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Player haters are probably the worst part of ...
PLAYER HATED, list your player hated moment...
Player haters are probably the worst part of the game in my opinion but hey, most of them are loosers or afcs to begin with.
To start, I got player hated not by a female, but by good mates wich is kinda dissapointing, but i find it funny now, this is how it went down.
My freind calls me and tells me thers a party on and to be carefull of one chik, he told me she had herpes, this chik was pretty hot (9), but later that night i found out it was a lie, he told me that because he thought i banged a different girl a day, this was back in my afc days aswell. and the worst part is is that i didnt even talk to that chik.
I wanted to put tis down because being player hated isnt really a bad thing, people that hate never achieve but people that play do.
tell you player hater story...
You know what is really funny, guys hate players a lot more than girls do.
I've never really experienced a lot of hating, and generally when I do experience hating it's from people that I really don't like anyways, so I don't notice it.
of course they do....afc's dont know what they are doing wrong...i used to be like that too...I used to be jealous of all the guys getting all the girls....until i joined the community and realised it wasnt them...it was me...i had to fix myself....
Ive had a couple of experiences with girls...they do the usual...get the shites and say we dont respect women....so i explain how being a PUA is all about understanding women....if they cant think laterally and respect me for it....bye bye!
The usual thing I get from guys behind my back is "He is such a sleaze, he has a different girl every weekend".... Just their way of trying to pick up. Worse part....These are the guys who try to hang around me at clubs so they can pick off the meat of the women I don't close. Their vultures... But I find it funny. Don't worry what others say or do...In the long run...It usually helps you game or frame better.
i've been trying to get a very good friend of mine to understand why I'm getting into the community. He doesnt like it because he thinks its manipulative. Apparently he has no problem with manipulation, as long as you're not manipulating someone into bed. I think he used the specific term "mental rape". Its not like I'm going to stop being friends with him, I'll just stop talking about it with him and let him wonder what the fuck happened when I run tight game and he's still getting LJBFed.
stop accepting the idea that fucking a lot of girls and having them know about it is a bad thing. it is not a bad thing. you can flip it into a DHV quite easily. something i have done in the past is bring up the topic of dating, say that you date a lot, then say something like:
"the funny thing is, when you date a lot of different people, that everyone thinks that youre having sex, when really, its not like that. the way i date is to go out with new people and just have a really good time. sometimes "a really good time" is sex...then its a REALLY good time (lol) but mostly its just chatting and maybe some kissing...its nice."
if you want to blow the other guys out, add something like "some people just dont get it. they think dating is only about getting laid, and dont realise how much fun it is. imo thats just...immature. insecure, even."
then keep going with the conversation. youll have disarmed her, neutralised the cockblock, and demonstrated high value via preselection (thanks to your would be cockblocker ) ad high emotional/social intelligence/value.
another way to play it if youre comfortable with them knowing that you DO in fact have a lot of sex (ie if you are higher sexed and have the game to not fubar it up) then after saying that you date a lot say something like "really, i would give up all the week long relationships (if you could call them that) if i could find someone i clicked with well enough to have a long, normal relationship. i mean...its a lot of fun and my friends HATE me for it but really, sex is just sex unless you feel a deeper emotional connection with the person" - then continue the conversation
which will also disarm her because she will view you as not only preselected, but emotionally intelligent and actively screening other females for a higher purpose.
so long as you can get into rapport, you can diffuse any amount of slander, and potentially turn it to your advantage
all of this is field tested, by the way. standard practice for a few years now. slip it in early.
When i first told my best friend (female and pivot) she was pissed and felt i was disrespecting women and tricking them. Then i pointed out how she plays her own "game" with most guys when she first meets them. This fact together with her realising that the MM made sense, ensured she came around and is cool with it now. As i keep telling malibu, she just needs to learn how to become a proper pivot now!!
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