Sinn heard this and decided it was the best kiss close ever. I've been using it for years, but I guess it might be a good thing to get it out there. Cheers. If you see this: ___ it is a space for nonspecific illusionary input from her.
Normal kino escalation, back and forth.
The only testers I use prior to this will be the "Hug Test" and... uhh... smell beckoning... I'll write that first.
"One thing you don't know about me. I have an insane sense of smell. I am a little crazy when it comes to the way girls smell, and after 10 minutes talking to you, I need to find out if you and I can play nice together."
Girls will usually smile at that.
"Come here," I'll say, beckoning with an index finger. If this is done as an element of mid-to-late qualification they always will. If they don't, they're damned sure not going to kiss you.
Then, a few minutes later, I'll say, "Ugh. It's damned near impossible for me to sit here quietly and not kiss you."
They're almost always silent.
"Here's what we'll do. We'll almost kiss ___ We are going to get as close as possible without actually kissing___ Now this is a trust exercise as well as being fun as Hell. You are going to get as close as possible, but you are NOT ALLOWED TO KISS ME. And I am not allowed to kiss you. We're just not there yet___"
And you move in. And do exactly what you said to do. DO NOT KISS HER.
If you get any resistance from her, push her away, back turn and stack. Two minutes (or so) later, you say, "You really need to stop thinking about that almost-kiss until you are ready to do it, lady."
Once you DO almost kiss her, you can safely move in for another one by just saying you want it. ALWAYS BREAK IT AFTER TWO OR THREE SECONDS. It's weirdly intimate, so girls will break it after about four or five seconds. And since you're very close and not touching, it can be hard to predict. Trust me. Two or three seconds. After you do this about four times, a real kiss will be natural; many times, she'll even bring it up.
(x-posted from my blog)