Wierd LMR, need pro advice

[elli]

So babe, let's say 7.5, cool chick. We met up at a party a couple weeks ago and did the texting thing for a bit, we end up hanging out tonight (its a sober night for a reason) and i have her meet me at a local wing place during trivia night where i'm with my friends. i'm bustin her chops and we're laughin up a storm, we end up bouncing to like 4 different places... its good. As the night progresses a little kino, we start making out on my buddy's porch. Comes time to leave she pulls up to my apartment, but in a way where she's not parked so i'm like "oh its like that, i see" and i just turn my head away. She's like "what do you want??" with that 'i'm not playing stupid very well' smile. So eventually i'm like "park this damn car" and we roll in. We start wrestling around and things pick up slow, but steady, warmer, warmer, warmer. She says "you're not getting laid tonight" i say "i'm indifferent" like whatever, i'm getting laid tomorrow anyway so it was legit indifference. so we keep going, it goes from kissing to neck biting and hair pulling yadda yadda, she's getting into it and every time she responds heavily she's like "omg i gotta go home" so i'm sayin "alright then, if that's what you really want"... i know, i'm smooth... so this continues for like 40 minutes. "ok, go home then" and she'd just lean in and keep kissing me or not move off my lap and just grin. I end up taking her shirt off like 3 times cuz she kinda puts it back on but comes back over to me. So it gets hot enough to where she's like "i need to go home now or i'm going to have sex with you" i'm all "oh no, not that" but then she FINALLY LEAVES, which at this point i'm almost bored anyway.

Like i've seen resistance, and i've seen omgiwanttohavesexwithyounow, but not in combination like this. I figured me pushing or saying "let's just do it" would blow the whole thing... but i figure i just didn't set myself up properly. Lay real knowledge on me teacher(s), the student is ready.

[silversixone]

Sounds like you did pretty well, but maybe it was her period. Few women put out the first time in that case.

In any case, it sounds like she was attracted but needed more reassurance and comfort. Your attitude should say, "We're going to fuck sometime. Maybe not tonight, maybe not next week. I'm enjoying lying here with you right now, and I don't want to rush things." But if she's around your age, you may have to actually say those things.


Silver

[TrueStory]

Originally Posted by elli

I end up taking her shirt off like 3 times cuz she kinda puts it back on but comes back over to me. So it gets hot enough to where she's like "i need to go home now or i'm going to have sex with you" i'm all "oh no, not that" but then she FINALLY LEAVES, which at this point i'm almost bored anyway.

That shirt on and off shit really kills the mood.

Also, don't acknowledge anything about sex. Don't engage her logical mind.

HER: "you're not gettin laid tonight"
YOU: "who said you are?"

HER: "I need to go home or i am going to have sex with you"
YOU: (don't even acknowledge that) "shuttup and kiss me..."

Tackle her on the couch, escalate. You keep tooling around with all that;

Unless she says "NO! STOP!" (and you know when she means it) Escalate business-as-usual.

Take it slow, get her turned on more.... make her feel comfortable. IF you take it slow but constantly escalating (upping the ante), she will know that you're not rushing into sex. You're having good time.

Fuck her next time time you see her.

[elli]

Awesome point with the period remark, i never thought of that, but i did physically touch her a little just to tease her and there were... no... strings...
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Originally Posted by TrueStory

Fuck her next time time you see her.

like duh, man.

and that's exactly what i said, i flipped it, i said i was indifferent but like a minute later i was like "wait... what? YOU'RE not getting laid tonight."

but the shirt on and off thing was because she kept being stupid about it and playing that "i'm leaving" game for an hour, i just stood there like "ok, whenever you're ready to leave"

there was tons of tackling, she fuckin loved all of it "you're so violent" me "oh yeah?" she "its not a bad thing" sorta thing

like i've run into lack of comfort lmr before, but this was almost nothing like any of the other lmr i've ever gotten... but that "don't engage her logical mind" thank you for reminding me about that.

[OdinUSMC]

I like what you did there man. It seemed like you had it and she was just not going to have sex with you. Sometimes it's out of your control...like she's on the rag or forgot to shave or some shit. If I were you I would focus on a lot more comfort...especially now that you don;t want it to be akward.

I would invite her on a date that almost guaranty's you don't get laid. Like a lunch/mall trip. A couple hours of cute cuddly kino bullshit then bring in the guns next date.

[elli]

yeah just to FYI i had sex with her the next day.

thanks for the info, but you're welcome to keep it coming