Dealing with Negative Comments.

[Celdasucks213]

I have had a huge problem when dealing with people in my Social Circle that puts you down in front of your peers or women. When someone says something negative about you in front of women your trying to game, what should be done?? If you ignore the comment and change the subject, doen't it lower your value in front of HB your tryin' to game. Or, if you feed in to the negative comment and try to make fun of em' in retaliation...doen't that lower your value in her eyes also. In my game I come off as jokester and playful but I don't attack anyone. When someone says something negative toward me I stay quiet and just walk away. Everytime that happens I feel the power leaving me and the person get boosted when the Circle erupts in laughter, yikes!!

Friend: Yo, why do you look like that???
Me: What?
Friend: You look retarded right now!
Me: heh.....
(laughing occurs)

[TrueStory]

Get new friends.

[L Duke]

Get new friends.

ditto.

[Celdasucks213]

What can I say to disengage that without making a big scene. Getting new friends doesn't solve the problem. There's always going to be someone that says a smart comment that might lower your status. Should

[Local Celebrity]

I would just blow it up in their face, if there's a chick around and they say something like that. Just go, come on man, quit trying to impress (girls name).

[logic10]

You should read up on "Inner Game." Once you get it down, you'll be comfortable and have your own reality. Anything negative thrown at you, won't affect you.

Example: Halloween party, I met this HB8. I over-negged her cuz I didn't give a shit. She looks at me and says, "I'm outta your league..." My reply was simply "LOL! You like this shit!" Long story short, I told her she could be my gf for 5 minutes...we walk around meeting people for a bit..etc.

Just know your identity and even your friends will get sucked in.

[L Duke]

whiling gaming and a guy consistently says something negative to you you could

1) ignore him and move elsewhere in the venue with HB

2) You could say "dude, its a party(or where ever you are) go talk to someone else stop sticking to me im not gay" or something like that.

[TrueStory]

Originally Posted by TrueStory

Get new friends.

I SAID THAT not to run away from your problems but to have opportunity to start from scratch.

Here is the deal:

Your OLD friends know who you are. They used to OLD you. And every time you try to change they will subconsciously and consciously will try to push you back into frame of you they are used to. That's normal. People don't like changes. For example, notice sometimes people say "God, Josh became such an asshole... I don't want to talk to him anymore!" Guess what, Josh didn't become an asshole. He just changed his frame and stopped letting his old friends tell him what to do. And Josh probably has new friends too.

Another example. You try to wear something cool with a peacock. Your friends will find that incongruent with what they know you are. So they will try to make you feel insecure about it (in a way it's their shit test to test if you really are this new person or not). They probably don't like new you. At all.

Let me take another guess here, your friends probably picked on you all your life. They probably teased you and you were a convenient scapegoat of all the practical jokes? Am I right here? You were that guy everyone laughed at and said "oh man we're just messing with ya!"



Sometimes, when you're trying to start a new lifestyle, you want to change your environment. It's like a fatass, who was fatass all his life, probably has fat ass friends. Well one day, he decided to lose weight and get in shape, but his fat ass friends, kept 'messing' with him, so he gave up.

If you want to practice pickup, you need to do following:

- Find a lair in your area
- Search through PAIR on fastseduction.com
- Find other guys who're studying PUAs

Get to know them.

Stop hanging out with your OLD friends for WHILE.

[ware_ru]

search for an old post of mine titled something like "comments from the peanut gallery"

[TrueStory]

Frame control strategies against the peanut gallery - observations from social circle

he is talking about this thread.