Trying to show higher value

[Flash_hound]

Ok, so basically this is my issue.

I have been in the same social circle for YEARS and the people in the circle knew me when i was an awkward little kid. So basically since then I have changed a lot but my value hasn't gone with my change, so although I'm a lot more alpha I don't know how to show it because my value is still so low. Every time I introduce my group of friends to another group or person my value is systematically lowered.

So does anyone have any advice for how to fix this vicious cycle and give myself higher value? Right now I'm close to just ditching my old friends and making new ones because I'm sick of this value lowering shit. On the other hand they have been my friends for so long, I really don't want to lose them... And they will continue to be in my life whether or not we are "friends".

Thanks a lot.
-Flash

[sdnightfly]

A. You're not a kid anymore. Any potentially damaging stories you need to be the one bringing them up so your friends don't.

B. I've had friends from all walks of life, and I can tell you from experience that when you bring the different "groups" together they either hit it off great or arguments and fights break out, you're taking chances opening your social circles... this usually happens at weddings or if you're feeling up to having a huge party.

C. Why are you feeling lowered? If the people you call your "friends" are saying things to devalue you in front of others, you wonder if they're true friends or not.

I cut loose a lot of high school friends only because of distance, but I have noticed when people stay friends from high school into adulthood, once someone in the group winds up in an LTR and gets married, if that friend is still single, it's rare that the friendship will continue if the single friend doesn't like your fiance/wife.

Things change in life, and it's good if you make changes... if they are preventing you from making changes that you feel will benefit you, you need to look out for yourself and see if that friendship is really worth it. And if you move, it'll be great to see them but you will notice that they won't be acting the same way around you.

[TrueStory]

Read this:
10 Tips to building Social Circle

and this
Dealing With Social Circle Perceptions When You Change From AFC to PUA


then read link in my signature.