 The proper response to this question is not one answer.
Sorry Gentlemen, I had to bring up an old post in this one, but my lair back home brought up this same question and I have to say it really showed me something genuine about people and developing game.
We begin with a desire to seek more, we begin experiencing success and we push further, we reach the point we desired, then we have to ask the question of whether not to evolve beyond what a simple "pick-up" is.
For everyone who's posted on this thread, tell me what you think of this response...
Basically, every response here (like the one's I'd used) are weak, frame-less lines that are canned and played out, while many girls may not have heard them, you're response will in no way improve their perception of you.
Lets open our eyes to look at this in regard to your frame and your journey in the pick-up evolution. At this point, I'm assuming you're at the point where you've been with women in the double digits, and an honest response to this would probably place you in the "man whore" realm for her, because she is, comparatively not nearly as experienced.
Basically what she's saying to you is that:
1. She's thinking of sleeping with you.
2. She thinks you're a player, i.e. you're giving off the player vibe.
3. She is inexperienced, and wants to know if you are.
4. She is very experienced, and wants to know if you're not.
5. She wants to be sure you are clean before she sleeps with you.
6. She's still in high school.
(This list comes from one known as Hawk)
So now you're looking at why she's asking this question, which tells you a great deal about how she views herself in comparison to you, and your overall identity. You have presented this girl with an image of yourself and a frame that she will inevitably challenge. Unless you maintain this frame and continue your smooth and congruent image, she will recognize a lack of consistency and therefore develop further doubts about you.
I'd also like to note, the fact that she is even asking this question at all has proven a flaw in your game. This has shown that you've made three critical errors
1. You didn't build enough comfort. She is still assuming that your primary intention is to sleep with her, not to develop a relationship
2. (along with #1) You didn't disqualify her enough, she should feel like she's getting the opportunity to have sex with such a prized male, that this is something she has earned, and shit-testing you about your history would only hurt your likelihood of accepting her.
3. She still sees your relationship having "key parts" or "phases" in the perfect pickup all the emotions will be so intertwined that she will not discriminate between the levels of intimacy. She should be so involved in the interaction that this thought never crosses her mind.
Lastly, if the relationship has gotten to a point where frequent sexual contact has become so regular that out of nothing but the sheer lack of her own intellectual ability, she decides to fill time and ask "how many people have you slept with?" You should throw it down like this.
"I break it into stages. Depending on where i am in the interaction.
my usual response to that question is to look at her and be like,
(I rarely get asked this outside the bedroom. If i do, i usually joke around and blow it off if in a group setting). If alone, i work through these as needed...
Stage 1: "did you seriously just ask me that?"... and completely close off. If she insists or won't shake the topic then i move onto the response below...
Stage 2: "I don't assign or view women as numbers... that is bullshit babe. I only sleep with women i care about and those are few and far between."
Stage 3: "I'm not about moving through women... i'm about making real connections with people that enhance my life. If i start to associate numbers to women i feel like im standing in line at the deli...and i'm not shopping for meat, am I?"
Stage 4:
"When you ask me that question it makes me think that you...
(choose one)
a. are used to guys fucking and running
b. are coming from a place of fear
c. deal with a lot of immature guys
d. have low self-esteem, which i didn't think you did, so thats strange you ask me.
...lets cut that and not even associate ourselves with this. There comes a time when people stop worrying about where people have been and start focusing on where they are going in life...and i know that you want to look forward with me and connect with my intentions rather than move backwards to what really doesn't matter anymore...."
(Credit given to an mPUA going by ~Flo)
I think that about summarizes the proper response to this question. If it doesn't make sense, cool, and for those who understand what this is really means, good.
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