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I'm fairly new and learning the mystery method, but I've ...
Girls calling me a playa?
I'm fairly new and learning the mystery method, but I've noticed that a few girls are calling me a playa. Since i"m not yet getting laid and don't really look like a typical playa, I don't really consider myself a playa. WHy I think they are calling me a playa is because of the way I talk to the girls and other girls. I just really good at speaking with the girls and joking around.. so they must think if I'm that good I must be a playa.
But I realize that the girls do get scared of guys they consider a playa. As this is a good step in the right direction from how I used to be, its not getting me laid.
SO where am I fucking up? Am I doing too much A2 and not doing A3 properly? Am I not going into comfort soon enough? I"m sure some of you out there have this problem also of girls thinking you are a playa.. It seems that if you seem confident when speaking with girls they will automatically think your a playa, especially the 6 & 7's will think this.
SO what should I be working on to get me laid and not get labeled a playa??
getting labeled as a player is a good thing;
because youre in demand; and women want dudes that are in demand
and afc or a loser is the opposite of a playa
Players are players coz they get laid! If they didnt get laid they wouldnt be players! lol So yeah, being labelled a player is great!
"So what is it about players that you find attractive?"
"You can call me Dr. Pimp"
"Way to ruin the mood."
"And about how, did you come to this assumption?"
"Because you do not intimidate me? Because I can converse with women? I think you have some illusion that I should be phased by your presence, that i should be fumbling when around women. Surpass those dilusions. I'm not interested."
"Player? Oh, is this cause i'm not stuttering and acting neurotic around females, like in all those movies? Well, if you watch those movies you'll notice tha the guy is attracted to the girls he's talking to."
"Pshh. Get over your ego, doll."
My Name Is Vincent Chase.
dont try to play it off
let her know that you never cheat if youre in a relationship
and that youre single right now
DjSuperStar, that kind of response would be playing into her hoop in a big way and getting all defensive...its ok to go through her hoop a little way...like this:
"I don't think so, but I can understand why you would. A player looks at a woman and asks himself "what can she do for me?". I look at a woman and ask "What can I do to improve her life?""
Accept, reframe or ignore it examples here: " So what about a playa turns you on?" or "Thanks for noticing" then go back to another topic.
"you know, i read in a magazine that if a girl calls you a player, shes really thinking....oh. actually. shouldnt tell you that " ("what? what did the magazine saaaaaaay?")
"im not a player. i just like...variety lol"
its a good thing. roll with it