Tug of war - The Attraction Forums

nuuro · #1 (**permalink**) 09-23-2007, 10:28 PM

Theres a freshman girl in my university who I've built up a fair amount of attraction with, and whenever I see her its usually light - teasing and busting on her etc, heavy kino - tickling, picking her up etc but her and I tend to get into a lot of tug of war battles with her, she's kind of a "princess." If I'm at the party she's at and try to leave to another one she'll physically try and stop me from going and fail or if we're up late she'll try and get me to meet up with her but tries to get me to walk to her hall instead of coming to mine, stuff like that. I'm not sure if I should respond to these as shit tests or not. I missed out on an opportunity for full isolation and hopefully a close of some sort tonight because I refused to go walk over and see her...Any ideas on how to deal with this?

TrueStory · #2 (**permalink**) 09-23-2007, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by nuuro

I'm not sure if I should respond to these as shit tests or not. I missed out on an opportunity for full isolation and hopefully a close of some sort tonight because I refused to go walk over and see her...Any ideas on how to deal with this?

Why do guys have tendency to make their lives difficult?

Sometimes not everything is a shit test....and sometimes her saying "come over" is actually a invitation to fuck!?!?!

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forget this girl. Start gaming other chicks. The answer will come to you, when you stop thinking about her.

Urban Legend · #3 (**permalink**) 09-23-2007, 11:35 PM

We have some deep psychological issues at hand here, "tries to get you to walk to her hall." If that doesnt ring bells i dunno what will. This girl appears into you, she probably stops short to give you a chance to make a move. The problem now is that you might have missed the window of opportunity, so ur prolly stepping in shyt. Allow some time to pass and reinstate yourself. Of course the strategy will have to be adjusted.

Although True Vision is less optimistic about this one...you could take another stab at her in the not so distant future, but fill in the gap with other chicks...u might not even wanna go bac after that

UL

nuuro · #4 (**permalink**) 09-24-2007, 12:53 AM

Its also partly an inner game issue, I'm really nervous about escalating simply because she's in my social circle and if I fuck up or make her uncomfortable, my reputation is fucked. and its pretty bad, i'm at a small school with a very "clique-ish" atmosphere, there's a huge indian community and word gets around real quick.