Should I mention casual relationship before f-close? - The Attraction Forums

Alpo · #1 (**permalink**) 04-13-2008, 12:35 AM

Hey guys,

I've got this 30 yr old HB on my hands (im 21), she seems reeeaally excited to be with me, and not to stereotype, but at that age ppl are generally trying to settle into LTRs.

I'm closing in on the seduction stage and I need to know: should I bring up the fact that I want a casual relationship b4 the f-close?

NumbaOneDesi · #2 (**permalink**) 04-13-2008, 09:40 AM

Unless you're rich on your own, I doubt she is in this for the long term.

Alpo · #3 (**permalink**) 04-13-2008, 01:28 PM

Because that's exactly what PU is all about lol.. good one

TrueStory · #4 (**permalink**) 04-13-2008, 04:52 PM

answer is no.

she's older woman she knows what's she's getting into.

trust me.

30+ women don't marry 21+ guys.

sdnightfly · #5 (**permalink**) 04-22-2008, 01:50 AM

Actually women will put out more if they're trying to get an LTR ASAP.

I don't think you need to bring up anything about an LTR unless she starts bringing it up, or you say "I love you" by accident or because the sex is so mindblowing it makes you say silly things like that.

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Originally Posted by Alpo

Hey guys,

I've got this 30 yr old HB on my hands (im 21), she seems reeeaally excited to be with me, and not to stereotype, but at that age ppl are generally trying to settle into LTRs.

I'm closing in on the seduction stage and I need to know: should I bring up the fact that I want a casual relationship b4 the f-close?

FemmeFatale · #6 (**permalink**) 04-28-2008, 07:18 PM

Older women dont date younger men for relationships.. they date them for sex only (and other psychological benefits that come with having a young guy interested in you). If you mention relationships or commitment you might put her off because she might feel bad about leading you on.

EZ2NV · #7 (**permalink**) 05-04-2008, 11:08 PM

I hate to claim a hasty generalization, but to say that 30+ women don't marry 21 year olds is a lie. I'm 22, and currently in a very serious relationship with a 30 year old. AND, her roommate (she's a PhD student) is 31 married to a 22 year old. It's very possible.

sdnightfly · #8 (**permalink**) 05-07-2008, 01:08 AM

You'd be surprised. It's a lot more common than you think, and there's more to it than sex. If it's meeting your criteria in what you're looking for, it's going to be a good match. There can be a novelty aspect to it, but that can run its course.

Relationships might be okay, but commitment's another story.

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Originally Posted by FemmeFatale

Older women dont date younger men for relationships.. they date them for sex only (and other psychological benefits that come with having a young guy interested in you). If you mention relationships or commitment you might put her off because she might feel bad about leading you on.

Alpo · #9 (**permalink**) 05-07-2008, 01:29 AM

So I hung out with her and got her into bed, and at that point the answer became obvious. There were two options.

1) If i just wanted a shot a fucking her:

No, definitely dont mention it. She was aware that sleeping with someone is part of getting to know them and she would have been more than happy to do it if it naturally progressed that way

2) If I had the feeling she was getting emotionally invested and i didn't want to hurt her:

Yes! making intentions known before it is too late is one of the most repectable things you can do from a girls perspective. Infact she was so impressed by my morals she phoned me the next week to set up a casual sex date.

HB: "you only live once"