Mayson's Guide to Social Proof

[Mayson]

Social proof is pretty straightforward. Proof that you are social, that you have people in your life of value.

I have received many inquiries about this exact subject. How to not seem cocky or bragging, what stories to tell and basically miscellaneous “how do I project this” questions.

One important thing about social proof is that is it PERCEIVED. I tell people all the time that PERCEPTION is DECEPTION. The next time you walk into a high energy atmosphere, party, club, whatever...take a look around. A big part of being successful socially is being able to read social situations. You will be able to notice who is having a great time, who is surrounded by the core group(s) at the event, and also who is standing in the corner with a drink in their hand waiting for something to happen. People go to clubs and all want the same thing…. FUN!!!!!!! Where are you standing?

HOW TO GENERATE SOCIAL PROOF.

If you are trying to attract a woman in a club, you want to be noticed. You open a room every time you walk in with your presence and THIS is why it is vital that the first people you come into contact with you should open and meet. Every time you walk into a venue the first people you see you should walk right up to because this allows others to see you interacting right away and it gets you in the mode of being social.

You want to be noticed as someone approachable, having a good time, with a strong personality and as if you’re the center of attention. ACT AS IF you own the club. When you walk into a club, aside from the people you know and are with, who knows who you are? When you walk into a club, nobody knows who you are, what you drive, where you live, or anything else. The only thing they see is what you CHOOSE to show them. How did you dress (see style/fashion how-to), where did you go when you walked into the club? Who are you with and how are you all interacting together? All of these things provide your first and often most important image for the entire night.

Body language. Non-verbal communication. Facial expressions. Eye contact. GOLD. All of this stuff is so important. The reason these things are so important is because the sub communication is what women are looking for. What you say has so little to do with how you act and women will test your social proof with your sub communication for any inconsistency. In a loud atmosphere it’s very difficult to hold a serious conversation about much of anything, so your skill set must shift elsewhere. Non-verbal communication is not only a large aspect of social proof, but also life in general. The way that I will generate social proof is through a series of steps.

1)I will do a walk through making sure to say hi to people SMILING as I greet them
2)I buy a drink and open a set there
3)I cheers people as I walk to the dance floor
4)I pull some people on the dance floor and being my dance floor game
5)I place my back to the stage and take out the camera and tell the stage dancers to take a picture of me with some people on the floor
6)I tell her we can take one now too

This shows the rest of the people in the club that I know the dancers and builds further social proof. From there you have a huge spike in social proof and you can use that momentum to carry other sets as you being to merge people together by introducing people that you have met.

Social proof is 100% essential to get the highest quality girls in a club. When you see a girl you process your value compared to hers and she goes the EXACT same. This method of social proofing causes a spike in her interest in you and allows you an opening. Social proof will not get you laid alone… It is NOT a magic pill BUT… It causes interest and value and if you combine that with congruent attraction you have a formula for GREAT success. Always remember being attracting to women is something you are not something you do.