lap dance

[napule]

"well aren't you forward. ladies usually buy me a drink before they ask to sit in my lap..."

[BigSeanSDB]

Originally Posted by Kahuna Cowboy

If you really want to hold a meaningful conversation with a stripper don't go in on a Thursday, Friday, or Saturday night. These are the big money nights and they are busy. Daytime is much better, especially on a weekday. You won't get that as much of the "want a dance merry-go-round" and you can run better game because she will have more time to pay attention and talk.

As for a line, I have used "I'll hold off on that until I see you up on a stage to get a good look at what I am investing in."

I thought going to a strip club during a day would be considered a DLV...especially since it shows that you must not have areally active life or whatever if you have time to go to a strip club during the day

[stellar87]

you have a great point, that does show that you have no real life, and that your addicted to the strip club...maybe. but technically, we already kinda have shown a bit of a DLV cause of the fact that we are in a sense paying to see what may not get to see for free

[JLW]

Originally Posted by BigSeanSDB

I thought going to a strip club during a day would be considered a DLV...especially since it shows that you must not have areally active life or whatever if you have time to go to a strip club during the day

IMO, the act of going into a strip club at any time is usually considered a DLV by the strippers, especially if you go alone. Believe me, I've been in a lot of strip joints, and those girls are not there to get picked up. They are there to make as much money as possible.

If they see that you're not going to be a source of income for them (and they can size guys up VERY quickly) they won't be spending much time talking to you. And, if you act too aloof or don't tip or buy drinks, many strippers will think you are an asshole.

Strippers are used to being the prize at work. They know you're there to see hot, naked women. And they assume you're there because you can't get a hot, naked woman out in the real world. If you do go into a strip club, my advice is to go in with a group, preferably one that contains attractive women.

[BigSeanSDB]

That does sound like a great idea. Right now, I'm working on just having female friends but more preferably hot ones who are very open minded and more then willing to go to a strip club with me. I remember reading somewhere that the first thing you should upon entering into a strip club is buy a drink and tipping the bartender well. This is all word of mouth. The bartender will let the other strippers know that since you not only brought a drink but tip well, that means you're another chump who is literally can't wait to throw his money away.

I learn this the hard way. Because I didn't buy a drink, no strippers ever approached me for the longest time to even ask for a dance. Then again, it was one of those big type of strip clubs and so they had more than other dudes get their cash from. My only goal in terms of picking up a stripper is getting a free blowjob or fuck buddies...

[JLW]

I don't pretend to have any great pick up knowledge. I'm pretty new to trying to learn the game, but I do have a great deal of stripper knowledge. I've spent way too many hours in strip clubs, and I think I have a pretty good idea how strippers think.

Here are a few of my observations from my time in the strip clubs:

1. The vast majority of strippers are very screwed up and are not dating material. They're often into drugs. They usually have loser boyfriends or husbands. Many were molested as children and have trouble trusting men. Many are extremely self centered and borderline anti-social. And they are prone to being INCREDIBLY flaky.

2. A great many strippers come to actually dislike men after a few years of dancing. Guess what? She's not actually into you. In fact, she's making fun of you in the back with her friends.

3. Phone numbers mean absolutely NOTHING. Strippers give EVERYONE their phone number.

4. While you're tipping them and they're rubbing your face in their boobs, they're flirting with the guy behind you.

5. If you do "go out" with one, they will be texting and getting calls the entire time you're out. And every guy you see will know her from the club and want to talk to her.

6. If a girl recognizes you from a previous time you were in the club, you become a "regular" and basically lose any chance you ever had of getting in her pants.

7. It's all about the money. Most will take every penny of your money they can get. And they don't care if it leaves you broke. In fact, they'll laugh about that in the back with their friends too.

My advice? If you really want to bang a stripper, become a DJ or bouncer in a strip club. They get all the action.

[stellar87]

Originally Posted by JLW

I don't pretend to have any great pick up knowledge. I'm pretty new to trying to learn the game, but I do have a great deal of stripper knowledge. I've spent way too many hours in strip clubs, and I think I have a pretty good idea how strippers think.

Here are a few of my observations from my time in the strip clubs:

1. The vast majority of strippers are very screwed up and are not dating material. They're often into drugs. They usually have loser boyfriends or husbands. Many were molested as children and have trouble trusting men. Many are extremely self centered and borderline anti-social. And they are prone to being INCREDIBLY flaky.

2. A great many strippers come to actually dislike men after a few years of dancing. Guess what? She's not actually into you. In fact, she's making fun of you in the back with her friends.

3. Phone numbers mean absolutely NOTHING. Strippers give EVERYONE their phone number.

4. While you're tipping them and they're rubbing your face in their boobs, they're flirting with the guy behind you.

5. If you do "go out" with one, they will be texting and getting calls the entire time you're out. And every guy you see will know her from the club and want to talk to her.

6. If a girl recognizes you from a previous time you were in the club, you become a "regular" and basically lose any chance you ever had of getting in her pants.

7. It's all about the money. Most will take every penny of your money they can get. And they don't care if it leaves you broke. In fact, they'll laugh about that in the back with their friends too.

My advice? If you really want to bang a stripper, become a DJ or bouncer in a strip club. They get all the action.

very good advice, my dad was a bouncer and a bartender at a club and dated most the strippers, they bought him stuff as well. the number thing though, i can't agree there, it is hard enough to get a girls number that is working and isn't a stripper, but to get the number of a stripper, that is a new level of hard. just cause they remember you, doesn't mean it's a bad thing really, they have remembered me from a previous time, and actually acted really chill to me. they do that boob rubbing in the face thing to get you up there it is annoying but that is their job to tease men like that for the dough. final thing i don't think they would be on the phone or texting the whole time, if you got the game on them so tight, they will ignore it and give the guy that wants to talk for the most part the slip.

overall, you have great points, just some of that stuff, it can be beat out just be more crafty then them

[JLW]

Originally Posted by stellar87

very good advice, my dad was a bouncer and a bartender at a club and dated most the strippers, they bought him stuff as well. the number thing though, i can't agree there, it is hard enough to get a girls number that is working and isn't a stripper, but to get the number of a stripper, that is a new level of hard. just cause they remember you, doesn't mean it's a bad thing really, they have remembered me from a previous time, and actually acted really chill to me. they do that boob rubbing in the face thing to get you up there it is annoying but that is their job to tease men like that for the dough. final thing i don't think they would be on the phone or texting the whole time, if you got the game on them so tight, they will ignore it and give the guy that wants to talk for the most part the slip.

overall, you have great points, just some of that stuff, it can be beat out just be more crafty then them

Thanks for the reply. I've really got to respectfully disagree with you on the issues you raised though. Not to argue, but hear me out here. I've spent the last 10 years or so going into strip clubs on a fairly regular basis (talk about an AFC), and I can tell you it's ALL about the money. Everything that happens in the club is about the money. And that's the prizm you've got to view everything through. So you can't judge strippers' actions the same way you judge the actions of regular women.

For example the phone number issue. First of all, keep in mind, we're talking about cell phone numbers, not home phone numbers. I've gotten many, many strippers' cell phone numbers. It's incredibly easy. Just hand them your cell phone and tell them to punch in their number. Try it. The home phone number is more difficult. And my experience has been that it's really much more a business thing than a social thing anyway. They don't give you their number because they like you or are interested in going out with you. They give it to you because they are always looking to pick up another "regular".

You see, the thing is, once you get their number, you feel special. It enhances the illusion that you have a chance with her. And it makes it more likely that you will return to the club to see her (and spend all your money on her while you're there). The thing with strippers giving out their number is not about going out, it's about making you think they are interested in you so that you will continue to come into the club and give them all your money trying to get your "relationship" with them to the next level.

Yeah, you'll get her number. But guess what? Odd are, she'll never answer it when you call and she'll never return your calls. And if she does answer, she'll be too busy to go do anything with you. She'll talk about how she'd really like to, but just can't right now. But hey, you can come into the club and see her. Then, the next time you come into the club to see her, she'll tell you about how the phone's screwed up and how busy she's been and how she meant to call you, etc, etc, etc. But odds are, an actual date will never materialize. If she does agree to go somewhere with you, it might be for breakfast after she gets off work. Not really a date at all. And if you do actually get her to go on a real "date" with you (strippers will sometimes "go out" with their big spending regulars), don't assume that means anything. Odd are, it means nothing to her. It's just a way to prime the pump and keep the big spenders spending.

As far as girls being chill to you when they recognize you, of course they are. They see that you are a prospective "regular," and they want to make sure that, if you're going to come in regularly, your money goes to them and not another dancer.

First and foremost, you've got to keep in mind that you're not a prospective boyfriend to a stripper, you're a customer.

Just my .02, but I hope it helps someone out there get a little insight into how strippers think.

Peace.

[napjohn8]

dont get me wrong i like the fact of going to rippers for b-days in large groups. I respect the fact of guys getting strippers, i've never tried, its just the fact these woman do have alot of problems already thats y i find dealing with one is not the best idea. however it is an ultimate test of game to bag one.

[JLW]

Back to the original question, I have what I think is a pretty good reply to the lap dance request. I'll just pretend to misunderstand her and say "I can't give you a dance, I don't even work here." Then she will say something like "No, I'm going to give you the dance." And I will answer with "Oh, you want to give me a dance. That's good, cause I'm not even wearing my latex." By that time, you have her laughing and can either say no politely are use it to transition into another thread.