Thread: Girl making my head spin! Help Please!!!

Hi guys, thanks alot in advance, sorry about the long post but really need help here.

Right im 21 and have been using game for about a year and half with good success. About 5 weeks ago ended up kclosing this hb8 using subtle game mainly cocky-funny, which she seemed to like, anyway got her number etc.

Next evening start texting her, going great she is really funny and we are flirting alot through texts, after about an hour of texting SHE asks me out to dinner! great! i tell lets just go for a drink instead, which we do and it goes great she is really keen and i get on really well with, we have alot in common etc walk her home kiss her. Next day she texts me general chat etc, anyway ask her out again and we go to see a play which she really likes after we kiss again and get a bit busy.

4 days later see her agin on a night out get together straight away etc. She then went away for a week but things still cool. Comes back plan to meet up again but she ends up canceling on me but is really sorry and suggests another day, we meet and go to dinner goes really well agin she is really keen, after back to mine to watch a film then we do everything but sex, she texts me after i drop her home saying how amazing the evening was.

Anyway things go on like this for a while. I end up only being able to see her about once a week though as she is really busy etc (which i didnt like) Anyway one night im out with friends and im texting her and then (was drunk) suggest i get a taxi back to hers as a friend is going back the same way, she says she is already in bed but says sorry etc, i say its cool, next day i text her sort making a joke about the whole thing(it was a stupid idea) but she doesnt text back....... chat to her on fb chat really distant and says she will talk to me tomo, doesnt text me next day so i leave it, no contact for 5 days. Then she fb chats to me saying joking "Well excuuuuse me!" wondering why i havnt been speaking to her etc i say well u never texted back so thought you might need some space etc she says she did text back then checks phone, "oh really sorry it didnt send!" i think prob true but... we chat and agree to meet up that evening, happy again!, but she then texts me saying she feels really ill and just wants to go to bed, i call her check she is ok, turns out she is just hungover from the prev night (this is 6pm...) i act a bit pissed off and then had to go but call her later and clear things up about not speaking to her for the 5 days we agree to meet up tonight.

Now i really like this girl she is beautiful and i have never got on so well with a girl before, but she is so hot and then cold. When we see each other it is amazing but she often cant meet up cause she is busy...... Really dont know what to do.........

Questions:
Im i being needy, should i back off a bit
Is seeing her only once a week ok, or should i try and see her more.
I do want an LTR with this girl but how long should i wait to ask her out???

Thanks sooo much guys.

Ok Update:
she texted me saying really could not afford to go out tonight as had so little money
I replied saying ye that was good cause i didnt (which i didnt) and that we could watch a film around mine instead.

She said: Think im just going to stay in and do coursework, cause really need to prioritize at the moment and out tomo so only chance to get work done etc sorry will be free from Monday onwards.

Basically i think while she might still like me a bit she really isnt that interested, certainly not as interested as I am.
so
Iv decided thats pretty much it, gonna just leave things, play it cold with her, if she wants me then let her come to me if not plenty more fish....

btw This helped ALOT http://www.theattractionforums.com/i...er-fuckup.html

Sadly this is not a girl you want in an ltr. She's playing games without even knowing it. She's just not that into you. If a girl really wants to see you she will make time. At least once a week and probably more if she liked you enough for an ltr.
Unless she's looking or trying to find the cure to cancer and she's extremly devoted then she would make time.

Beware of girls who like the validation you give.

I have 3 girls who want me in an ltr at the moment and they sure as hell never flake on me and make time to hang with me.

You are right Luca, and I have finally seen it, unless she completely changes the way she acts toward me then i am pretty much gonna leave things with her and move on.

I was pathetic and needy but hey you live and learn!

YOU are not pathetic and needy. Your actions just weren't the best. You just didn't see the spectrum . It's often hard to see. Blinded by lust we are.