Perception checking.

[cannon111]

Given that MM is an indirect method, is it a bad thing that girls sometimes percieve me as "a flirt?" Am I wrong or should they not take anything I do as flirting at all?

I've been getting reports from a couple of my guy friends, two guys that I actually trust, saying that 3 or 4 girls have mentioned that I'm really flirtatious. One said that I 'took things to mean more than they did."

I guess this could be them trying to find out whether I actually like them or not, you know, hoping for either a "Yeah, don't take it like that, he just flirts with everyone," or a "Well he probably does that because he really likes you," from one of my friends.

I know at least one of them is interested bc she was also asking "Why doesn't he talk to me anymore?"

But I still want to know if any of you guys think this is a good (practically good) image to have going for me or whether it's just going to push girls away when my reputation precedes me.

Thanks

[AshleyL]

If a girl is saying that you're "Taking things for more than the mean" that is a HUGE red flag that you're actually reading into things way too far and think that they mean something about you, your skills, and your "game" when they do NOT.

It's one thing to be flirtatious, but it's another to think that EVERYTHING women say has something to do with you. I know guys like that-- 1) it's not attractive and 2) I really don't want to talk to them after them acting like that all the time.

[cannon111]

Thanks. It's good to hear a female perspective rather than the opinion of some dude who doesn't even listen to girls."

So then what do you think of Zan's "I take everythink a girl says to me as an IOI." ?