This is in response to an email someone sent me - I spend some time writing it out, and thought I should share it, as it was the theme I tried to emphasize the most when I worked for MM:
Through-out a whole pickup, you should be trying to increase the amount of compliance a girl is giving you. The smallest amount of compliance we tend to talk about is the girl paying attention to you, where the largest we deal with is sex. There are all sorts of different compliance, and all sorts of different levels, but in general, anything that the girl wouldn't do if you had no value at all to her is some form of compliance.
Agreeing to walk home in the wrong direction with you is a fairly large piece of compliance
We call these moments when you ask a girl to give you compliance a "compliance test".
Whether or not a girl will comply with you is a pretty complex formula! Some major areas to consider are:
- Your value relative to hers
- How 'easy' she'll feel/appear if she complies<
- How horny she feels
- Compliance momentum / her 'buying temperature'
- How much compliance you're asking for ("what time is it?" is tiny - "fancy anal?" is pretty big...)
(astute readers will start to notice interesting things from this list ... when you open a very hot girl in a bar, your value relative to hers is likely to be pretty low - so you ask her for a tiny bit of compliance (neutral-rapport opener, false time constraint, body language) while trying to display as much value as possible (peacocking, social proof, etc) - this is getting off-topic!
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OK, so back to your example. You've asked her earlier when your value was high and she was horny/had a high buying temperature to make a fairly large compliance step. She complies. Excellent!
You then come back a little later, once you've not been with her for a while, once you've got some competition, once you've lost some momentum, and in front of a third party (think: looking/feeling easy) to take a big compliance test.
She defies (as opposed to complies).
Now ideally you don't want to get in to a situation where a girl is defying you (ideally, you'd have gone, regamed her, blown him out, got her complying to small stuff again, investing again (kissing is perfect for this!), and then tried to extract) but if you do:
- IOD her (neg or punish some how)
- DHV (do something fun, spontaneous, run a routine, get caveman on her, whatever)
- Repeat the compliance test (or a smaller one!)
This is micro-calibration at work...
-sheriff
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