girl with non-serious bf

[Phateless]

i'll try to make this short. i have no problem getting other girls but i've been hanging out with this one a lot as friends and i'm getting ready to make a power play.

i've known her for years, she's my ex's best friend. my ex has another bf (over a year) so that's no issue.
the girl i like was dating this guy casually, and nobody knew about it, (even me) not even her other best friend, it came out randomly about a month ago. she even said "it's nothing serious." but she did assert she was his gf, which makes me think she doesn't date multiple people at once.

since then, dude has moved out of town but he comes back every other weekend. i was thinking of doing some small gesture for v-day, such as a single red rose and a card on the doorstep (still open to other ideas) but i discovered that the dude will be in town this weekend.

she gives mixed signals as far as if she's down for more. i decided it's time to just go for it and if it doesn't fly, i'll figure it out from there.

sooo... should i avoid being with them at the same time or should I attempt to AMOG the fuck out of him. what's the best way to go about this? they're both master level salsa dancers so i'm at a bit of a disadvantage.

Don't worry guys, I'm still playing the field. I went on a date friday night and made out with the girl (told the girl in question i was hanging out with a friend) and the other day i pulled a girl on the freeway just by winking and smiling at her. Oh, and today a girl from one of my classes pulled me.

Ideas?

[silversixone]

Like most guys, her BF is about to fuck this up. Your job is to ignore her and go bang those other women you mentioned. She's claiming to be someone's GF, so tomorrow, she has to back it up by having a man who gives her exactly what she wants. She has no clue what this is, and there's at least a 90% chance that he has no clue either.

Make your move on Feb 15. On that day, every woman is the world is either utterly in love with her man, utterly pissed at him/looking to replace his sorry ass, or utterly convinced that she'll die alone and her body will be eaten by her many cats.

Fish in a barrel, my man, fish in a barrel. Check out Craigslist on 15 FEB if you don't believe me.


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[Phateless]

Originally Posted by silversixone

Like most guys, her BF is about to fuck this up. Your job is to ignore her and go bang those other women you mentioned. She's claiming to be someone's GF, so tomorrow, she has to back it up by having a man who gives her exactly what she wants. She has no clue what this is, and there's at least a 90% chance that he has no clue either.

Make your move on Feb 15. On that day, every woman is the world is either utterly in love with her man, utterly pissed at him/looking to replace his sorry ass, or utterly convinced that she'll die alone and her body will be eaten by her many cats.

Fish in a barrel, my man, fish in a barrel. Check out Craigslist on 15 FEB if you don't believe me.


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YOU, my friend, are a fucking GENIUS!!!! I was all nervous right now trying to figure out what I should do tonight/tomorrow... I wanted to leave a rose on her doorstep tonight. This dude doesn't get into town until friday (i think?) so you say I just wait and let her realize that he's not gonna do shit for her, then swoop in and pick up the pieces?

They were very non-serious all along, and I don't think he sees her outside of coming back into this area every other week to teach salsa lessons. Knowing this guy I'd bet my left nut that he's seeing other girls. Since he moved, I'm doubting that they're still "together" and even so, I kinda doubt they ever had that conversation. I almost get the feeling she just assumed that they were bf/gf in the first place.

Last question - does me knowing that she was dating him affect my chances with her?

[silversixone]

Originally Posted by Phateless

...you say I just wait and let her realize that he's not gonna do shit for her, then swoop in and pick up the pieces?

Your first post said it was time for a power play. That should be to chase other women while letting her learn firsthand why nearly all long-distance relationships fail. He may blow it on 2/14, or it may take a few more weeks. But it's coming one way or another, so just give him enough rope to hang himself. Until then, avoid an AFC move like the rose-on-the-doorstep thing. She needs to know you were NOT thinking about her on 2/14 because you were "out with friends."

Knowing this guy I'd bet my left nut that he's seeing other girls.

I'd bet your left nut that she knows it, too. That's why she's trying to string you along.

does me knowing that she was dating him affect my chances with her?

No.


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