Beliefs - Gold

I wanted to post this into the best of forum and the classic section writing but don't have access (maybe im just being too cocky haha). Mods feel free to post where appropriate.

Ok.. First let me give you a fair warning.. this is pretty advanced stuff. If you have no game and have no social skills right now, then you can definitely get them and I honestly believe anyone can but this post is not the place to start.

I've been thinking a lot about universal ways to improve my game, and one of the things that I'm always about is finding the permanent solution to a problem. I really am not the biggest fan of techniques and thinking of game as in "lines" because what will happen is that two weeks from now I won't remember that line or i just won't feel like saying it anymore because it gets too repetitive and old.

Don't get me wrong, if i do hear a good line or routine ill use it but realistically i will use it about once or twice and then ill move on to something else.

So in my quest to improve my game (and everybody else's) I've found that there are specific principles you can apply to your game that once you implement them, you will create an "organic" improvement, meaning you won't have to think about it, meaning it's natural to you (this is why I think I get called a natural a lot because it's really hard for most people to see what "principles" you operate under as opposed to techniques).

So to create a rock solid foundation of change that lasts forever (and you don't "lose it" even when youve dated a girl for a while or haven't gone out for a long time) we need to implement these principles or Beliefs.

If you don't know what a belief is, let me give you a short introduction.

A belief is a construct of your mind in order to understand the world around you. Since you can't focus on a million things at the same time, your brain will assume that it already knows the truth on a lot of things around you so you don't have to think about it. This helps you operate so you run smoothly so you just focus on whats new/urgent/interesting.

The problem is a lot of times your beliefs are fucking you and depriving you of amazing things you could be getting whether it's girls, money, and all sorts of opportunities.

For example, and this is a really important belief, in the "community" it is a very common belief that in order to get a girl to "like you" you need to go through X,Y,Z. If you don't go through that process, then most guys will not feel like they have gotten the girl the girl to the point where she likes you.

I used to subscribe to this thought thinking that if i haven't gone through "gaming a girl" then she is simply not really into me. I used to believe that if I haven't gone through the motions and slept with her, then she can't really want me.

This is a bad belief and it fucks you because:
A. It leads to leaking emotionally. If you don't think she wants you then you are trying to get validation from her.
B. You can't really be a cool person when you think someone is not into you.

PRINCIPLE: WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE WILL EVENTUALLY BECOME YOUR REALITY

Whatever you think it's true you will act accordingly and people will respond to that. If you think you can't get rich you will never act upon anything because "you can't get rich what's the point". If you think that you are destined to be rich you will not stop until you find something that makes you rich because "that's your destiny".

Let me just give you in advance to the objections that people have to this.
- I don't know what to say.. my answer is say anything. If you have these 2 beliefs I'm going to give you and you're coming from this place there's pretty much nothing you can say that will not work. If you want one night stands then read my sexual hoops post and say that.

- I don't want to open anymore because I'm so validated. Don't take this to the extreme where you become a delusional bastard. Stay in reality and well grounded but come from this place, keep focusing on these beliefs and eventually you will master them so they become your reality. Keep doing the right action which is open, be super social talk to everybody and become a social connector (read my social circle post for more of that).

So... let's get on to a more practical part of this. I'm gonna give you two beliefs that are EXTREMELY POWERFUL and will completely transform your game if you simply come from this place.

1. Everybody loves you and every girl wants you, if not they are being a fucking dickhead.

This belief came from me analyzing all of the most amazing guys with girls that I know. I was trying to put it into words what was it that they all had in common that made them have that "it" factor. Like you meet these guys and you instantly like them and of course girls love them too.

I was trying to break them down until I started to look into their beliefs and it hit me when I was breaking Daxx down (who's an awesome instructor with awesome game and beliefs). Daxx just became my roommate so as I always do with everybody that has awesome game I was breaking him down.

What we'll do (I live with Braddock and Daxx ) is that we will all consult each other's text messages to come up with the best alternative to send a girl. So what I was noticing is that he comes from the strong belief that girls really want him, as opposed to "trying to get the girl to see him". And I was blown away by how strong that belief is in him so we started talking about it and I was telling him about the naturals I know and we finally broke it down into a specific belief that every single natural has:

Everybody loves me and every girl wants me, if not they are being a fucking dickhead.

They all assume girls looove them like crazy. Like if they are in a club and a girl just looks at them, they will be like "yep, she likes me". They are looking for any little detail to confirm that belief so it's very strong rooted because they are always confirming it.

Guess what this does? It makes you not look for any validation, you don't need their approval, and above all, you don't need to "make them feel attracted to you", they just like you already so your mind is like quiet in the storm. The world is a great place for these guys because theyre walking around with the image of everyone around them wanting them... and guess what, it works.

One of the best naturals I know even said it to me once, "you know when you're really delusional about something to the point where there's nothing that will convince you otherwise, that's how I got good.

The other side of this one belief is that "if she doesn't like me she's being a fucking dickhead" this part is just as important! Because when you convince yourself of something so strongly nothing is going to convince you otherwise so if a girl is acting weird by not being into you, then she is a weirdo that need to be discarded because you simply do not deal with psychos.

And that my friends is the amazing belief structure that will snowball and give you unstoppable confidence and power with girls.


The one other belief I want to show you is just as powerful and it will help you pull a lot more than most people in the community.

The problem is that most people in the community have still inherited bad beliefs that are just assumed from everybody learning game that it's not until a genius like me (haha!) comes and sees how wrong it is and everybody is assuming the wrong thing.

So this other belief is when you are pulling.

I got this because the other day I had this stripper alll over me, she loved me, and we were going to meet up after the strip club, and my belief was that I should bring her with me because I need to "make her" do it right? So guess what happened? This girl is all over me and I'm hesitating if she's gonna come. She senses this and of course she goes "well if this guy doesn't believe that I wanna come that means that he doesn't get this that often (even if I do btw) because other girls have probably done this before so I just shouldn't do it". Boom no show.

And this is the kind of belief that will lead you to get attraction in the club and not pull...

On the other hand let's analyze if you were in this same situation and you believed that this girl really wanted to come home with you. You would have been completely relaxed about it. After all you get this deep rooted feeling that she REALLY WANTS to come home with you. So what do you do, you may tease her a little bit by just leaving when your friends are leaving (instead of trying to stay there trying to "get her") and instead you know what happens... she wants what she can't have so she's not validated yet. So she's looking for that sense of completion that she "has you" so she comes and meets you and boom, everybody wins.

SHE REALLY WANTS TO COME HOME WITH YOU.

And again, any girl that doesn't is a fucking dickhead and weird and you don't deal with psychopaths anyways. You win no matter what, feel no social anxiety and you are the fucking champ.

"you know when you're really delusional about something to the point where there's nothing that will convince you otherwise, that's how I got good" do that for a while and eventually it will become true for you.

Hope this helps.

Here's an exercise to work on inserting new beliefs:
You review your night out, and you think of every interaction you had. You analyze it by thinking what beliefs were running through your head. You then implement good beliefs by re running the movie in your head but this time doing it through the beliefs i just gave you. your brain will absorb this and eventually you will be doing these things naturally.

Dahunter
ps. Daxx and I have estimated that 5-7 of these beliefs will make you one of the best of the world. If you think you have a belief like that feel free to email it to me a dahunter@lovesystems.com and I'll run it through my pickup simulator!

awsome!
really helpful tips and belives!

I have been doing this for a while, and not even knowing that i have created such a strong belief!

One thing I'd like to point out (if I may) is that you can't just walk around the club like a dick-nibbler thinking you're the shit and if she doesn't like you she's a dumb bitch. You still have to continue to analyze yourself and always make sure you're improving and as you do, the positive reactions you get from people will be your proof that will help solidify the beliefs.

Otherwise you'll just come to the conclusion that this world is full of a bunch of dick-heads.

Hmmm, he said this post is for people with experience. In a way that backs up the perquisite because to get good you should be working positively and should never stop making improvements. This doesn't replace improvements.

Originally Posted by Basically Yes

One thing I'd like to point out (if I may) is that you can't just walk around the club like a dick-nibbler thinking you're the shit and if she doesn't like you she's a dumb bitch. You still have to continue to analyze yourself and always make sure you're improving and as you do, the positive reactions you get from people will be your proof that will help solidify the beliefs.

Otherwise you'll just come to the conclusion that this world is full of a bunch of dick-heads.

Agreed fully, however if you watch naturals they aren't dickheads, everybody seems to like them, yet they still have that belief of 'girls want me but I don't need them'.

Remember what DaHunter said -

Originally Posted by dahunter

I don't want to open anymore because I'm so validated. Don't take this to the extreme where you become a delusional bastard. Stay in reality and well grounded but come from this place, keep focusing on these beliefs and eventually you will master them so they become your reality. Keep doing the right action which is open, be super social talk to everybody and become a social connector

He's not saying be an unsocial fuck that thinks he is better than everyone, but by truly believing, by truly ingraining that belief of 'Everybody loves you and every girl wants you, if not they are being a fucking dickhead' will make you so much more cleaner inside. Not only that, but people will start to feel your un-neediness for validation or approval, and that's such an attractive quality to have.

Again like DaHunter said this is advanced so if you're new to this keep note of this article and come back to it in a few months.

-Daxx

Yes! This is the holy grail of game.

This is what makes it awesome to hang with these guys because we feed off each others beliefs and make them stronger. You definitely adapt to your surroundings and if you surround yourself with guys who DON'T have the right beliefs well guess what, you are going to find your own beliefs getting tainted to an extent by that.

In other words, my tip is to surround yourself with guys who share the same beliefs as you do (and make sure they are the right beliefs) and you'll notice that it's rocket fuel for your game.

Great post D, spot on.

- R

I love you guys. This shit if fucking legendary. What you believe EVENTUALLY becomes YOUR reality. Haha Priceless!

Daxx + Dahunter + Braddock = The Renaissance of Game

Awesome, awesome post.

Hard to integrate, but has startling effects when you do.

I was only thinking this the other day

Alot of the time, I just assume that they are already attracted to me, they just need a reason to act on it.

I just firmly believe it.

Its bad though, I some how manage to spin IODs into IOIs, like a girl that turns away from me, didnt turn away because she wernt attracted, she turnt away and giggle because she was embarrassed at how much she was attracted to me.