wait to meet you because I told them I met the man I'm going to marry. Do you have a nice sport jacket you can wear to the country club on Sunday night?"

    She's not "hinting a relationship." She wants to watch a movie with you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DarthWayne View Post
    "i'm watching serendipity :-) movie about a girl meeting a guy on the first day and leavin the rest to fate.lol"

    1 hour later:

    me: just read your message..sounds familiar (hinting it happened to us)

    she: we gotta watch it together sometime. so did your friends say anything about us

    me: that ll be sweet..they found u very friendly.

    she: haha..i miss u man..this is weird.

    me: why weird...i like that u miss me.

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    Darth, let's break this down together, so you will see a clear picture

    1.) Her 1st quote was really ambiguous and actually neutral if you think about it. "a girl meeting a guy on the first day and leavin the rest to fate" Nothing was mentioned about you getting together or you guys breaking it off, as nobody knows what fate has in store for us

    2.) Your answer was just an agreement, nothing too much here than you giving her back an IOI for her giving you an IOI

    3.) Actually contrary to belief about this whole everyone saying that you were hinting on this relationship thing, I agree with you here, as if everyone read this a little more carefully, "US" implies her + you [so technically, she implied the idea of a relationship FIRST]

    4.) Now here is where you go against your intent of NOT WANTING to hook up with her. Your reply would have been excellent if you wanted to hook up with her as you gave her a lead to imply that you do wish to meet up with her by agreeing with her and that your friends did enjoy her company

    5.) Her reply is more rapport seeking

    6.) Your last reply is confirming that her rapport seeking is the right thing to do, meaning you like her as well

    [If you really really really wish to not be with her, then let her know that you just want to be friends, and i Know I know, "but Asianman, that'll just make her want me more!" Well your gonna have to be in control of this friendship and keep things that way, keep the pimp-hand strong STUD

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    Sex is an intimate act but is it really that intimate after you've been with a few women?

    Until they're both in the same place and ask you point blank if you're seeing someone else in a relationship, have fun. It's okay to like more than one woman... that's why they call it "seeing" and "dating". Hookers call paid sex "dates", too.

    You don't have a relationship with either one, hell, she called you "man", she's not sure where you stand. Which is where you WANT it to be until she gets tired of waiting to know what you want.

    A movie she's seen already leads to f-closes.

    But getting into that "I miss you" stuff I'd avoid. You live in the same area, so what's there to miss when you can see her any time?

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