First attempt at building college social circle, advice please!

[Glenn47]

So I am transferring colleges soon, and my female HB9 coworker is going to the same college as me. I was recently invited on a trip to visit the town with another girl going to our college, and two additional women to befriend. I am attempting to create an ideal situation for next year by starting this first impression of me with two hot girls right by my side. In writing and in my head, it sounds ideal.

I went on the trip, and got along with everyone well. Attracted one of the girls to the point of heavy flirting, and the other girl I met loved me. And of course my HB9 coworker pumped my DHV's into the group so I barely had to try. We are planning on taking a second trip in a few weeks, and inviting a new guy to the equation (who will be coming to my school as well, so another person I want to befriend.) Everyone loved me, and are apparently talking about me a lot. Life is good right?

The problem lies in my coworker, the HB9 who I'm attempting to place as a connector. (Quick sidenote - I'm giving her value by taking her to the gym to help her exercise properly, and I'm pretty sure SHE uses ME as a DHV with her friends and other guys.) Anyway, as I become more able to "see the matrix" of social interactions I am noticing that she speaks very dominantly to everyone. "You should blah blah blah!" to her friends, and to me, "Call me when you wake up." and a more specific example in a text. "So gym today. But not till later. And then if I can get that money bc i am gonna need gas again." At the same time though, everyone in the group teases her because she's pretty dumb.

She obviously has no clue that she's subconsciously attempting to dominate my frame. And with her friends always teasing her I feel like they are subconsciously resisting her leadership as well. But I'm getting a dominance vibe. And she's such a good connector for my new school right now that I want to get this taken care of! How do I establish my dominance?

[Glenn47]

By nobody responding, I was forced to work this out on my own. One day she said she was going to come lifting with me, then when I asked if she was coming, she said she was out of town at a restaurant. By the time she got to the gym, I had just finished lifting with my friends. She apologized, and I said "That's okay. But now I'm not inviting you to come anymore." My tone was not angry at all, but more matter-of-factly, as if you were saying to a kid "Now we're not going to McDonalds" when they are misbehaving. She immediately ran to catch up with me and gave me a huge laughing hug.

Since then, things have been slowly improving with who controls the frame. When it was finally bad one more time, I said "Haha jeez...you know it's funny, whenever you ask me things it seems like you're TELLING me what to do. Like 'We are going to lift tomorrow' and 'You should definitely call me.' From now on I'm not responding to anything without a please in it! ." Since the only other people around were my friends on my side, she had to take what I said as a lighthearted truth. Ever since, she says things like, "Are you going to the gym today? Cool, can I come?"

Thank you all for your silence! I learned something!