Be a Risk-Taker

[wanderer]

Originally Posted by adamm411

The question is, do you think this type of behavior has helped you with women? Or not had a measurable impact, or had an adverse impact? Good info.

The illegal ones had positive impact on women during ages 17-23 because I was seen as a badboy type that didn't give a fuck about the rules and did what I wanted. I didn't grow out of it till 23-28 where it had a negative impact and I was just seen as irresponsible and immature so I cut the shit and stopped fucking around so much. The one example that tenmagnet gave was "You have a bad habit of being loud and abrasive in bad neighborhoods and seedy bars – you’re confident that if things went down, you could handle yourself". Yet that was me. But if you keep that up you WILL end up in fights and kicked out of the bar. And that can fuck up everyones nite. Huge DLV.

The other non-illegal risks will always have a positive impact. Taking chances while travelling, going to places you shouldn't be going to, thrill seeking activities such as rock climbing, mountaineering for example. Just saying fuck it and putting yourself out there. When you see someone bigger and stronger than you acting like a an asshole and making people uncomfortable, are you willing to step up and confront him? Career related risks apply here too. Risk=Excitement.

[Sabre_Tooth]

I haven't read every post in this thread, so apologies if I'm repeating...

Risk taking is good. It pushes your comfort zones and develops you as a person.

Tenmagnets original post IS a good one. BUT only if you have at least a very basic level of calibration. Frankly, if you read that post and think 'I need to go out and drive at 100 in a 20 zone to make women attracted to me', you have SERIOUS calibration problems.

Obviously there are caveats around risk taking. Like throwing yourself off a cliff.

I think too many people are waiting to be given exact instructions all the time on this board - this is not a technique based post, it's an attitude post, and you need to take the feeling conveyed in it into your day to day life, not some specific techniques.

Stop looking to be told what to do all the time and figure things out for yourselves.

[adamm411]

Sigh. I'll give it one last stab before giving up on this topic and letting it rest. Imagine a world where you don't have to try so hard and premeditate every thought and act for the future and potential audience of "targets." Your very presence in and of itself can be arousing. I found a few links from "toomeyboy" on fastseduction:

"The Alpha Male and Masculine Power"
http://www.takeninhand.com/node/248
a woman describes the effects of being around an alpha man

"Alpha Male Dominance"
http://www.takeninhand.com/node/344
about alpha men being calm and able to admit they are wrong

"Do you have a commanding presence?"
http://www.takeninhand.com/node/125
describing and developing a commanding presence

For me, I get tired of extending the "dancing primate (read: monkey)" mindset to the entirety of my life. It's bad enough I sometimes do this in conversation. We don't need rules on how to break rules, but don't filter your every act to gauge whether girls will think it's "hot" or not.

[MrEsquire]

Originally Posted by adamm411

Sigh. I'll give it one last stab before giving up on this topic and letting it rest. Imagine a world where you don't have to try so hard and premeditate every thought and act for the future and potential audience of "targets." Your very presence in and of itself can be arousing. I found a few links from "toomeyboy" on fastseduction:

"The Alpha Male and Masculine Power"
http://www.takeninhand.com/node/248
a woman describes the effects of being around an alpha man

"Alpha Male Dominance"
http://www.takeninhand.com/node/344
about alpha men being calm and able to admit they are wrong

"Do you have a commanding presence?"
http://www.takeninhand.com/node/125
describing and developing a commanding presence

For me, I get tired of extending the "dancing primate (read: monkey)" mindset to the entirety of my life. It's bad enough I sometimes do this in conversation. We don't need rules on how to break rules, but don't filter your every act to gauge whether girls will think it's "hot" or not.

Dude, come on, you have said this many, many times in this thread; it is starting to sound like you are just trying to convince yourself of something. Girls are not the reason for living a fun and intersting life and taking risks. They are a by-product of it.

You seem to be very caught-up on thinking that everyone is doing fun things and taking risks so we can go and impress women and use them as DHV stories. People are advocating and doing this stuff because it is FUN. These actions are not about women. Women find it attractive, but it is not done FOR them. You need to break down your beliefs on this subject and do some serious reframing.

[Sabre_Tooth]

Originally Posted by adamm411

For me, I get tired of extending the "dancing primate (read: monkey)" mindset to the entirety of my life. It's bad enough I sometimes do this in conversation. We don't need rules on how to break rules, but don't filter your every act to gauge whether girls will think it's "hot" or not.

Do you still run a routine based game?

If so, this dancing monkey feeling is not surprising.

Try dropping all routines and going totally natural. Then you're not trying to impress anyone, you're just being yourself.

Routines may be effective, but they are a bandaid over your real personality. Anyone who is still using routines after more than few months in the game is seriously selling themselves short.

You shouldn't be feeling like a dancing monkey all the time - you should just be being your natural, attractive self at all times, regardless of who is there. It's very draining if every time you see a hot girl you think 'right, gotta be cool, time to put on a show', and start acting all cool to impress her.

You don't need to worry about any of this shit any more. Let it go.