major performance anxiety - The Attraction Forums

heyduh · #1 (**permalink**) 06-25-2008, 04:20 AM

i think it is because i was SO into her. met a girl a week ago, nice day1, day2 and spontaneous call after work on tuesday ends up day3 @ her place. making out, get the usual LMR but plough through. and then .. i can't get it up. seriously major performance anxiety ..

there was a lot of comfort, she hasn't had sex in 6 months and not had many partners at all (she is 27, from a conservative asian country)

i gave her a finger orgasm, stayed over, cuddled through the night, DIDN't even get my usual raging morning hard on. fuck, i'm 33

through the night she was framing herself as looking for something casual .. which i think was a downer for me since i dig her more.

anyway. what can i say/do? morning was kind of awkward, had to leave early to get home and to work .. but i'd like to meet her again. ADVICE

Diddy1 · #2 (**permalink**) 06-25-2008, 03:11 PM

plow through... first time with someone new is always awkward for me

it gets better everytime you will have sex with her for the next while... just make sure you keep getting her off and she is happy...

BigDuke6 · #3 (**permalink**) 06-25-2008, 03:22 PM

Stroke some off thinking about her. Make the images big and vivid and positive. Get it into your subconscious that you've already gotten it up.

kicknitinkc · #4 (**permalink**) 06-25-2008, 05:13 PM

I've had this happen to me 4-5 years ago with this HB I thought at the time was a 10. She was smokin hot and I was so damn worried about pleasing her that I didn't even think about how good it felt for me. She got on top, I got nervous, and couldn't get hard. It ruined the moment because she thought it was her fault. I eventually got hard and tore it up but that was the one and only time I got to fuck her.

(tear) So what helps me, is to just think about how good that pussy is going to feel. Focus on what you feel 25% more than everything else during sex. Another thing I did that helped that I got from Ross Jeffries' Unstoppable Confidence Audio Cd's: In your mind, replay that movie in 3rd person, of you fucking up with that chick but this time do what you really wanted to do. See/feel/hear yourself doing it right. After you do this maybe a couple times, it seems like you never fucked up in the first place. It erases those bad memories and emotions tied to them, pretty much reprogramming yourself.